Kwihostela yakho akukho ndawo yokunyathela inyawo - zonke iindawo zokudlala. Kodwa, nangona "ubukumkani bamathoyizi," umntwana uyacwina aze ahlale ekhala angenanto yokudlala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntwana engadlala amathoyizi - oku kuphazamisa abazali abaninzi. Nangona kule imeko akukho nto imangalisayo. Cinga ngokwakho, kuba nawe udla ngokukrakra kweengubo zakho, ubucwebe, njl, nangona konke kuthengwa kwiivenkile ezizodwa kwaye kunokubonakala kwangokoqobo. Kuphela nje ukuba uyithwala usuku, usuku lwangaphandle, sisigqibo. Kodwa kule meko, asitsho ukuba ukuba umntwana wakho uyeka ukuba nomdla kwiimidlalo zakhe, kufuneka ukhawuleze, nakanjani, uye esitolo kwizinto ezintsha. Nantsi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana akadlala idodoli okanye iimoto, mfundisa ukuba akwenze.
Ngoko ke, ngokuqala, kule meko, hlawula ingqalelo indlela umntwana adlala ngayo amathoyizi aze awaphathe. Ndiyabulela kule nto, wena, njengabazali, uya kukwazi ukuvavanya onke amathuba ayo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwenyama. Emva koko unako ukubonelela ngokukhuselekileyo umntwana wakho izicwangciso zomntu ngamnye okanye iziqendu zemidlalo. Kwibali lakho, ungalahlekelwa nayiphi na ibali lefestile okanye intandokazi yemifanekiso yomntwana ukususela ekuqaleni ukuya ekupheleni, njalo njalo. Kwaye konke kwenziwa ngokudlala kunye neetyski ezifanayo. Ndikholelwe, ibali elinjalo liqinisekile ukuba unomdla kumntwana wakho. Ngendlela, lo mdlalo uza kunceda umntwana wakho ahlakulele umxhelo wokuzimela kwaye uvule imida emitsha yokuzimela. Kwakhona kufuneka uqaphele ukuba umdlalo onjalo, apho umgca owona mkhulu unobhalo lwakho, wena, umntwana kunye neetys, kunokuzisa izibonelelo ezinkulu.
Ngendlela, ngoncedo lomdlalo ongezantsi ungakwazi ukuphumeza kakhulu kumntwana. Kwaye konke oku endaweni yokufunda rhoqo iinkcazo kunye nezigwebo eziqhelekileyo. Khawucinge nje ukuba ukhathala kangakanani umntwana wakho kwiizikhumbuzo eziqhelekileyo, apho ukhuluma ngendlela efanelekileyo malunga nendlela ofuna ukuziphatha kakuhle (umzekelo, etafileni). Kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye bubuhlungu kumntwana. Kule meko, kuya kuba mnandi ukunikela umntwana ukuba adlale, umzekelo, kwindawo yokutyela okanye i-cafe. Kodwa umsebenzi oqhekezayo kunye nobungqingili ujikeleze indlu, ebusweni bokuhlamba izitya okanye ukucoca igumbi lakho, unako ukujika umntwana ukuba abe ngumdlalo okufanayo, umzekelo, "Abantombazana-oomama" (okanye, mhlawumbi, ucoceko iqhawe elivela kwikhatywayo eyintandokazi okanye ngefeythi). Yazi, ukudlala kwimidlalo enendima yokudlala, umntwana wakho uya kuvuya ukukunceda kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuluhlula ixesha lakhe lokuphumla. Ngaphezulu, kuya kunceda umntwana ukuba aqonde uxanduva lwawo kunye namathuba kumntu "ilungu lentsapho elincinci".
