Ngexesha elifanayo, ke, kubalulekile ukuba ugcine indlela yokuthetha ethembekileyo nevulekile? Emva koko le nto iyenzela wena! Masisebenze kunye kunye nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo nabathandekayo bakho, indlela yokubonakala intombazana engummangaliso. Kodwa konke ukwenzela.
Qala ngokulula. Zama ukuziqonda, uhlaziye kwaye uhlaziye iimpawu zakho. Ngaba ungumntu olula kwaye ovulekile? Soloko uthetha inyaniso emehlweni, ngamanye amaxesha andiyiyona nto imnandi kakhulu? Ngaba unyanisekileyo kwaye uqobo? Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngokuchaseneyo, uhlala unento into ekuthetha ngayo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo? Ngenkathi ngezinye iinkhathi unako ukuthula, ukususela kwimpendulo ngqo kumbuzo odla ngokushiya? Ngokuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo le mibuzo, uya kuba nolwazi olungcono ngokwakho, ukubonakalisa iimpawu ezibonakalisa wena kuphela. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, akunakwenzeka ukudala umfanekiso omtsha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba utshintsho emfanekisweni wakho luphelele kunye nehlabathi, nokuba ufuna ukutshintsha kuphela izinto ezithile kuwe.
Xa ufumanisa ngokucacileyo umthwalo wakho (oko kukuthi, iimpawu zesimo esele zikhona, indlela yakho yokuqhagamshelana nabahlobo kunye nokuziphatha kwinkampani), unokuya phambili. Qala ukutshintsha, kwaye kungekhona kuphela kwintombi yakho, kodwa kumntu wonke ojikelezile. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uziphatha ngokwahlukileyo nabantu abahlukeneyo (umzekelo, kunye nentombi yakho ethandekayo kunye nabanye abantu), ngoko konke onokukwazi ukufezekisa kuya kuba yinto engabonakaliyo kunye nokukhohlisa. Akunakwenzeka (kakuhle, ngaphandle kweziganeko ezibalaseleyo!) Ukudlala indima emininzi kakuhle. Emva kwakho konke, udlala ubomi bakho! Ngoko, ukuba ufuna ukunikela umfanekiso wakho wemfihlelo, ufuna ngokwenene ukuba ube mfihlelo kwaye unomdla. Zama!
Iingcali zengqondo zithi nayiphi na umkhwa ubalwa iintsuku ezingama-21. Khumbula oku! Kuphela malunga nenyanga uza kufuna enye ukuphulaphula kunokuthetha. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuthetha ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngemiba yemihla ngemihla kungengowomntu othandekayo, kodwa kunye nabasetyhini - abahlobo, umama, ummelwane. Unako ukukwazi ukuchitha imizuzu emi-5 ukuya kwemi-10 ngemihla. Kungcono ukuba ufumane entsha okanye ukhumbule i-hobby endala. Makube ubuncinane ukukhwela, nokuba uboyiweyo, nangona i-beadwork, akunandaba! I-hobbyist isoloko inomdla! Ixesha lakho lokuzilibazisa linesihloko esongezelelweyo kwingxoxo, kunye nomthombo wokuzichukumisa kwakho, kunye ne-outlet (kholelwa mna, kungekhona kuphela kuwe.) Indoda iyavuya kwakhona ukubona ukuba intanda yakhe into inokutshintsha!)
Enyanisweni, ukuba kubonakale kunomdla kwaye kuyimfihlakalo kumntu, kufuneka ukuba ube yedwa. Emva kwakho konke, nayiphi na intombazana enomdla ongathandabuzekiyo ngaphandle kwezinto zokuthenga kunye nefowuni, uyakwazi ukudala kunye nexesha elide ukugcina umdla wabantu ngokwabo. Kubalulekile kuphela ukuziphatha njengokuba le nzala kubafana osuke ubenayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu apha apha umoya wakho ongaphakathi. Ukuba wenza njengabafana ukuba ungumntu okhangayo, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakho awuqinisekanga ngalokhu - ayiyi kuba nempumelelo! Kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho, kwaye kwindlela enzulu kakhulu.
