Ezinye iintsapho zisebenzisa indlela yokuguqulwa kakhulu, oko kukuthi, abazali bomyeni baya kutyelela abazali bomkhwenyana kamva baze baqhelane. Zaziphi na zonke izakhono kwiinkqubo zokudibanisa? Ngaba izithethe zamandulo ziya kupheleka ngonaphakade?
Sekunjalo ngokutsha kwimemori yembalikazi bethu abatshata. Apha e-Ukraine inkqubo yokudibanisa yayihlala isineengoma kunye nemidaniso. Abadlali beembambano babegqoke kwaye bevuya, becula iingoma kunye nabantu ababizayo. Bahlabelela iingoma zokudumisa malunga nomyeni wexesha elizayo, malunga namandla akhe, ubuchule kunye nobuhle, kuba kuphela isigqibo sabazali bomtshakazi sasixhomekeke ekupheleni kwesibini esithandanayo. Ukuba umyeni akayithandi abazali bomtshakazi, bafaka ithanga ngaphambi komngcipheko wabo.
Xa intombazana yayichaza umnqweno wokutshata, intlanganiso yayiqhutywe endlwini yakhe, apho uyise nomama kunye noothixo babantu babekho. Unyana wamxelela ngomhlolokazi wakhe owayenomdla waza wacela imvume. Ukuba le ntombazana yayithande abazali bayo, ngoko ootata bahamba baya kumama. Ukukhangela umtshato womtshakazi kwakukho umdla kwaye unomdla. Abadlali bemidlalo baqalile ingxoxo ukusuka kude, nantoni na eyoyikrakra "intaka yegolide", ngokucokisekileyo ibonisa ngeemvakalelo zomyeni kunye nokuba inokunikela umtshakazi. Ukuba intetho ibonise ukuba abazali bomtshakazi bahle, ke isiphakamiso sesandla nesentliziyo senzeke. Mhlawumbi nonke nina manqaku awaziwayo ngokudlala umdlalo: "Unempahla, kwaye sinomthengisi". Ewe, ukuba umyeni wayethandana nabazali bomtshakazi, abadlali bemidlalo bamisela umtshato nomtshakazi womtshakazi.
Abafazi ababukeleyo babehlala bexhamla intombazana yomtshato kunye nabazali babo. Ngomyeni, abazali bomyeni babonisa umtshakazi, iziqhamo zakhe zadunyiswa, kwaye iziphoso zazifihliwe ngokucophelela. Umyeni kunye nabazali nje baboniswa umda womtshakazi, iziqhamo zomsebenzi wentombazana encinane. Ukuba ngaba abazali bomyeni banelisekile ngabasetyhini, kwathethwa imibuzo malunga nomtshato ozayo. Njengomthetho, ngaphambi komtshato, abazali bomabini bobabini bafanele babe ngabahlobo, kuba kungekudala baya kuba ngabahlobo.
Kwaye baseRashiya bexesha elide badibanisa nabo babengabalingani ababengenabo izihlobo zomyeni. Inkqubo yayisoloko isemgangathweni onobungane, abadlali bezemidlalo abazange bahlale ixesha elide, kuba bekufuneka baxelele abazali bomyeni. Kukho iimeko xa umtshakazi nomyeni behlala kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo nakwiidolophana. Kwakunzima kwaye kunzima ukufika apho. Kwaye ke abazali bomtshakazi beza ngqo kumtshato womtshakazi ukuba baqhelane kwaye basombulule zonke iingxaki ezingekho kwisandla sesithathu.
Ngaba buhlungu ukuba namhlanje inqubo yokwenza umdlalo ingabalulekanga. Amadoda amaninzi sele anqume ukutshata nomfazi othandekayo. Kuyamkeleka ukuba uhlale emtshatweni womtshato, aba bantu abatsha ngokubambisana banesisiseko sokufumana ukuba isiqingatha sakhe sikuphi ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bemihla ngemihla buqhekeza izibini ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuba ukuzonwabisa kunye nomntu obathandayo kwiiyure ezingama-24 ngemini kuncedisa ekubonakalweni kweempawu ezintle, njengokuzikhuthaza, ubuchule bokutya, kodwa nabangendawo, umz Kodwa ukuba umntu wanamhlanje uzimisele ngokuzibophelela umfazi, akaboni ukuba kuyimfuneko ukucela imvume kubazali beliphi iqela. Ukunikezelwa kwesandla kunye nentliziyo kuzwakala kuphela kumtshakazi, kwaye indandatho, njengomthetho, inikelwa ngexesha elifanayo. Xa abazali befumanisa ngomtshato ozayo, bafanele bavuyiswe ngabantwana babo baze balinde abazukulwana abade balinde.