Yintoni ongayenza ukuba ungakhathazeki ngomfana

Uthando luvakalelo oluhle, oluhle kakhulu. Ngoko babhala kwiindinyana zeengcamango kunye neenveli zentsimbi yesithathu. Kodwa enyanisweni, akufani njalo. Kwaye kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo, xa le mvakalelo enhle kwaye enhle, ngokuqinisekileyo iphenduka iinyembezi emlanjeni, amaqhinga kunye neentlungu eziqhekekileyo. Ndingathini ukuba ndingakhathazeki malunga naloo mntu? Umbuzo ophuthumayo, akunjalo?

Kutheni le ntombazana ihamba ngenxa yesondo esinamandla? Kukho izizathu ezininzi, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye zibuhlungu kakhulu, sihlupheka xa singayiva impendulo kubo bonke abasuka entliziyweni. Kodwa yintoni omele uyenze ukuze ungakhathazeki ngomfana? Ziziphi iingcinga ezikugubungela imini nobusuku, kukuthintela ukulibala ukulala kwakho nokuphumla kuzo zonke ezi ngxaki?

Andiyithandi. UNGATHANDA. Izandi ezothusayo, awucingi na? Enyanisweni, eli nyaniso libuhlungu kakhulu kwaye alibi. Kwaye ukuhlala naye kunzima kakhulu kwaye kungenakubekwa. Ingqondo iqonda ukuba oku kuyimfuneko ukulwa ngandlela-thile. Yaye intliziyo ayifuni kwaye ayikwazi ukuyeka imizwa yayo.

Ukuze uphile, umntu kufuneka akwazi ukunqoba, mhlawumbi nangona imini ilanga iya kuba yimvula, kwaye le mvula iya kuhlala entliziyweni ngonaphakade.
Ngoko ke, ukuba siqale ngoku, makhe sizame ukufaka ingcamango. Enyanisweni, kumntu othandwayo, i-atrophi ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ke kufuneka uqokelele intando ibe yintonga, uze uziphoqe ukuba ucinge, uhlalutye.

Kukho inyaniso enye engabhalwanga, ethi uluthando lokwenene alubuhlungu. Indoda yokwenene ayisoze yakha ibhinqa liyakhala. Ngako oko ..

Kwaye ke ingqondo ijika kwakhona. Ngenxa yokuba indoda ethandekayo ayikwazi ukungaqiniseki. Makhe abe ngumnxila, angasebenziyo, kunye neendlela ezintathu ezingaphelelanga, isitshixo esincinci kunye nokungabi nako konke ukulungelelanisa ebomini, kodwa ungokoqobo kwaye uyona mhle.

Okanye, unamandla, unengqiqo, ungenakufikeleleka, unengqondo, ukhethekileyo kwaye awunakulibaleka, ukuba kuye akukho nto ayikho nto, akukho nto iphosakeleyo.

Ngamafutshane, kunokukhetha ezininzi, kodwa isiphetho sinye-ukulinganiswa komntu othandweni, ngokuqhelekileyo kulungelelaniswe, kunye neemeko ezintle zezinto zakhe zokubonga zihlambulukileyo.

Ngako oko: inzame yesibini ibandakanya ukucinga. Kakade. Intliziyo ilwa ngakumbi, kuba ukuba kusebenza, kuya kufuneka ibe nokungathandabuzeki. Ngomfutshane, lo msebenzi awuveli kwimiphunga. Kodwa ndimele ndizame. Yaye xa intloko ekugqibeleni isebenza, kufuneka uyenze oku: thabatha icwecwe lephepha uze ubhale zonke iimpawu ezimbi nezilungileyo zomntu othandayo. Khangela, yintoni enye: efanelekileyo okanye engalunganga. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akukho phantsi. Oku kuqondakalayo. Yintoni enokuyenza into engalunganga kwindawo efanelekileyo?

Ewe, siqhubela phambili kwisigaba esilandelayo sokuqala. Nazi izinto ziyinkimbinkimbi ngakumbi, kuba ngoku kufuneka silwe nokukhohlisa kwethu. Njengoko ayiyinto engaqhelekanga kunye neengxolo, kodwa, enyanisweni, ezininzi iimpawu ezilungileyo zomntu wakho othandekayo ngokwenene ziya kuba zibi. Yiyo nje into ofuna ukuyiqonda, ungayilahli kwaye ukholwe.