Khumbula i-heroine yefilimu eyaziwayo, ephindaphinda yona ithi: "Ndiyona nto inqabileyo kwaye inomtsalane! Ndiyingozi kakhulu njengabantu! "Ngoko kufuneka ube nomgaqo ofanayo. Kumele ukholelwe ngaphakathi kwakho ukuba unelungelo elaneleyo kunye nemfihlakalo ukuze uhlale unomdla kwizesondo ezinamandla. Ukuzithemba kukuvelele kakhulu ngabantu abakuzungezile (oko kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye kungekhona nje isoka lakho, kuba mhlawumbi uxoxa (kakuhle, ubuncinane!) Wena kunye nabahlobo bakhe. , ngoko kuya kuba ngumsebenzi wakho.) Umthandayo unokuphinda aqiniseke ukuba akaphosakeli ngokukhetha!)
Ukuba (kwaye kungekhona nje ukubonakala) enomdla kwaye ekhangayo, intombazana akufanele ifikeleleke kakhulu - kuyo yonke into. Amadoda abazingeli ngokwemvelo. Abayithandi isixhoba esilula! Ngoko ke ungagijimi ngokukhawuleza ngomhla, kwindoda ekulindelwe ixesha elide! Gcina ikhefu (kodwa ungagqithisi), ngamanye amaxesha uyayinqabela umhla (kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esihle neqondakalayo!), Musa ukukhawuleza ukuba usondelelene kunye. Umntu omdala sele ephumelele intombazana, uya kuqonda ngakumbi ubuhlobo bakho. Kodwa awubonakali ukuba yi-buka, ngaphandle koko kuya kuhamba. Kulula ukuthetha, ukukhawuleza, ukuthandana, zibe ngokwakho, kodwa ungagqibi ukulungisa yonke into kanye. Makhe athabathe inxaxheba, qiniseka ukuba ufuna, ufuna ubu buhlobo. Kwaye emva koko emva kweminyaka nonke niyakhumbula ngeli xesha njengethuba elimnandi lothando kunye nobuhle!
Ndifuna ukunilumkisa ngenye indlela. Ngama-mystique yabasetyhini, njengemiphunga - awukwazi ukubika, kodwa awukwazi ukuhamba kakhulu. Ukuba le nto ikhona kuwe yonke ikhefu, ezinye iipuzzle, inokuyichukumisa. Akuyena wonke umntu othanda esikhundleni sokuba nobuhlobo obuhle (ukuzola okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, unomdla) uhlala nje ukwenza oko, ukuhlahlela ngamazwi-nxalenye, iziphakamiso kunye nokulungisa iingcamango. Umphumo wobudlelwane obunjalo bobabili unokupholisa okanye ukuphuka. Cinga, ngaba ufuna le nto? Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo. Ngoko qaphela. Khumbula ukuba kumntu, iimpawu zakho zokwenyani zihlala zibaluleke kakhulu, nangona kunzima ukubonakala ngathi. Ewe-ewe! Emva koko, sisoloko sithatha ngokungathandekiyo. Asifuni ukuhlola ngokwaneleyo ukunyaniseka kwethu, ukuthembela kwabasetyhini, ukunyaniseka. Kubonakala kuthi kuthi intanda esele isazi ngaphambili ukuba siza kuthungela kwaye siyimthukuthele, kwaye apho senza loo nto ibe yintlanzi. Kodwa qwa lasele ubuhlobo bakho. Mhlawumbi, nje oku kuhamba kunye nokuthanda kwakho kukhethiweyo wakho? Mhlawumbi nawe unesibindi, unesibindi, unokwethenjelwa? Mhlawumbi, ngaba ubuthakathaka bakho besifazana obubekwe bucala bakhe bendalo?
Khumbula ukuba unako ukuhlala intombazana eyimfihlakalo kuphela xa i-halo eyingqayizivele kunye nemfihlakalo iya kuba yendalo kuwe, ingenakunyulwa. Amadoda akhathazeke kakhulu ngobuxoki. Yaye ukuba udlala naye, uthetha ngamabomu, ngokukhawuleza, ke ngoko, abaninzi abantu abalungileyo, le nto iyakwazi ukukhawuleza. Musa ukwenza oku. Esikhundleni sezo ziqhinga, zama ukufumana ezi zinto ziyimfihlo, ubunqunu besifazana, ezivela kuwe. Xa uzifumanisa, uya kufuneka ufunde ukungazifihla kwabanye (kuquka, eqinisweni, kumntu othandekayo). Kwaye ngoko uya kuba mfihlelo kwaye uhlukile kubantu. Kwaye unokugcina umtsalane wakho kumntu omthandayo iminyaka emininzi.