Akukho mithetho eqhelekileyo yokuba abazali bafanele bafunde ngokukhulisa abantwana, kuba abanakufaneleka kuzo zonke iimeko zokuphila kunye naziphi na iimeko, loo mithetho ayikho. Zonke iintsana ziyahlukileyo kwaye inkwenkwe nganye yedwa, ukusuka ekubonakala kwimibala. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho izinto ezingafanele zisetyenziswe xa ziphakamisa umntwana. Ngoku siza kuthetha ngabazali abangenakukwenza.
Ngoko, ziziphi izinto ezifanele ziphetshwe xa ziphakamisa imvumba:
Musa ukuhlazisa umntwana wakho
Ngamanye amaxesha, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, kungekhona ngenjongo, sinokuthi kumntwana: "Awukwazi ukucinga nantoni na? Kutheni unayo intloko ehlombe? "Yonke into enjalo. Nawo onke amaxesha xa umntwana weva izinto ezinjalo kuthi, umfanekiso wakhe ochanekileyo uyawa. Ngoko ke, bazali, khumbula ukuba izinto ezinjalo azidingeki ukuba zithethe naziphi na izimo.
Ungasongela umntwana
Unina nootata abaninzi bathi kumntwana: "Ukuba uphinde ube yintrone, ndiya ku ..." okanye "Okwangoku uya kwenza ntoni na, oko ndithethile kuwe okanye kum!". Khumbula ukuba naliphi na umntwana ekuva, kungcono ukuba akakuphathisi okanye uzalise izicelo zakho. Wena ngokwakho ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba akwesabe kwaye akuthiyile. Akukho sisongelo esinokuba luncedo kuwe, kuba ukuziphatha komntwana kunokuba kubi kakhulu.
Musa ukuzifunela izithembiso
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwidatrato okanye kwi-cinema, unokubona indlela umntwana eya kwenza ngayo into, kwaye umama uthi: "Ngoku, ngexesha elifanayo, uthembisa ukuba awuyi kuphinda wenze oku kwakhona," ngoxa umntwana, ngokuqinisekileyo, uthembisa. Nangona kunjalo, emva kwesigama seyure umntwana usaphinda into athembisa ukuba akaze aphinde ayenze. Abazali bacaphukile kwaye bacasulwa, iilwanyana ezithembisa. Khumbula ukuba ngenxa yokwenza isithembiso sifana nesandi esingenangqondo, akazi ukuba yintoni. Emva kwakho konke, isithembiso sisoloko sihlangene nekamva, kwaye abantwana bahlala kuphela namhlanje kunye nalo mzuzwana, okwenzeka kulo mzuzwana. Ukuba umntwana wakho unesiqhelo kwaye unesidima, izithembiso zakho ziya kuvelisa ukuba netyala kuye, kwaye ukuba, ngokuchasene noko, kunokuba yinto enokuzithemba ngokubhekiselele kwiimvakalelo, ngoko uya kuhlakulela ngokwakho. Emva koko, wonk 'ubani uyazi ukuba unokuthetha nantoni na, kodwa uya ...
Musa ukunyamekela umntwana kanzima
Ukuba uya kunqanda umntwana, ngoko, ngokuhamba kwexesha, mfundise kwingcamango yokuba yena uyindawo engenanto kwaye akakwazi ukwenza nantoni ngaphandle kwuncedo lwakho. Uninzi oomama nootata abangakholelwa ukuba inkunzi inokwenza izinto ezininzi ngokwabo, ingaphantsi. Isiqubulo sakho kufuneka sibe ibinzana elithi: "Ungalokothi wenze ntoni kumntwana into enokuyenza yedwa".
Musa ukufuna umntwana wokuthobela ngokukhawuleza
Khawucinge nje ukuba umyeni wakho uthi: "Mhlobo wam, wenza ntoni na? Masiyeke yonke into kwaye nangoko ndiyenze ikhofi! "Mhlawumbi, abayi kukhwankqiswa ngetoni ehlelekile. Ngokufanayo, umntwana akawuthandi xa ufuna ukuba uzalisekise ngokukhawuleza isicelo sakho, ushiye yonke ibhizinisi lakhe, ngaphandle kwesibini ukulibaziseka.
