Sihlala sijamelana nexesha elingakanani xa umntwana okanye umntu omdala ehlaziya amahlazo, okanye xa umntu ekhala. Ezi zihlandlo zihlala zingathandeki, zombini umntu ogulayo kunye nabo bazingqongileyo. Cinga indlela yokubonelela ngoncedo lwengqondo, indlela yokunceda ngabahlaziyi kunye nokukhala kumntu ochaphazelekayo uxinzelelo.
Indlela yokunceda u-prieysterike
Iingqungquthela yinto evuyisayo yintliziyo, ebonakalayo ngokunyuka kwamanye amaxesha (ngamanye amaxesha nangomsebenzi wesiganeko kunye nokunyameka), kunye nentetho yomzwelo, ukukhala, iinyembezi. I-hysteria ibonakala ngokuphawulekayo kubantu abakhayo, abanobuchule. Kwakhona kubonakala kubantwana, ngenxa yokuba bengaphathi ukulawula isimo sabo sengqondo, kunye neminqweno. Makhe siqwalasele indlela yokunceda umntu onamahlazo.
- Ukusuka kwigumbi ukususa abantu abangaziwa, udale indawo enokuthula. Kwakhona, khusela indawo yakho kufuphi nomntu "ogobile" abahlaziyi. Phuma ukusondela, susa zonke izinto ezibukhali: imimese, iifoloko, iifayile, njl njl.
- Ukuphazamiseka, owangena kwiingqungquthela, inyathelo elingalindelekanga - ukunyuka kwifestile, ukubetha izandla zakho, uphonsa isihlalo. Abanye abantu be-psychotherapists bacebise ukuba baxhamle, kodwa sikholelwa ukuba le ndlela yodwa yecansi ye-muzhsky iyasebenza. Ibhinqa efana nale ndlela iya kuhlambalaza.
- Faka isicelo se "Isibuko saseTshayina" -phinda onke amanqulelo omntu, ukwakha i-grimaces eyahlukeneyo, ubonise indlela ekubukeka ngayo kakubi ngoku. Ixhoba lisoloko liqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba liziphatha ngendlela ephathekayo, kwaye, mhlawumbi, iyadlala, ngenxa yokuba ugxeki lokugxekwa luya kummisa. Le ndlela isebenza kakuhle nabantwana, kuba abantu abadala abaphosakeleyo baya kumangalisa, mhlawumbi baze bahlekise. Umcebisi omncinci: ukuba umntwana wakho unamahloni, zibetha. Ngoko uya kumnceda umntwana azi ukuba ubuhlungu buhlungu kangakanani ngamazwi akhe. Ekuqaleni uya kumangaliswa, kwaye uya kugijimela ukuba abe nesihe kuwe.
- Ifriji yexhoba - uthele amanzi ukusuka kwibhotile, kunye nokuhlamba amanzi, kunokwenzeka (ukuba ubunzima buvumela) ukuba uyithabathe. Amanzi aqhotyoshelweyo aya kuphazamisa ingqalelo kwaye anciphise uxinzelelo lwengqondo.
- Thetha kumntu onamaqhina amfutshane omyalelo. "Umzekelo," Phuza kunye nam! "," Phuza phantsi! "," Hlala phantsi! ", Njl. Ngomzuzu, iincwadana ezimfutshane zixabiseke kakhulu, njengoko zinceda ukufikelela kwintlungu kunye nokubuyiselwa kwimeko eqhelekileyo.
- Ungazifaki iimfuno zakho zokungcola, kuba uya kuziva 'ebuthathaka' kuwe, kwaye uya kusebenzisa lo mkhuba ngendlela ye-blackmail. Ukuba umntu ugxininisa ngokwakhe, xelela ngokukhawuleza ukuba wenqaba ukuxoxa ngantoni kwiimeko ezinjalo.
