Kutheni abantwana bethu bebonisa ukukrakra, kwaye sinokuzichaphazela njani, ukuze umntwana akhule abe ngumntu onomusa novulekileyo.
Ubuhaha bubonakala phantse kuwo wonke umntwana, sinokuyibona xa inkwenkwe engafuni ukwabelana necoleta kunye nodade wayo okanye ingavumeli abantwana ukuba badlale umdlalo wezilwane kunye neetayi zabo. Lo mgangatho awukho ozala, ubonakalisa ngezikhathi ezithile, eqinisweni, umntwana akaveli. Njengomthetho, abantwana banomdla kwiimeko ezithile kwaye ngenxa yezizathu ezikhethekileyo. Thina, abantu abadala, sidibanisa ukuhaha kunye nezinye iimbonakalo zobuncinane bomntwana.
Ukuhaha ngethuba
Ngaba uyamangaliswa kukuba umntwana wakho ovulekile kwaye ohlala enomusa olungele ukunika i-candy yokugqibela kunye neyardini unike intombi yakhe ibhola elitsha elitsha lingaziphathe njengoluthando lokugqibela? Kwenzeka ukuba abantwana babonise ukunyanzela abo bantu abangakhululeki nabo okanye abangathembekiyo. Akunakuba ngabantu abangaqhelekanga kuphela. Umntwana wabelana ngeswidi kunye nomntu ngaphandle komkhulu? Abazange bahlangane kanye, kodwa kwakusenokuba yi-chic ukubonakalisa umlingiswa wabo. Kwimeko enjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha inkwenkwe ibonisa ukukrakra xa inesimo esibi, kwaye ingenangxaki, kule ngongoma, nayiphi na umntwana engenakuhlanganyela. Ngokubonakalisa okunjalo ukuhaha, akunakulungele ukugxininisa ukuqonda, umntwana ngokwakhe emva kwexesha uya kuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukwenza njalo.
Umnqweno "wokuphucula ipilisi"
Ukuba ngaba abazali bengayithobeli ingqalelo kumntwana, unqatshelwe uthando lwakhe, uhlala ehlwaywa okanye aphule ukuxhatshazwa kwengqondo phakathi kwabazali kunye nosana, ufuna into engenayo, ithathe indawo enye. Abanye abantu bancedwa ngamaskese, kwaye abanye banikela izipho. Umntwana kwizinto eziphathekayo ufuna umnxeba aze azame ukuhlawulela uthando abazali abangenalo.
Kule meko, musa ukuphazamisa ukuziphatha kweemvuthu. Kunoko, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela oziphatha ngayo, indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngentombi yakho okanye unyana wakho. Xa uhlalutya ulwalamano lwakho, ngoko ukuhaha kunye nomkhondo kuya kubanda.
Umntwana ufuna ukuba yinkokheli
I-crumb evela kwiminyaka emincinci ifuna ukuba ngowokuqala kuyo yonke into, kodwa isencinane kakhulu, ngoko ayiyazi indlela yokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo. Kule meko, uqala ukuvela kwi-gray mass kunye nantoni na abantwana abangenayo. Uyaziqhayisa ngezi zifundo, kwaye oku kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Ngaphezu koko, umntwana ukhangela umdla! Emva kwakho konke, ukukrakra kuhlala kuphakathi, uyanconywa, ucele ukuba ukhange okanye adlale ithoyizi, uyaba nomona aze adunywe kwi-footestal, uzive engukumkani ngongoma kunene.
Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ncedisa umntwana ukuba abonise iimpawu zakhe ngendlela eyahlukileyo, makazibonakalise njengenkokeli, kodwa ngesandla esihle. Mcele ukuba enze imisebenzi, eya kuyenza ngokufanelekileyo, umdumise ngawo wonke umsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle. Emva koko uya kuba nomusa kwaye avule.
Umona oqhelekileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha inkunzi iyaba nekratshi, xa usapho luzalwa udade omncinane okanye umzalwana. Ngaphezu koko, ukuhlaselwa kobukrakra akuqaleki ngokukhawuleza, kodwa xa umntwana ekhula kwaye uqala ukubonakalisa umlingiswa wayo. Nanku kukulungele ukuthatha isenzo kungekhona ngenxa yokuhaha, kodwa ngenxa yesikhwele.
Uqoqosho lwezoqoqosho
Umntwana wakho uhlala eneebhokisi ezininzi zemali, uthanda ukubukela iincwadi zeDisney kunye nama-movie, apho iimali ezingadlali indima njengobomi bethu, uthanda ukudlala i-Monopoly, kwaye ngoku, xa eya esikolweni kwaye waqala ukuzibandakanya kwezoqoqosho ... Ukuba ukhangele Oku kukujonga okukodwa, akukubi, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho awuyi kuba nomsindo. Khawucinge ngenye imeko, kwaye oku kwenzeka ngokwenene: uyise akawunikeli umvuzo wakhe, waza wabuza unyana wakhe ngemali. Isizukulwana esincinane asiyinto engayithandiyo, kodwa wayenomdla, kodwa emva kwexesha wathatha isandla wathi: "Kulungile, kodwa uya kunika umdla". Enyanisweni, le meko ayikho eqhelekileyo, kodwa unyana wayengaqondi ukuba uyise akayonto engathandekiyo, wayethukile. Qala ukufundisa i-crook ukuphatha ngokuchanekileyo ngemali okwangoku. Into ephambili akuvumelekanga ukuvumela ubudlelwane beentengiso phakathi kwentsapho kunye nabantu abasondeleyo.
