Emva komtshato, enye yeyona nto isondeleyo kumtshakazi ngumama womyeni wakhe, uninazala. Kwixesha elizayo lobomi bentsapho kuya kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle naye. Ngenxa yoko, kunyanzelekile ukuba amenzele izipho ubuncinane kwieholide ezifana nokuzalwa, ngoMatshi 8, uNyaka omtsha.
Isipho esihle kakhulu somama-mkhwenkwe, njengalowo nawuphi na umfazi, uya kuba yintyatyambo yeentyatyambo. Ukudibanisa okukhulu kunye nesipho eso siya kuba yinyaniso, ukuba uthe wadibana naye. Iintlobo zeentyantyambo ezivela kuwe njengomhla wokuzalwa uya kunika umama-mnye esinye isizathu sokuba uzive usemncinci kwaye umhle. Ukongezelela, akunakwenzeka ukuba alinde iintyatyambo ezivela kumyeni wakho. Umama-mkhwenkwe ngumfazi onomdla obalulekileyo, kodwa isipho esivela kwiintyatyambo sihlala simnika iimvakalelo ezintle, kwaye indlela yakhe yokuphucula idla ngokucacileyo. Nangona umama-mkhwenkwe ngumntu omhle, emva kokufa komyeni wakhe ukuba wahamba, wavala.
Yintoni enokuyinikela umamazala, ukuba wena kunye nomyeni wakho uhlala ekhaya? Intanda yam, ekuqaleni kobomi bethu kunye, sahlala nomamazala kamalunga ne-1 unyaka, de sathenga indlu. Xa sitshintshile, ndicinga ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe ngenye intliziyo yam yazisola ngokuba simshiya. Wayesala yedwa. Kungcono ukunika umama-mkhwenkwe into eyiluncedo nangokwenzayo, into owaziyo ukuyithengela ikhaya okanye oko akude ephuphayo. Ewe, umzekelo, uninazala wayedla ngokukhalaza ngokungabikho kokucoca. Ngoko uthenge naye nomyeni wakhe ucocekisi! Ndikholelwe, uya kuxabisa isipho sakho esihlangeneyo. Kwaye uya kuqala ukuzicingela njengomfazi womninindlu onomyeni wakho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unyokokazi wakho uphila ngokuhlukileyo kuwe, ke akukho mzekelo unganikeli izinto eziphathekayo! Unokujamelana nokuphazamiseka kwakhe kwisipho sakhe. Uninazala unokucinga ukuba uyammangalela ngokulawulwa kwekhaya. Kungcono ukunika umama-mkhwenkwe wokuzalwa ngosuku oluthile lokuhle okanye umhlobiso. Ngokomzekelo, unokumnika isimboli yesilwanyana okanye isitifiketi sesipho sokuthenga kwisitolo.
Yintoni oya kunika umama kamzala ngomhla wokuzalwa, ukuba ngokukhawuleza unomlingiswa ongenakubekezeleleka kwaye ongenakunzima? Icebiso lam kuni: thetha nomyeni wakho! Uyazi umama wakhe ngcono kunye nokukhetha kwakhe kwizipho. Emva kokuba ufunde kumyeni wakhe oko umama wakho akuthandayo, uya kuba nako ukuqiqa into enokumnika ngayo usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa. Khumbula, awukwazi ukunikela nantoni na, njengoko oku kungakubi ngekamva lakho! Nangona umama-mkhwenkwe uthi kwakhona akawubhiyozeli usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, uya kummisa emanzini omphefumlo wakhe. Yaye ukuba ungayithobeli, uya kuyibamba ekhoneni lememori yakhe.
Ukunyaniseka, ngoku ndiba nobuhlobo obuhle kunye nomamazala kwaye ndibiza umnina. Ndiyakhumbula ukuba u-show-off, endiyilungiselele ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe wokuqala, xa wayebulela umkhwekazi waloo mfo omuhle, awayebelethile. Ndamxelela amazwi ombulelo phambi kweendwendwe kunye ne-tete-tete. Saxubusha yonke imihla yethu yokuzalwa, kwaye yayinyanisekileyo esuka entliziyweni. Khumbula, ukuvuyisana nomkhwekazi wakho, kwaye ngokubanzi, nawuphi na umntu kufuneka abe nentliziyo ecocekileyo kwaye engenakho injongo yokuzimela. Umhla wokuzalwa okanye intombazana yomhla wokuzalwa uza kuqaphela ukukhohlisa kwakho, kwaye uya kumsusa kuye.
Into ephambili akusiyo isipho oya kwenza uninazala, kodwa isimo sakho sengqondo kulo mntu. Kwaye ixesha elide umama wam umyeni wayengenakuyiqonda, de yena ngokwakhe waba ngumkhwekazi. Kungekudala unyana wam watshada. Kwaye okokuqala ndandibukhwele umkhwekazi wam. Ngamanye amaxesha andizange ndifune ukumngenisa endlwini yam. Nangona kunjalo, emva kwexesha, ndaqonda ukuba abantwana bakhula. Baba ngabantu abadala kunye nabazimeleyo. Unelungelo lokukhetha indlela yokwakha ubomi babo; kodwa thina basetyhini kufuneka sibe bulumko. Ndikholelwe, njengomkhwekazi, ukuba isipho esihle kunazo zonke kumama wendoda yakho kuya kuba yincinci elula: Inzala yokuzalwa, Umama.