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, emva koxinzelelo, abantu banokulahlekelwa amandla. Kunconywa ukubeka umntu embhedeni. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, mnike i-tincture encinane ye-motherwort okanye ye-hawthorn. Kwakulungile ukunika isiselo kwi-tea efudumele.
Unokukunceda njani ngokukhala
Omnye wethu uye wakhala. Bathi "Ndiza kukunceda ngezinyembezi," kodwa ukukhala okunciphisa uxinzelelo oluncinci kunye nokunyaniseka kuyinyaniso. Kwaye oku kuchazwa yinyaniso yokuba kwinkqubo yokulila i-mechanism ixhunyiwe, eyanciphisa i-cortex ye-cerebral. Ukongeza, iinyembezi ezikhutshwe ngexesha lokulila ziphilisa. Banciphisa intlungu, basuse umzimba wabantu kunye nosawo emzimbeni, kunye nokuqinisa inkqubo yokuphucula, kunye nokubuyiselwa.
Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba iingcali zicebise ukuba ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kumntu kwaye ufuna ukukhala, ungayigodli. Kwaye xa kukho umntu osondeleyo osondeleyo, onokuhlulwa ngumntu omnye, kuya kuba ngcono.
Unokunceda njani umntu ukuba akhale?
- Ungashiyi umntu omiyo yedwa xa engaphikisani nobukho. Makhe azive ukuba usondele-u-hug, uhlazo entloko, wabeka isandla sakho ehlombe lakho, ulala embhedeni uze umboze ngengubo, usebenzise amanzi.
- Kungangoko kunokwenzeka ukuthetha nomntu okhalayo, mkhuthaze ukuba achaze oko kwenzekayo, kodwa imibuzo kufuneka ibuzwe ngokucophelela. Mamela ngenyameko, udonsa intloko yakho, uthi "qondisisa", "yeah", "iyaqondakala kakuhle", "ngokwawo", njl njl.
- Phinda umntu wegama lakhe, apho uchaza iimvakalelo zakhe. Umzekelo, "Ndivakalelwa kakhulu ..." "Ndiyayiqonda ukuba oku kuhlambalaza," okanye "Kubi kakhulu ukujongana nokungcatshwa ... - Kakade, kubi," njl njl.
- Zama ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho malunga nale nto okanye imeko.
- Qaphela uvelwano olunzulu kunye nesihe. Ungatsho ngelinye ixesha: "Ndiyaxolisa kuwe," kodwa ungagqithwanga ngamagama, umzekelo, "Ulungile kakhulu, kutheni wakunikela?", "Wazama, kodwa awukho ndawo, into ehlwempu," njl. Ngomzuzu wokulila, ububele obukhulu buyingozi, ngenxa yokuba ukhalela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuzisola kwakhona, kodwa oku kuqhubeka kwandisa uxinzelelo, plachachinaetsya kwakhona.
- Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukudumisa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukubethekisa. Siyazi kakuhle ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwexhoba. Nangona kunjalo, ukudunyiswa okungokwemvelo, ngokukodwa ukubethekisa, ukukhala kunokubangela ukucaphukisa okungenasidingo, nokuba nobudlova kuwe.
- Musa ukunika iingcebiso, kunokubangela ukucaphukisa nokugwenxa. Kulo mzuzwana umntu ufuna ukuphosa iimvakalelo, ukuzola, kodwa akukho mandla okulungisa iingxaki ngelixa umntu engekho.
- Musa ukulila ukukhala, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, khuthaza ukukhala. Vumela indoda ngaphandle kwayo ilahle yonke intlungu, intukuthelo kunye noyiko. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba unamahloni kunye nawe ukukhala-phuma ekamelweni.
Kwaye nangona i-hysterics kunye nokukhala kuyindlela yokukhusela kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, umntu akafanele avumele izinto zihambe ngokwazo, ushiye umntu osondeleyo ngaphandle kwengxaso. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuba ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki yokuxinzelela emva kokuxinwa kungaphathwa kuphela.