Isivumelwano somtshato sivumelwano sokuba abo basandul 'ukutshata banokugqiba malunga nokuxazulula imiba yobomi bentsapho.
Oku, kusenokuthiwa, luhlobo lomthetho kumabini omabini, enemiba enemiba enokukhathalela iindidi ezahlukeneyo zobomi bentsapho.
Kwamanye amazwe aseSoviet Union, inokuphela kuphela ngaphambi komtshato, ngokungafani namanye amazwe, apho ungasayinwa ngababini abatshatileyo nabasetyhini kunye nabantwana abatshatileyo abanamava. Ngoko yintoni isivumelwano somtshato kunye neempawu zayo?
Ingxelo yokungathembeki okanye, emva koko, isigqibo esifanelekileyo?
Kwamazwe amaninzi, isivumelwano somtshato sisasilumkiso, kwaye ngokuphendula kwisiphakamiso sokugqiba, sinokuva "Nguwe ondithandayo? Asizange sitshatile, kodwa ucinga ukuba kuya kuba ngexesha lomtshato? Ngaba uyandithemba? "Nangona kunjalo, xa ubomi ngenxa yesizathu esithile asiyi kukhula, ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bayakhalaza ukuba baphangwa, bajikeleza ezinkundleni, i-otszhivaya yabo yepropati, bememeza ukuba bayakhohliswa, bashiya nantoni. Ngoko ke, ukuze oko kungenzeki, kulungele ukuqokelela uxwebhu okanye isivumelwano esokukukhusela ngokupheleleyo wena kunye nepropati yakho kwiintlobo zabantu abangathembekiyo.
Kutheni ku funeka?
Ubuninzi abangena kwisivumelwano baya kuthatha intsapho njengenkqantosi apho kubambisene khona, uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali olufanayo, ngalinye lala maqela linembopheleleko yalo kwaye yonke into ilawulwa ngandlela-thile. Enyanisweni, le ndlela ayiyithandi kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, kwihlabathi lethu lanamhlanje kukho ukukhohlisa okuninzi kunye nokukhohlisa ukuba akudingeki ukuba ucinge ngothando. Ngubani ophelisa isivumelwano, oyika ukuba "uya kuxoxwa", kwaye ngubani ofuna ukumncinisa ubomi bakhe aze aphephe zonke "i" kwaye akazisoli xa ukuphela kobomi bentsapho beza.
Nangona kunjalo, kwii-CIS amazwe izivumelwano zomtshato zisencinane. Izizathu zihluke: umntu, ohlaselwa ngothando, akafuni ukuba acinge ngesivumelwano, angabikho nto yokwahlula, kwaye ngubani, ukuba unalo urhulumente, uthembele kwezinye iindlela kunye nezindlela zokusombulula iingxaki zeentsapho kunye nokungaqondi kakuhle. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto, kodwa akufanele ulibale ukuba ngaphambi kokuba umthetho ulingane, kwaye ngoko ke, ukuba unganandaba nekamva lakho kunye nokuphela kwayo, mhlawumbi abantwana bakho bexesha elizayo, ukufikelela kwesivumelwano somtshato kuyinqweneleka kakhulu.
Amagqwetha ayaqaphela iinjongo zokugqiba isivumelwano somtshato. Emva kwakho konke, unako ukufumanisa kubo kwiindawo zokufumana umtshato, ekuhambeni kokuqhawula umtshato, bafuna ukwahlula ipropati, kwaye bazisola kakhulu ukuba abazange bavumelane kwangaphambili kule nto ngokubhaliweyo.
Uphi inyaniso?
Amagqwetha ngamagqwetha, kodwa zonke iimeko, ngamnye umlingane uyedwa kwaye uyodwa. Bangabacebisa kuphela, kuba akukho mgaqo womthetho onokusiqinisekisa ngokupheleleyo ubomi bomntu obonwabileyo. Akubonakali kuthi ukuba sele sicinga kakhulu malunga namaxwebhu athile angaboni izinto ezinjalo ezilula, ezingabonakaliyo.
Masicinge: sitshatile. Ukuba sitshata, ngoko, siyamthanda, ukuba siyamthanda, ngoko siyamthemba umntu wethu othandekayo kwizinto ezisondeleyo. Ngoko akukho nto "into, eyakho" ...
Nangona kunjalo, kwiintsapho apho umsebenzi, umsebenzi, ishishini, akushiyi indawo yokwenene uthando, kwaye ukudala intsapho egcweleyo kuphela yintlu eluhlu lwamatyala, isivumelwano somtshato siyimfuneko.
Khumbula ukuba ipropati, ubutyebi, yonke into ebonakalayo ifumaneka izinto, oko kukuthi, ziza kwaye ziya kuba. Yaye ulonwabo lwentsapho, uthando, uthando, ukunyamekela, ukunyamekela awuyi kubelana nantoni na isivumelwano, kuba yonke ingcebo yethu yangaphakathi iphefumlo.