Kwixesha elidlulileyo, umntwana unokumbetha umntwana kumacini nakumaziko emfundo. Kuze kube namhlanje, e-US, abantwana banokumangalela abazali babo xa bebetha inzala. Oku kubizwa ngokuba ngumlenze ogqithiseleyo, kwaye emva koko sibheke ixabiso legolide. Asikwazi ukuzisa ifom efanelekileyo kubo bonke abantwana, ngoko khumbula ukuba bonke abantwana bahluke kwaye oko kuya kuthintela enye inyebe, inokugxininisa ingqondo yomnye umntwana.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, imodeli yokukhulisa ihlala ihamba nayo. Kwaye ukhetho olubini: mhlawumbi lenza okufanayo nabazali bethu, okanye nangayiphi na imeko musa ukwenza njalo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona ubuntu kumntwana. Nangona umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa ubudala, obonakala engagxininanga, sele eqonda okungakumbi kunokuba unokucinga.
Ukudumisa kubazali
Ukudumisa nokukhuthaza abantwana kuya kubakho. Ukudumisa kukukhuthaza, kodwa uzive umlinganiselo. U-Narcissism eschechenoku akazange avuyise. Bonisa umntwana oqhayisa ngaye. Kodwa udumise u-nestolko uqobo, kwaye ngoko isenzo esinazo. Masingathethi: "Kakayats yenziwe kakuhle!", Kodwa "Wafake ibhotela elihle kakhulu! Uyenzile! ".
Umdlalo kufuneka ube yi-wuddiness. Isimiselo - siya kumaqela athuthukayo kwaye ke ndiya kukuthenga i-candy - ingcambu yezinto ezingalunganga. Umntwana kufuneka afune ukuya khona. Oku akusiyo isikolo. Ewe, kwaye nesi sikolo akufanele sivumeleke, kuba lo "msebenzi" wengane yakhe. Kwaye kufuneka sisondele ngaphesheya. Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza abantwana. Umzekelo, vuma ukuba emva kokufumana ixesha elithile lamabakala amahle, umntwana uya kukwazi ukufumana oko akufunayo. Yithi, apha kwaye ngoku ungayithenga ibha, kodwa ukuba uthe wafikelela eziphakamileyo, uya kufumana ikhekhe. Oku kuphakamisa iinjongo zokuphucula.
Unokwenza okuchaseneyo. Ukuba umntwana akawufezekisi imisebenzi yakhe, eneminyaka yobudala, ibonakala kuwo wonke umntu, kufuneka ubonise ukuba abanelisekile, bacaphukile. Yithi ukulindeleke ngakumbi kwaye uyathemba ukuba unako ukukwenza, nje kubangelwa yivila. Kwakhona, ungamangaleli umntwana, uthethe ngezenzo zakhe okanye ukuhluleka.
Xa ujezisa, ungasebenzisa ngaphandle. Awukwazi ukubukela i-cartoon, ungaphumi kunye nabafana ukuba bahambe, abakwazi ukuthenga ithoyiyonto (oku akusebenzi kwizinto ezithengile okuthile).
Musa ukuguqula ukuhlanjululwa kwisigwebo, ngaphandle koko umntwana uya kuhlala engafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, umlumbi udibene nento engalunganga.
Umntwana omncinci ohlaselayo kwaye akaphumelelanga ukuthobisa unokufakwa kwisitulo kwaye avunyelwe ukupholisa ixesha elithile. Musa ukuthetha naye kwaye ungayithobeli ingqalelo, kuba kuya kuthatha ixesha elincinane kwaye ude ude uhlale apho. Unokuzama ukubeka ekhoneni, kodwa kungcono ukuba unike enye. Bambalwa ngokwenene abantwana abazithandayo.
Iindlela zohlwaywa
Akufuneki ukuthetha, ukuba sisichasene nesijeziso senyama. Ukususela ekubethweni kwipapa, akukho nto iyakushintsha, kwaye umntwana onomdla uya kuba nesinye isizathu sokukhala kunye nokuqonda ukuba umntu onamandla unokwenza.
