Ukuba unomdla malunga nombuzo wokufumana umntu wakho ekudandathekeni, kufuneka uqale ufune ukucacisa imbangela yesimo sakhe. Ukufumana umntu ovela kulo mhlaba we-detachment kweli hlabathi, umele umazi kakuhle kwaye uyayiqonda into enokumchaphazela ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye yintoni eya kubangela ukuphazamiseka. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba amantombazana, ezama ukukhipha umntu ekudandathekeni, amenze abe mbi ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, kwindawo yokuqala, akufanelekile ukuthatha njengomgangatho wesimo kwiimeko zakho zobomi. Khumbula ukuba umfana unokufumana iingxaki ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kunye nenqanaba elihlukeneyo lokuzinza kwengqondo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukumkhupha ngaphandle kweli lizwe ngokwakho, ngenxa yokuba ungayiboni ingcambu yengxaki, kungcono ukubuyela kwingcali. Ingcali kuphela inokurhoxisa kwiimeko ezimbi ukwenzela ukuba ingalimazi ingqondo yomntu. Kodwa kule meko sithetha ngenene ngxaki. Ungakulibala ukuba ukudandatheka sisifo esibandakanya ukuphulwa kwintliziyo yomntu. Kwaye silapha sithetha ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokunceda umntu oye wathandeka ukuba aphile. Njengomthetho, le meko ichithwa kakhulu kunoklinikhi.
Ngoko ke, ukuqala, kubalulekile ukucacisa iimpawu eziphambili zesifo. Ezi ziquka:
ukulangazelela nokudabuka;
- Ukungabikho, ukulala ebuthathaka ixesha elide;
- ukungabikho komdla ngokugqibeleleyo kokutya kunye nesondo;
- ukungazivumeli unetyala kwaye ungezantsi;
- ukuhlala ukhathala;
- iintloko kunye neentlungu kwindawo yesentliziyo;
- uthetha ngokuzibulala.
Ukuba ugcina zonke ezi zimpawu kumntu omthandayo, ngoko kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengcali, nangona umfana engavumi. Le yinyaniso yenyango kwaye wena ngokwakho awukwazi ukuyifumanisa. Ngaphezu koko, ukungenelela okuzimeleyo kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo engapheliyo. Ukuba loo nto idabukisayo kwaye ithi ubomi abukho umdla, kodwa akazami ukuzibulala, ngokuqhelekileyo uyadla kwaye akayi kukhononda ngempilo - ngoko uncedo lwakho lufanelekile.
Ngoko, okokuqala, siya kuqonda ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abantu abatsha banenkxalabo yokungabikho kokuphunyezwa kweenjongo zabo. Ndiyavuma, sonke sazisola ngento ethile, kodwa kamva saqonda ukuba kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kunzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda. Omnye wabhekana nokulula, kodwa kumntu kunzima ukwamkela inyani, kodwa akakholelwa ukuba unokutshintsha ukuba ibe ngcono. Inokwenzeka ukuba, intsha yakho inenkinga enjalo. Ukuyicombulula, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba umntu uyakwazi ukufezekisa into ethile. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka umkhuthaze ukuba azalise iminqweno encinci. Umzekelo, umntu omncinci unomphupha wokuba ngumlobi odumileyo, ososayensi okanye umculi, kodwa akafumani ukuba azibonele ngenxa yezinto ezininzi. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukuguqula iphupha lakhe libe yinto yokuzilibazisa, engenako ukufumana izibonelelo eziphathekayo, kodwa ukuthanda kwakhe. Kwi sixeko ngasinye kukho iintlobo zeeklabhu kwimfuno. Mema umntu ukuba aye kwenye yazo. Makhe akhulume nabantu abaneetalente ezifanayo, baya kuba sesangqaweni sabamqondayo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuba nomuva ukuba yena unomdla kwinqanaba elithile labantu, kwaye ke akusiyo yonke into elahlekileyo kwaye unokuqhubeka. Ukongezelela, xa abathandekayo abanetalente behlanganisene ndawonye, ngemigudu efanayo bazuza oko bangakholelwa yodwa.
Kwakhona, insizwa inokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi yoluntu, eya kuba yinto enomdla ngokwenene. Kungaba nayiphi na into: umbutho wekonsathi yomqhubi oyintandokazi, ufanisa kwimidlalo eyahlukeneyo yekhomputha okanye yedesktop kunye nokunye okuninzi. Into ephambili kukuba uthatha inxaxheba kule nto, wabonisa umdla kwaye waxhasa zonke iziqalo zayo. Unokwenza into kunye, ufike ngeengcamango nezindlela zokuziphumeza.
Ukuze umntu angagcini, kuyimfuneko ukumsindisa ebomini obugcoba kunye nobomi. Kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba yonke imihla intsha kwaye iyimfuneko. Unokuhamba ngokukhawuleza ukuya kwesinye isixeko, ulungiselele ukunyuka ezintabeni kunye nabahlobo okanye uhambe ngokuhambahamba malunga nomzi ukuze uvula ezinye indawo. Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko awuyi kukwenza umntu, kodwa umdla kumdla. Kungenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukwazi zonke iimfuno zakhe kunye nezinto ezithandayo. Okokuqala, kufuneka ukhethe oko kuya kukukholisa kuye, kungekhona wena. Akufanele ufune ukunyanzela kwizinto zakho ezikhuthazayo, kwaye nangakumbi ungafanele ubeke ingcinezelo kumntu onoyiko kunye neengcingo. Ukuba ukwenza oku, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uqobo nje uqobo okanye uxabana naye. Ngoko musa ukunyanzelisa, kodwa nikela iingcamango ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba udala, kungekudala okanye kamva baya kuqala ukumdla, kwaye emva kwesigwebo esilandelayo uya kufumana imvume evela kumfana wakho. Into eyona nto ayikuze ilahleke ngokukhawuleza kwaye uxelele ukuba awukwazi ukumnceda nantoni na. Zama nje ukunyamekela imeko yakhe, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo uqhubeke, umkhumbuze ukuba uhlakaniphile kwaye ulungile, ekusekeleni amagama ngamabali ebomini bakhe aya kufumaneka ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba wena ngokwakho ukholelwa ukuba iqabane lakho liyakwazi ukufezekisa into ethile, kungekudala kamva yena uya kuqonda le nyaniso.