Kodwa xa ngokuqhelekileyo kuza kwiintlalontle zentsapho, ingcamango yokufaneleka, kwaye namalungelo angancitshiswa ukuya kutshatyalaliswa, okanye ixesha elide ukuba lichaswe.
Ukuhamba ixesha elide yiloo maxesha xa ibhinqa linemithwalo eninzi kunamalungelo. Kwaye emva kokuba bethetha ngokulinganayo kumalungelo kunye namadoda, amaqhinga amandulo azenza bazive. Uninzi lwalo lubonakaliswa kubundlelwane beentsapho, ngakumbi ukuba loo ntokazi iyanelisekile kwaye ingasetyenziselwa ukuphikisana nomyeni wayo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngexesha, nangona xa enento ethile yokuthetha, akakwazi nje ukwenza oku. Kodwa emva koko, akukho mntu wamrhoxisa, kwaye eli lungelo alizange linyamalale naphi na, kwenzeka nje.
Yiyo ndlela ubomi obusonwabileyo bentsapho buhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye yintoni umcimbi, senzephi iimpazamo kunye nendlela yokuxhasa amalungelo amabhinqa kwintsapho?
Bona bafanele batyala.
Imodeli yokuziphatha komfazi wesikhathi esizayo iya kufana nokuziphatha komama wakhe emtshatweni, ukulungelelaniswa "okuhle nokubi." Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana baba ngamaxhoba kwimfundo eqinile yabazali babo, kunye nesimo sam somama ukuba indoda yindoda ebalulekileyo endlwini, ilandelwa ligama lokugqibela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunjalo, kwaye abaninzi abanakuphika le meko yemicimbi. Kodwa, enyanisweni, umfazi kunye nendoda banamalungu alinganayo kuluntu, kwaye emtshatweni akukho mntu unokurhoxisa lokulingana ngaphandle kwethu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo zonke iikhathalo zentsapho zixoxwa kwaye zibuyele eziqhelekileyo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Ukuba ngeli xesha, amalungelo kunye nemisebenzi ngokucacileyo kwaye ubuncinci banamathela okwesikhashana, kwaye kwikamva baya kuba ngumthetho wentsapho.
Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba nomfazi osetshatileyo, kunye nangaphambili, unelungelo lokuzikhethela inkululeko yokuzikhethela, ukuzenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo kunye nokwenza. Unelungelo lokukhusela iimfuno zakhe, azimele kwaye ahlonishwe yintsapho yakhe. Kukho namalungelo amaninzi ahlukeneyo malunga nazo zonke iinkalo zobomi bentsapho, kodwa malunga nale nto kamva.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukufaka izigodlo zokuthembeka, nathi siwela isigxina samalungelo ethu, ngakumbi abo badibene nenkolelo yenkululeko. Ngaloo ndlela, sikholelwa ukuba senza umnikelo oxabisekileyo njengophawu lomnqweno wethu wokwakha intsapho, ukuthanda umyeni wethu nokuzala abantwana bakhe. Nangona, ngokwenene, amaxhoba anjalo ayadingeki, kwaye akuvumelekanga. Ngokomzekelo, xa umfazi eshada, uyazichukumisa into yokuba ngoku ubomi bakhe buya kutshintsha ngokuphawulekayo, kwaye ukususela ngomhla wokuqala kuqala ukufezekisa ngokuzimisela imisebenzi yakhe, ukugxininisa ngakumbi kuye kunamalungelo omtshato wakhe. Umfazi ulungele ukuthatha konke okusemandleni akhe kuphela, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zomyeni wakhe. Kodwa naye unelungelo, into efunekayo kumyeni wakhe, kwaye unqwenela ukuba iimfuno ziya kuzaliseka. Kwaye bayothusa xa indoda, ngokuphendula isicelo sokuncedwa kwibini yebini, iphendule: "unelungelo elingakanani kum ukuba ufune into ethile." Ngoko nto mbazana, ninyamekele incinci kuphela, kodwa kunye namalungelo abo angokomthetho, kwaye kuya kuba nzima ukuqhubeka.
Ilungelo eliphambili.
