Ungakuphepha njani ukugwetywa xa ukhulisa umntwana?
Imfundo ngaphandle kokuhlawulwa ivela kwimigaqo emininzi.
- Ukuqwalaselwa kobuchule bomntwana, iimfuno zakhe, iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno. Ebusweni kunokuthetha into eyodwa kuphela. Esikhundleni sokugxeka kunye nokumemeza kumntwana ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okungafanelekanga, abazali kufuneka bacinge ukuba kutheni kubonakala. Ukuba uthe ngamagama alula, isizathu sokuziphatha kakubi komntwana kukukhathazeka kwakhe kwangaphakathi, ukuvuya kunye nemvakalelo yokuba abazali abalungileyo kufuneka bafumane kwaye banqande.
- Ukuhlonela iimpawu zomntwana. Xa abazali beqaphela ukuba ngubani umntwana, bayavuma ukuba banamalungelo abo, nokuba ngaba abayithandi. Abazali abathanda abantwana babo kufuneka babe nesithakazelo kwizinto ezingabalulekanga kwizinto ezingabonakali njengento engathandeki kubo, kufuneka baqonde ukuba abantwana banelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo, banakho ukucinga kwabo ngokwabo nayiphi na i-akhawunti, nokuba ngaba kuyiphutha. Indlela enjalo iya kunceda ukwakha inkqubo yexabiso lomntwana, umfundise ukuhlalutya, umntwana uya kukwazi ukufumana iimpazamo zakhe aze azilungise.
- Ukuphucula ukuphumelela kwemfundo ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kobundlobongela, abazali baya kufuneka bafunde ukuqonda iimpazamo zabo kwaye baqonde ukuba abantu abagqibekileyo abakhoyo kwaye abayinto ehlukile. Kuza kufuneka sihlalutye rhoqo iindlela zethu zemfundo, inkqubo yethu yemfuno kunye namabango abazali abasebenzisayo kumntwana, ukwenza utshintsho oluthile lokuphucula kubo. Ukuba umntwana uqala ukuba ngumntu ongenakunqwenela kwaye ubhikisha ngemithetho yakho-cinga ngendlela efanelekileyo ngayo kule nto okanye loo meko. Umntwana unokungavumi ukudlala ngemithetho yakho, ngenxa yokunganeliseki ngeminqweno yakhe.
- Omnye wemithetho ebalulekileyo kunye neyimfuneko evumela ukuba uvelise imfundo ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwezijeziso kukuthanda komntwana wakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa umntwana uthando lwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba lidala kangakanani, ukuyiveza ngokuchukumisa komzimba - ukuhlawula, ukudibanisa, njl njl. Uthando luzodlala indima enkulu ekukhulisweni komntwana. Ekubeni ezayo, uya kuthetha ngokulula nabanye abazungezile aze athole abahlobo.
- Beka imithetho kwintsapho yakho. Yenza uluhlu lwemithetho elo lonke ilungu lentsapho kufuneka lihambisane nayo, kwaye uzame ukuyizisa kumntwana. Jonga ukuba akukho ziphikisana kwiluhlu lwakho ngamagama akho, okungekho umntwana angayichaza ngayo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana akavumelekanga ukuba adle ixesha elimnandi, ngoko-ke akuvunyelwe kubo bonke. Dade, bazali, kwaye akukho nto-ekhaya okanye kwikhaya likagogo. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ukuphikisana kuya kuphazamisa umntwana, kudambise ukubunjwa kokuzithiba, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlakulela ukuziphatha okungafuneki kuye. Unako ukuhlambalaza kwaye uzame ukunyaniseka.
- Nika umzekelo omhle. Ukususela ekuzalaneni ukuya ebusheni, abazali bahlobo lwegunya labantwana babo. Yingakho kufuneka usebenzise le meko kwaye unike umntwana wakho inxalenye yendlela yakhe yokuziphatha nolwazi. Awukwazi ukufaka umntwana wakho uthando lokufunda ukuba ubona uhleli phambi kweTV, ukhangele umboniso ozithandayo. Awunifundisi umntwana ukuba ahloniphe abadala, ukuba wena ngokwakho uvumele ukubonakalisa ukungakhethi kwabamelwane kwizinga kunye nootitshala. Umntwana wakho akaze ahlambulule igumbi kwaye agcine indlu ihlambulukile, ukuba ijikeleze umonakalo kunye nokudideka. Xa umntwana exelisa abazali bakhe - lo ngumnqweno wendalo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uzibeke umsebenzi wokukhulisa umntwana ngaphandle kokumkhathaza, cinga ngomzekelo onika ngayo ukuziphatha kwakho.
- Kubalulekile ukuyeka imfundo ngokusetyenziswa kwamandla kunye negunya. Ukuba ngabazali baziphatha kakubi kumntwana, xa eqala ukuziphatha ngendlela engafanelekiyo, umzekelo, thabatha amathoyizi avela kwabanye abantwana, baqhekeze kwaye bahlakaze izinto, baya kufezekisa ukuba umntwana uya kuphephelela ukulawula kwaye ekugqibeleni aphume ekubonweni . Ukuba umntwana akanako umonde okwaneleyo kwaye ingqondo yakhe ayikwazi ukulwa nokuhlaselwa okunjalo, unokuguqula umntu ongazange abonise umlingisi kunye nesinyathelo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, uxinzelelo kumntwana luya kuqhuba zonke iingxaki zentsana, ezisezantsi kwisenzo esingalunganga, kude ngaphakathi. Kuya kuba kuphela ukubonakala kweengxaki.
- Landela ulandelelwano. Ngaphambi kokuba ukhulise umntwana ngaphandle kokwenza ubundlobongela, kufuneka uzifundise. Emahlombe abazali bawela umthwalo omkhulu. Kufuneka baqonde ngokucacileyo inkqubo yexabiso, bazi zonke iziqhelo kunye nemigangatho yeenkqubo zemfundo, bafunde ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezimbi, ukukhula nokukhula kwisicwangciso somntu kunye nomntwana. Bonke abazali abafuna ukukhulisa umntwana ohloniphekileyo nozithembayo, kuya kufuneka bahlakulele umonde ophawulekayo nokuzimela. Kule ndlela kuphela unokufezekisa iziphumo ezifunwayo.
Ukuze ukhuliswe ukuba uphumelele ngokwenene, iziphumo eziphumelele sele zithela isiqhamo ixesha elide, kwaye kuya kufuneka uziqubuzele ngehlaya. Kubalulekile imihla ngemihla ukwakha ulwalamano lomntwana nomntwana wakho. Kancinci, uya kukwazi ukuza kuqondana, ufunde ukuqonda omnye ngesigidi-magama, ukwakha kunye naye ulwalamano oluthembekileyo olusekelwe eluthandweni olukhululekile.