Ukuba ucinga kanzima, kungenokwenzeka ukuba akahambisani nonke, kodwa akayi kuphahlazeka, akayi kuphupha, kodwa akanakulinganisa, kungekhona, kodwa aphikisayo. Olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka ngonaphakade. Ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke intokazi iya kuba neyantlukwano yakhe, kodwa isiphelo kukuba, emva koko, enye-ayilungileyo, uyindoda nje. Kwaye kwafana nokubeka kwakhe. Kwaye kukho kwaye kungcono. Kakhulu bhetele. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukuba ubulawe?

Ngendlela, ndifuna ukuphawula ngokukhawuleza ukuba izinto ezikhankanywe ngentla ayithethi nantoni na ukuba umntu wakho othandekayo uyisidumbu, umculi onqabileyo kunye ne-schizophrenic ngokunyaniseka. Akayena nje indoda. Akunjalo onokuhlala kunye nobomi bakho bonke. Inyaniso kukuba zonke iinkalo zayo ezimbi, ngoku zilula ukucinga, ziya kuba zibonakala ngakumbi ngexesha, kuba ubomi buya kuqala, ubomi bentsapho. Zama ukucinga ngomntu othandekayo ekhaya. Kuphela ngaphandle kwemfundiso. Kwenene. Lapha uhlala nawe, uphuze ubhiya, iyunivesithi ayisigqibekanga, akukho msebenzi, abantwana abayiphuliphuli, kuba upapa uhlala, ngoko ke akuyigunya. Kwaye uhudulela yonke intsapho, usebenze kwimisebenzi emithathu kwaye ungadluli usuku xa akuthandayo. Ewe, kukho ukungafani kwaye abantu bayashintsha. Ewe, ukuba akunjalo. Ngaba ungatsho kamva, abantu abadala, abanesilumko kunye namava nabafazi ababethekileyo: kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ndiwe ngenxa yothando. Emva koko ndiza kubandezeleka kunyaka okanye ezimbini, kodwa ngoku ndiyidonsa le suitcase encinane ebomini bam ngaphandle kwipeni.

Ngendlela, unokuthi kwakhona ngoku ukuba intanda yakho ayikho into yokuba ulungile kwaye uyinyani. Ndiyaxolisa, kodwa andiyi kukholelwa. Amadoda okwenene awavumeli ukuba abafazi bahlupheke, kwanabo abayithandiyo. La madoda anobulumko obudalwa bendoda kunye nokukwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba le ntombi ayihluphekanga. Ewe, ngokwenene, bayakwazi ukuchazela inyaniso yobomi, kwaye emva kokuthetha kwabo intlungu iyadula, kwaye emva koko iphela.

Ngoko cinga ngamabhinqa abizayo, cingisisa.

Kunzima ukubaleka kude nothando. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ukusinda kule ntlungu, ukuba lo lulo uthando lokugqibela ebomini bethu. Ngoko, eneneni, kubonakala nje kuphela. Uthando olungunaphakade luphela kuphela. Uthando olungavumelekanga kungekudala okanye kamva luphela. Umele ukhuthazele kwaye ufumane amandla kuwe. Kufuneka uphume ebhedeni, uphonsa umsila otywengile, uzibeke uze wenze esitalato. Awunako ukwesaba abantu abasandulana nabo kunye namadoda amatsha. Ngenxa yokuba uthando lokwenene lungaba phakathi kwabo, ngoko musa ukuzidela ukuze nilwe nempumelelo yenu. Ukuba uhlala ucinga ukuba ondiyithandi, awukwazi ukuphosakela kweshumi, ekuthandeni nawe ezindlebeni.

Ewe, ukuba emva kwakho konke, ukucinga kunye nokuhlaziya yonke into, malunga nento ekhankanywe ngasentla, sele ufumene izigqibo kwaye uyavuma ukuba akude abe yinkosana yehashe elimhlophe, ufuna ukuba naye. Ewe, isigqibo esisodwa: uthanda ukuhlupheka. Ngoko ke, akudingeki ukuba ucele ukuba wenze ntoni ukuze ungakhathazeki malunga nomfana. Intlungu yakho nothando lwakho kukunika intsingiselo yobomi. Oku akuthethi ukuba ungumntu ombi, kwaye akuthethi ukuba ubuthathaka. Kuphela nje ukuba unjalo. Kuzo zonke iinkwenkwezi ozifumana ngameva, kwaye nakwiindawo ezibi kakhulu. Ngoko ke kufuneka uvume ukuba uqaphela uthando kuphela kule fomu kwaye ujabulele oko unakho. Kwaye mhlawumbi kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini emva koko, ephuma kwimisebenzi yakhe emithathu, ubheka ingqondo yakho engaziwayo, kwaye uya kukuvuma athi: "Ndiyakuthanda." Kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba ngokuzimela kwakho konke oku, usenomdla ngakumbi.