Ngeke kube yinto engabonakaliyo yokunyusa into yokuba kwi-school age age, kubantwana abaninzi, indima ebalulekileyo ebomini ayidlala ngokudlala imidlalo, kodwa edlala kumntu omdala. Ngale ndlela, abantwana bahlala bezama ukuqonda, ihlabathi labantu abadala abayifunayo. Kulo mdlalo umntwana uye wabhala ngokucacileyo ibali lakhe, ibalinganiswa, indima yakhe. Kwaye konke kuhamba ngefestile yezinto ezimangalisayo zezingane kunye nemilingo. Kulo mzuzwana, umntwana wakho ufuna iimpawu zamathoyizi ezahlukileyo kakhulu phantsi kwezinto zangempela kwimpilo yabantu abadala. Umzekelo, iisethi ze "ugqirha oselula", umfana wesikolo, utitshala, umthengisi kwisitolo (ukulingisa iimveliso kunye nezisindo), izinto zokwakha (ii-designers ze-Lego, ii cubes, amanani ahlukeneyo), imoto, iinqanawa, iindiza, iinqwelo, izitya "Kwaninzi. Kananjalo kule minyaka yobudala bomntwana, musa ukulibala malunga neetyshi ezikunceda ukuphucula ukuxhamla komntwana kunye nokulungelelanisa. Apha ungabandakanya: iibhola, i-jumpers, izintambo zokudumbula njalonjalo. Kodwa asiyikucetyiswa ukuba sikhohlwe ngamapopi, amasoldati kunye neetyshi ezithambileyo.
Ewe, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba nayiphi na amathoyizi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imnandi kangakanani kwaye iyamnandi, asiyeke ukukholisa umntwana, kwaye akayikudlala kuwo. Oku, njengomthetho, kwenzeka ngeemidlalo eziqhelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, inqwelo yokudlala kunye namahashe iyimoto yokudlala kunye namahashe. Kule meko, kukho rhoqo iindlela ezimbini zokuvuselela umdla womntwana kwimdlalo. Kwimeko yokuqala, unako ukumnika umntwana kunye naye, okanye umvumele, ngokuzimela, enze ithoyizi ngezandla zakhe. Kwaye kwimeko yesibini, kufuneka udibanise umdlalo kumathoyizi ngoncedo lwezongezo ezahlukeneyo. Ezi zongeziweyo, umzekelo, zingaba ziintlobo zezinto eziqhelekileyo ebomini babazali: iibhokisi ezingenanto okanye iibhotile zeziqhumiso, izimonyo okanye into enye umntwana angayithutha kwisithuthi esifanayo kunye nehashe okanye imoto. Intombazana ingayisebenzisa ngokulula, njengeziqholo zeedodoli. Kodwa kwimibala eyahlukeneyo yengubo, iibhokisi ezivela kwinto ethile, unokuyilalela umntwana, ibhotwe, okanye wenze i-doll. Eyona nto ibhetele, ukuba inkunzi iyenze ngezandla zayo. Kule meko, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufuna ukudlala "kwindawo yakhe". Ngendlela, ngoncedo lwezinto ezibalaseleyo, unokupenda "ihlabathi labantwana" ngokubalabala, apho baya kudlala indima ebalulekileyo, ukuzalisekisa amathoyizi.
Kodwa ke, ukuba umntwana engadlala okanye enqaba amathoyizi, dlala nayo kunye. Khumbula ukuba kumntwana wakho umdlalo obalaseleyo udlala nabazali bakho. Ngendlela, akusoloko kuqwalasela ukuba ukuze umntwana ahlale 'enomdla' kwaye ujabulele umdlalo - makumqobe ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka kuwe. Lo ngowomnye wemithetho ebalulekileyo yokudlala umntwana kunye nabantu abadala.
Kwaye, gqibela, ungalokothi uthenge amathoyizi ukuze ukwanelise i-vagaries yengane. Iimpawu ezinjalo zihlala ziphazamisa abantwana, kodwa iimathoyizi-mantya, ngokuchaseneyo ixesha elide, nceda umntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba vumela ukuba amathoyizi abe ncinane, kodwa uthando kunye nokukhathalelwa kwabazali kunkulu. Inhlanhla kuwe!