Musa ukunyanzela umntwana wakho
Ngoku sithetha ngokuvunyelwa. Abantwana banomdla kakhulu, ngoko banokuziva xa abazali babo bekhuni okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, besaba ukuba bazinzima. Ngexesha elinjalo abantwana banqumla imida yemvume, kwaye abazali abayithobeli okanye bayesaba ukunqaba umntwana wabo. Ngaloo ndlela, uyangenisa kumntwana ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kukho ukungafani kuyo yonke imithetho, ngoko kufuneka nje uzame kancane, ukuze yonke into ibe yinto efuna ngayo.
Yiba njalo
Umzekelo, ngoMgqibelo unemihlali kwaye wena ngokwakho uvumela umntwana ukuba enze yonke into evunyelwe kuye okanye izinto ezithile. Kodwa ngeLwesibini, xa eqala ukwenza oko wamvumele ngoMgqibelo, uyamgxeka kwaye uthi awukwazi ukwenza oku. Apha, zibeke endaweni yeemvuthu. Ungafunda njani ukuqhuba imoto, ukuba ngoLwesithathu noLwesine ngokukhanya okubomvu awukwazi, kodwa ngezinye iintsuku unako?
Khumbula ukuba abantwana abanabantu abadala, ngoko bafuna ukulandelelana kwezigqibo kunye nezenzo.
Musa ukusukela kumntwana osemncinane ongafanelanga iminyaka yakhe
Musa ukulindela kumntwana wakhe oneminyaka emibili ubudala, ukuba wayethobela kwiminyaka emihlanu, kuba ngale ndlela ungahlakulela kuye kuphela ukungathandi Xsebe, kungekhona ukuziphatha okuhle.
Akuyimfuneko ukucela umntwana ukuba akhuphe ukuziphatha, engakwaziyo, kuba oku kuya kuba nempembelelo embi ekuphuhlisweni kokwazi kwakhe.
Musa ukuthetha kakhulu malunga nokuziphatha.
Thina nsuku zonke sitshela umntwana wethu amazwi angamawaka okugxeka. Ukuba nje uthatha kwaye ubhale phantsi onke amazwi umntwana awuva ngalo usuku kwaye avumele baphulaphule abazali babo, unokuthi ikhulu leepesenti oza kukhwankqiswa. Yintoni ongazixeleli abantwana bakho? Ukukhubeka, amabali athile, iintetho zokuziphatha, ukuhlekwa usongelo, ukusongela ... Umntwana "nje unqamle" phantsi kokuphuma komlomo kunye nempembelelo yakhe. Le yindlela yodwa onokuzikhusela yona, ngoko ukhawuleza ufunda ngale ndlela. Ngenxa yokuba umntwana akakwazi ukucima ngokupheleleyo, uqala ukuzivakalelwa, ngenxa yoko, umntwana uhlambalaza.
Musa ukuthatha inambuzane ngokufanelekileyo ukuba uhlale umntwana
Khawucinge nje ngomzuzu ukuba uye wakhulisa umzekelo omhle womntwana: uhlala ehlonipha abantu abadala kunye nabantu abadala, abangazange bavukele, unokuhlala ekhangelwa yonke indawo, uhlala ethule, wenza konke ocela kuye. Unqatshelwe nayiphi na imvakalelo emibi - unobulungisa, unembeza, uthembekile. Mhlawumbi kwiimeko ezinjalo sisebenzelana nabantu abadala? Naliphi na isazi senzululwazi esiza kukuxelela ukuba umntwana "ongumzekelo" akanakuvuyisa. Ngenxa yokuba "mna" ndifihliwe phantsi kwegobolondo, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakho ngokwakho uye wakha waza wakha iingxaki ezinzulu zengqondo.