Xa sisebuntwaneni, sinempembelelo enkulu kubazali, esikolweni sithonyelwa ngabafundi esikolweni kunye nootitshala. Kwaye kukho intengiso, urhulumente. Uluhlu luqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Emva koko, ubomi buyintambo enzima yezo zonke iintlobo. Impembelelo yindoda kumfazi ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu kwaye ngokuphambene naso - impembelelo yowesifazane kumntu. Umbuzo onobukhulu obunempembelelo engaphezulu, ngokuba kubakhokelela ekufeni. Yaye umntu uthinta njani umfazi?
Sekude kuphawulwe ukuba iibinibini eziye zahlala zivuyo kunye ixesha elide zifana kakhulu. Amaqabane ayenayo imilinganiselo efanayo, ukhetho, bafana nangaphandle kwezinye iindlela. Njengomzalwana nodade. Ngubani oye wabangela ukuba ngubani ubomi obude kunye? Eli bhinqa? Indoda? Kwakukho ukuchithwa okukhulu komntu omnye kwelinye. Abantu bathi oku: "fumana umlingane womphefumlo." Nangona kunjalo, imibhangqwana yokubhiyozela imishado yabo yegolide yayingaphantsi kwamadoda nabasetyhini abaye bahlala kunye kunye kwaye baqhawula ngokukhawuleza, besabela. Kwaye isizathu sokuba inqwelo-moya leyo ihlale ifana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni le nto isetyenzisiweyo) - kungekhona imida ehlukeneyo yempembelelo.
Umlobi ophawulekayo uDavid Samoilov unemizila ebulumko: "Wonke umntu ukhetha ibhinqa, unqulo, inkululeko ..." Indoda isoloko ihamba ngezinga elincinci, lifuna umfazi ofana nomama. Kuye ujwayele kwaye uyaziqonda "ukufundisa" umfazi wakhe, ukuba "amlungele" kumfanekiso kamama wakhe. Oku akubhekiselele kwimimiselo yamaphandle, kodwa malunga nefuthe kumlingani, imikhwa, ukujonga umhlaba.
Le ntokazi isoloko ihlala, kwinqanaba elincinane, lifuna umntu ofana noyise. Kwaye ifuna ukuphazamisa indoda, ukuyibuyisela phantsi komfanekiso wayo. Apha ngamanye amaxesha sifunda into ebizwa ngokuba "ifunyenwe i-scythe etsheni." Umfazi, ukuvikela ukuzimela kwakhe, ukwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa, ukwesaba ukutshabalalisa kwaye, ngokulahlekelwa ubuso bakhe, ube yipopi ezandleni zomntu onamandla. Indoda, evikela "uqobo" wayo, iyamoyika ukuba ikhuni. Ukuba ababini abanalo ubulumko behlabathi ukuba baqonde oko bafunayo komnye nomnye ngokucacileyo kwinqanaba elincinci, okokuthi, akukho mnqweno "wokungena esikhumbeni somnye", imfazwe yesini iqala. Kule mpi yezesondo malunga nemida yempembelelo, akakho abaphumeleleyo.
Esinye isazi senzululwazi sichaza uluvo lokuba "uthando" lufihla ukufuna ukuphumelela nokuqonda. Kule nto, unako ukongeza ukunyanzeliswa kokomoya. Indoda ithinta njani umfazi ukuba aphumeze oko akufunayo? Impembelelo yamadoda kwindoda ivulekileyo, ingaphantsi ecocekileyo kwaye iqhenqa ngaphezu kobhinqa. Ngendlela, hamba kwii-bookstores. Kulapho uza kubona ezininzi iincwadi ezibuza imibuzo ehlakaniphile "Indlela yokukhohlisa umntu? 2, njani ukunqoba umdlali?", "Ndingathini ukutshata?" kunye ne-apotheosis yimibuzo yonke ethi "njani ukuba ube yintonga?". Into ethile ayizange ihlangabezane nencwadi yamadoda "njani ukuba ube ngumqhafazo?". Zonke ezi zixhobo zifundisa umfazi ukuba aphembelele indoda: ngobuqhetseba, ukunyamezela, ukunyamezela, ukuzithoba, ukunyanzela, ukulila, iinyembezi, iimeko ezixakekileyo-ukuphazamiseka kunye nosongelo lokushiya ngonaphakade. Ngelinye igama, zonke kanye ungazikhumbuli.
Impembelelo yamadoda kubasetyhini ichaneke ngakumbi: iintyatyambo, izipho, ukuncoma, iimfuno ezinzima, imiyalelo, ukusuka ekhaya. Yaye ngokwenene, kutheni ukuchaneka okunjalo? Ubuqhetseba, ukubethekisa, ukunyamezela kubonakala kubafazi kuphela. Akunjalo! Inqaku liphela kukuba ukusuka ekuqaleni umntu ulawulwa kwaye uhokelwa ngumfazi. Ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi bakhe, inkwenkwe encinci inyanzelekile ukuba iphathe ngendlela umama wakhe, umfana, ayithandayo. Emva koko, ukunyamekela kwakhe kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kubafazi. Kodwa iminyaka ihamba, kwaye inkwenkwe iyaqonda ukuba uhlukile, ukuba akayintombazana, kodwa indoda. Kwaye apha-ukuvukisana okuvulekileyo malunga "neendonga kunye neentambo" kwintsebenziswano. Zonke iimpawu zomntu azithethi, kodwa zizisebenzise ngokubhekiselele kubafazi? Ndiyabonga! Akufani nendoda. Ngaloo ndlela kwazalwa inkolelo yokuziphatha kwabafazi nabesilisa. Kwaye kwabonakala umfazi wempembelelo.
Konke oku "kulukhuni kunye neenqwelo ezinzima" kwimfazwe yesini ngenxa yempembelelo, kuba indawo yayo phantsi kwelanga isetyenziswe ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba izinga lokubaluleka kwalo liza kulahla.