Kwabesetyhini kwintsapho kukho amalungelo amabini angundoqo ahlangene ngokuthe ngqo. Iyokuqala inelungelo lokuthandwa, kwaye okwesibini unelungelo lokuba ngumama. Ukuphululwa kwala malungelo kuninzi yekhefu kwimiphumo ebuhlungu.
Ibhinqa leyona nto ininzi iyimvakalelo kwaye isetyenziswe ukuqonda ihlabathi lonke elikujikelezile kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Xa umfazi ethandwa, kwaye uvakalelwa - oku kuboniswa kuyo yonke into. Kodwa xa ibhinqa linyanzeliswa ukuba lihlale kwintsapho apho uthando lufana nokuthanda ngaphezu kokubonakalisa ukunyaniseka kwemvakalelo, ibhinqa livakalelwa kakhulu ukuphulwa kweli lungelo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo liyayiphendula ngokucacileyo kuyo.
Unelungelo lokuba ngumama mhlawumbi alufanelekanga ukuxoxa. Emva koko, akukho nto ibhinqa elingafuni ukuva le ntliziyo. Ukuchithwa kweli lungelo kufuthi kubonakaliswe ukungathandi komlingane ukuba ube nomntwana ngenxa yesizathu esicacileyo. Ejongene nesimo sengqondo esinjalo, lo mfazi unentlonelo kakhulu kwolu hlobo. Into ekhethekileyo ayiyikuqatshelwa komntwana, okanye imfuno yomyeni yokukhupha isisu. Ngokuqhelekileyo le meko yemicimbi inokuchaphazela kakhulu impilo yengqondo kamama.
Kwakhona, ngexesha lokuba ngumama, ngakumbi xa umfazi engakwazi ukufumana ngokwaneleyo ukubonelela iimfuno eziyimfuneko. Unelungelo lokufuna kumyeni wakhe ukuqinisekisa ukuphila kunye nokuchuma kwentsapho. Ngokufanayo, loo malungelo yabasetyhini, unokwandisa ubomi bentsapho, ngaphandle kobophelelo bokuwusebenza. Emva koko, kwintsapho, loo ndoda yayiyi-earner, loo ntokazi yayingumgcini wendlu. Ezi ziseko zobomi bemihla ngemihla zigcinwa namhlanje, umahluko nje kuphela kukuba lo mfazi uzama ukuthatha uxanduva oluninzi, kwaye umyeni wakhe kule nzondelelo uxhasa kuphela.
Ilungelo lokuva.
Ngaba uye wajamelana nokungafuni ukuphulaphula nje ngokuba ungumfazi? Okanye uyazi ukuba uhloniphekile kwaye ungenakuhlonipha i-frazochki, efana "nomfazi, usuku lwakho ngo-Matshi 8," okanye "kwaye umfazi apha akakho banikele ilizwi." Iingxelo ezinjalo zibangelwa iimvakalelo ezihlaselayo kunabo abazivakalisileyo, kunye neentlonelo zabo zokufakelwa. Emva koko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu kangakanani, amadoda asekhaya asetyenziselwa ukuthatha inxaxheba yobunkokheli kuphela, engathintekiyo nakwi-executive. Ngoko kuvela ukuba amagama omntu oya emoyeni, kunye nomfazi-ifosholo ngesandla. Kwaye uzama ukuphikisa. Ukuba nobuhlobo obunjalo, unokubulela ookhokho bethu. Emva koko, kwiinkcubeko ezininzi, imbono yowesifazane ibandlulula amalungelo akhe, ukubonakalisa njengelungu elilinganayo kuluntu. Ukuba ubheka ngokucophelela kwimizimba emininzi endikucebisa ngayo ukuba uphile, unokubona enye indlela. Okuqhelekileyo ibhinqa, isoloko isetyenziselwa umxholo othi "kufuneka", kunye nomyeni wakhe - unelungelo.
Ngabantu abathandekayo, amaxesha atshintsho, kwaye ngoku nawe kufuneka, kunye nabafazi kwintsapho nabo banelungelo. Ngokukodwa banelungelo lokuthetha ngamalungelo abo, ukukhumbuza nokufuna ukuphunyezwa kwabo. Kwaye kufuneka uve uze uziqonde. Ngaphandle koko, asiyi kuze siphumelele ukuqonda okufanelekileyo.