Indlela yokulwa neengxaki zeminyaka esixhenxe

Inkqubo yokuphuhliswa komzimba kunye nengokwengqondo yomntwana ayifani ngokungafaniyo, kodwa njengokungathi i-jerks kunye ne-jumps. Zizo zihlandlo, xa umntwana edlula kwisigaba esilandelayo sokukhula, kwaye kuthiwa yiminyaka yobudala. Ezi nkxalabo zinezinto ezintle kwaye zibi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntwana ukhula ngakumbi, amakhono amatsha, ubuchule kunye nobuchule. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngexesha leenkxalabo ezinxulumene nobudala, ukuziphatha komntwana kunokuba, ukubeka ngokukhawuleza, ukungaqiniseki: unalo olutsha, oluneenkcukacha zangaphambili ezingabonakaliyo ezinobungqina kunye nokuziphatha, okuvame ukuphazamisa abazali bakhe kwaye kudala ubunzima ekunxibelelaneni.

Ingxaki yeminyaka esixhenxe yinkxalabo ehambelana nokuzalwa kwentlalo "mna" umntwana, ngokuqala kokuqwashisa ngaye, njengento yentlalontle, ehlala kuluntu, ngokubambisana. Okokuqala kuzo zonke zidibene nokuqala kokuphila kwesikolo. Umntwana, ukuze akwazi ukulungelelanisa noluntu, kufuneka enze uhlobo olutsha lwezentlalo - isikhundla somfundi. Kwaye oku kufuna umntwana ukuba ahlawule ixabiso: oko kwakubalulekile ngaphambili, kuqala ukuba kubonwa njengesibili, kwaye ngokufanayo. Ukuba izinga lokukhula kwengqondo kwengane ukuya kwiminyaka emithandathu okanye eyisixhenxe liphakamileyo ngokwaneleyo, ngoko ingxaki yeminyaka esixhenxe inokudlulela phantse ngaphandle kweengxaki, ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza. Ukuba ke, nangona kunjalo, umntwana akasekho ngokwengqondo ukuya esikolweni, ingxaki inokunyanzeliswa kakhulu, ihamba kunye nokugqithiswa kwezinto ezahlukeneyo.

Ukuba umntwana uhamba nobunzima beeminyaka ezisixhenxe ngokudalwa, unokufumana imiphumo engathandekiyo kwixesha elizayo, umzekelo, ukukhokelela ekuhlambululeni intlalo-ukungakwazi ukulungelelanisa noluntu, ukufumana indawo yakhe kwiqela. Ngoko ke, ukunceda umntwana onjalo kufuneka ukuba afike kubazali nootitshala. Ngokukodwa kakhulu kuxhomekeke kubazali. Kodwa ukuze uza kuhlangulwa ngexesha, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba uncedo luni na olufunekayo.

Iimpawu, apho zingagwetywa ukuba umntwana unengxaki yengqondo kwaye ufuna uncedo, zilandelayo:

Ziziphi izizathu zokutshintsha okunjalo kwimpatho yomntwana? Yintoni enokubangela iingxaki kunye nabazali abangayenza ntoni kwiimeko ezinjalo? Izizathu zingabininzi:

Ngokwezibalo, ubunzima beeminyaka ezisixhenxe kulula kwaye akukho naluphi na iingxaki ezidlula kuphela kwi-25% yabantwana. Bonke abanye abantwana baneengxaki ezinokuthi zixazululwe xa abazali beziphatha ngokuchanekileyo, ningakhathazeki, kwaye nizama konke okusemandleni abo ukunceda abantwana babo ukuba banqobe naziphi na iingxaki eziphakamayo, kuba ngaba kusebenza kakubi kwesikolo okanye ukuphikisana nabalingana nabo. Simele siyiqonde: zonke iingxaki zisesigxina, kwaye ukuzinqoba umntwana kufuneka adinga kakhulu ukuqonda kunye nothando lwabazali.