Ngexesha lokuhlaziya, umntwana angadinga ukunxibelelana ngokomzimba. Mthathe nje ngesandla okanye ucinezele. Oku kudla ngokukhawuleza. Tshela umntwana ocebileyo ngenxa yokuba udabukile ukubona oku kwaye akayi kufeza into enje.
Kukho indlela ebizwa ngokuthi "One-two-three". Xa unika umntwana ixesha lokuba uqaphele ukuba usele kumkhawulo. Mxelele ukuba unalo ixesha lokuyeka ukungcola okanye ukuthabatha amathoyizi, okanye uqale ukwenza izifundo. Kwaye ukuba malunga neyesithathu akwenzi oko ufunayo (into ayifunayo), isijeziso siya kulandela. Ukuba umntwana uyayiqonda kwaye uyayilungisa, mxelele umbulelo kwaye ungagxininise ukuqonda kwinto eyenzekayo.
Cinga ngoluphi ijelo onokukuphepha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana uhlala ethatha izinto ezithe zafikelela kuye, unokuzikhetha nje okanye unike indawo yokudlala ngokutshintsha iincwadi zakhe kunye namathoyizi kumgca wezantsi. Xa unikela umntwana ukuba uzame ukuzidla ngepuni, cwangcisa ngengqondo yokucoca, kwaye ungakhathazeki malunga nesobho. Wena utitshala, ube nomonde.
Ungakhuthaza umntwana isakhono esitsha, kodwa kungekhona kwisidingo semvelo. Umntwana ongafuni ukutya, akafanele athole amnandi ngokutya isidlo sebhaski. Unako ukuyifumana, kuba i-borscht iyomnika amandla kunye namandla kwaye i-candy iyomnika amandla amakhulu. Iphulo eliyimpumelelo epopini lixesha elivuyo kunye nesizathu sokudumisa umntwana, ebona ukuba wenza konke kwaye iingubo zakhe azimanzi. Itheyibhile entsha ayiyi kuyimfuneko kule nto. Ngaphandle koko kuya kufuneka uthenge izikhuthazo kwiinqwelo zangasese zangasese.
Musa ukulibala ukuba ukuxhwaba kwenzeka kumntu wonke, kungakhathaliseki ubudala. Musa ukujezisa umntwana ngenxa yokungenzi into ethile. Buza ukuba uya kuba nexesha lokwenza oko kamva, mhlawumbi ukhathele okanye ucasulwe. Kule ndlela, thina ngokwethu asizingeli umsebenzi.
Umntwana malunga nemibini emibini unokuchaza isizathu sokuba kungavunyelwe kwibala lokudlala ngexesha lemvula, kuphela ukukwenza ngezivakalisi ezimfutshane kunye nokuphazamisa kwizinto ezifunwayo. Kodwa umntwana omdala akakwazi nje ukuxelela ngokuguquka okumanzi, malunga nokubandayo kunye nezinto, kodwa nokuxwayisa ukuba angaya kwiinqwelo ze-carousels ezingcolileyo, kodwa xa kukho abantwana abaninzi abaqhumayo, uya kuhlala ekhaya.
Fumana isizathu sokudumisa, nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba bonke abantwana bakho abakwenzi. Mncede abe nokholo. Amazwi amnandi afuna ukuva konke ngaphandle kokunye, kwaye ngakumbi abantwana kubazali.
Unokuhlwaya, ungavumelani nokuziphatha, kodwa kufuneka uchaze ukuba endlwini yakhe uyathandwa kwaye nokuba yintoni na, uhlala uyamkela.
Kubalulekile ukwazi kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuzenza. Awuze uhlale ukhuselekile ekudakaleni kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo.
Zonke ijeziso kunye nokukhuthazwa kufuneka zihlanjululwe kwaye azihambelani nje kuphela kwimiba, kodwa kunye neengqondo zomntwana. Nangona ininzi abantwana, nitshisa kakhulu, uyavuma, kukho nabo bafuna igama eliqinileyo kunye nesenzo. Sifanele siziphathe ngokuqinileyo, kodwa ukuba lo mzekelo wendlela yokuziphatha unomphumo, ngoko kunjalo kunjalo. Musa ukulibala ukuba kufuneka kubekho isikhuthazo.
Sinqwenela ukukufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokukhuthaza nokuzohlwaya abantwana bakho.