Ufuna ukuba neninzi
Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa izinto ngaphezu kwabanye. Bathanda, baqoke izitampu, iikhalenda, iimali zemali, ukuqokelela into ngokubanzi, ngelixa kunzima ukuyisebenzisa imali, kubonakala bezityhawula entliziyweni baze bashiye "amaxesha amaninzi", aqhelekanga afike. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanjalo banemigodi.
Nangona kunjalo, akubona bonke abantwana abasenzela ukuqokelela abanquli bezithixo baya kukhula babe ngabantu abanomdla kunye nabanobudlova. Abazali bafanele baqonde ukuba umntwana wabo "unomlomo omkhulu," ungagxininisi ukunyamezela kwakhe kwaye ungangcikiva. Ukuba uvelisa imvumba eneengqondo, ubuhaha buya kuba yinto ehamba phambili kwiminyaka, kwaye oku kuhle kakhulu.
Funda ukunika
Mema zonke izihlobo zomntwana wakho ekhaya uze uzilungiselele umhla wezipho kunye neentlungu. Oku akudingi iindleko ezizodwa. Sebenzisa amaqebelengwane, itiye, ijusi, iilekese kunye nezinye izinto ezincinane ezikhumbuzo, ezinokubakho iipencilisi, ipenki emnandi, imidlalo yokumangalisa, iipostcards eziqhelekileyo, iikhrayoni zamaphepha kunye neebhaluni. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba i-karapuz ngokwakhe ikhethe izipho kwaye ibone.
Iingcebiso ezinokufundisa abanomdla
- Qaphela ukuba umntwana unelungelo le-naibushki, enithengayo kwaye unika lona. Wonke umntu omdala unento awafuni ukuyenza kumnye umntu, umzekelo, imali, imoto, i-laptop, ifowuni, njalo njalo. Vumela umntwana wakho abe ne-calculator yezinto zokudlala endaweni yefowuni eye yaphulwa ixesha elide, umatshini ogesi lakhe liwile, kodwa le nto yokudlala, unelungelo lepropati. Cinga ngendlela yokwenza utshintsho oluluncedo. Ngokomzekelo, kwintendelezo unikezela i-crumb: "Masinike uCatekukolku, kwaye ngelixa uyidlala ngesitimela." Kwamanye abantwana, oku kusebenza kakuhle kunabo bonke.
- Xoxa nomntwana wakho rhoqo ukuze ahlanganyele nayo, inceda. Mxelele ukuthi: "Le candy kuwe, kwaye unike le candy ku-Masha." Ngoko awuyi kubingelela nayiphi na into, kodwa inkunzi iya kufunda indlela yokwenza ububele, akayikuzalisekisa kuphela imiyalelo yakho, kodwa uyakuvuyela ukuzalisekisa umsebenzi wakho nokuzisa uvuyo kuMas.
- Musa ukudala iimeko apho i-crest izakufuneka "ichithe" izinto ezithile. Umzekelo, uye wancenga ixesha elide ukuba yakho ikhompyutheni, kwaye awuyithengeli kumntwana wakho, kodwa isipho ku-godson wakho. Ungamangalisi ukuba umntwana ukhubekile ngobuso obungathandekiyo. Kwaye oku kungenangqiqo kwaye kungabi nomdla! Ukuba awukwazi ukuthenga, yintoni umntwana enqwenela ukuyithenga, uthenge i-godson oko umntwana wakho esele ekhona.
- Yiba ngumzekelo kwiimvuthu. Ukuba usoloko uthetha kwintombi yakho: "Sasha, masidle iinqotyi ngokukhawuleza, okanye umvundla (umzalwana, ugogo) uya kuza kwaye bonke baya kudla!", Xa usuhlakulela ukunyuka kwintsana, ngenxa yokuba akafuni ukudla iinqathe, kodwa uya kuyidla yonke into ukwenzela ukuba kungabikho mntu owenzayo. Ngapha koko, xelela umntwana ukuba bonke abantu bafanele bahlanganyele, ngoko uya kuqalisa ukuphinda.
- Iingcali zengqondo zithi xa umntwana wesibini evela kwintsapho, umntwana uqala ukubonisa umona, kodwa ke kufuneka nje abelane.
- Funda kubantwana bakho iindaba ezilungileyo ezifundisa ilungelo lokuqonda ihlabathi, kuba nomusa nokuphana.