Ukoyika abantu besifazane

Kule nqaku, siza kuthetha nawe malunga neentlonelo ezintathu zowesifazane, ezibangela iziganeko zazo kunye nezindlela zokuzilahla. Ngokombono wam, le ngcaciso iya kuba luncedo kubo bobabini nabasetyhini. Emva kokuyifunda, umntu uya kuba ngcono kangcono ekuqondeni into eninzi efana ne "kwengqondo yezesetyhini", kwaye umfazi angenza izigqibo ezithile kuye.


Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ubuhle

Wonke umfazi uyaqonda ukuba ubuhle obungaphandle abukwazi ukuhlala ngonaphakade. Uyesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumtsalane wakhe. Ngako oko, enye yezona ziqhamo ezinqabileyo zowesifazane ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuhle babo.

Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, umntu ngamnye ufuna ukuba, okokuqala, axabiseke ngenxa yoxolo lwangaphakathi kunye neempawu ezilungileyo. Kodwa ngaba besetyhini basebenzisani ukutsala ingqalelo kubantu? Ngaba ihlabathi elityebi ngaphakathi? Ngaba isibheno sangaphandle Kwenzeke ukuba amadoda kuqala kuqala aqwalasele ukubonakala komfazi. Iifayili kunye nezimonyo zenzelwe ukugxininisa ubuhle bombutho wesibhambathiso, esinikwe ingqalelo kubantu.

Ukuze ulondoloze ulutsha, abafazi abawucongi imali, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Bahlala kwiidlo, benze imisebenzi yokuhlinzwa, bathenge iipilisi ezahlukeneyo, bathathe ibhafu, benze iimaski kunye nokunye okuninzi. Ngamanye amazwi, balungele ukwenza nayiphi na imibingelelo ngenxa yokugcina ubuhle, kwaye banqotshwa ngumgangatho wonyaka.

Ubuhle bunamazinga aphakamileyo. Umzekelo, ukulahlekelwa into endiyithandayo kwisicwangciso sezemali kuba nesihawu, kodwa ukulahlekelwa ngumhle kunento eyoyikisayo. Into enokuyithengwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yindleko kangakanani, kodwa ubuhle buyingxenye kunye nexabiso eliphezulu.

Abasetyhini bayesaba ukulahlekelwa sisixhobo sabo esikhulu sokukhawulela ingqalelo yindoda. Ngokungazange ayidle, uya kuhlala ehlala epheleleyo. Into ephambili apha kukuba umnqweno wokulahlekelwa isisindo awunayo ingcamango.

Abanye besetyhini, besoyika ukuba batyebile, baqale ukuqhelanisa nokutya kwelanga okanye bahlale kwisidlo esinzima. Ngaloo ndlela, kunye nobunzima obukhulu, ushiye amandla, impilo kunye nobukhulu. Xa ukwesaba ukuphucula kuqina ngakumbi ekufeni, i-anorexia ibonakala.

Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuhle akuphilwanga, kodwa kunokuba luncedo. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukwesaba ukufumana ubunzima nokulahlekelwa ukukhangwa kwenza amaantombazana amaninzi e-gym, ngokungathandabuzekiyo iinjongo ezilungileyo.

Ngoko yintoni isisombululo kule ngxaki? Kufuneka ukuba uqonde ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulwabala njani nendalo, kuya kuhlala kuthatha oko. Ubuhle bokwenene kufuneka bubonwe ngaphakathi, kungekho ngaphandle. Emva koko uloyiko lokulahlekelwa isikhalazo sangaphandle luya kupheliswa. Kubalulekile ukugcina umzimba wakho ngendlela engokwenyama kwaye ungayixoshe ngokufuna ukugcina ubuhle.

Ukoyika ukukhulelwa

Abasetyhini abaninzi bayesaba ukukhulelwa. Ngokukodwa, akucwangcwanga. "Ngokukhawuleza akafuni ukutshata?" Bacinga. Ngokukhawuleza kubonakala ukwesaba ukuxilwa kunye nobunzima obuhlobene nokubeletha.

Ukukhulelwa kulungile kwaye akufanele ukwesatshwe, nangona bokuba abaninzi besifazane bathanda ukwethusa ngamabali malunga neengxaki zokubeleka. Ngokuchasene noko, umntu kufuneka avuyiswe kukuba uluntu luyenzile yonke into ngokufanelekileyo, kuba abanye abantu abayitholanga injabulo. Kuthiwa ukuba umama uyavuya, amaqela awela kalula, kwaye abantwana bazalwa bevuya. Kodwa oku akukholelwa ngabo bonke abafazi.

Abanye abafazi bafumana inzuzo ekwesabeni ukukhulelwa. Kwenzeka njani ukuba oku kuqondwe? Ngokomzekelo, umfazi angatsho ukuba uyesaba ukubeletha ukuze abe novelwano. Oku kubangelwe ikakhulu kwiingxaki zobomi bomntu. I-psyche ye-female brace, engenakho inkxaso kubantu abakujikelezile ngexesha lobunzima, ifuna ezinye iindlela zokufumana olu luncedo lwengqondo. Emva kwakho konke, zigwebe wena-ungazixelela abahlobo bakho, izihlobo, abathandekayo kwaye baya kuzisola, baya kukuxhasa kwaye baya kutshisa amagama atshisayo. Indoda inokuxhasa kwaye ifakwe ngenceba. Ngendlela, amadoda ayikayilo loloyiko lokwesaba. Emva koko, yonke into ejikelezileyo iyingozi: amava amaninzi kwaye axabana malunga nokukhulelwa; Uxanduva olunzulu luhlala kumagxa omntu; lonke le ntokazi iyaqonda kwaye izisole.

Ukuba ukubuza umbuzo malunga nento "isabayo", ngoko sinokuyilungisa impendulo ngale ndlela ilandelayo: ukwesaba kukutshintshwa kwenkqubo eqhelekileyo yokuxhasa kunye nokuqonda. Kule nto sinokugqiba ukuba ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa umfazi ekhalaza ukwesaba ukukhulelwa, uvakalelwa nje ukungabikho kwengqalelo kwabanye. Uyazi ... Kwenzeka ukuba ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kwangaphambi kokukhulelwa kudlula ngokwalo, xa kukho ubungqina bokuthi umntu othandekayo uyakuthanda kwaye uya kuhlala exhasa ngenkxaso emfutshane. Ukuba uhamba noloyiko, mhlawumbi umele uloyike kwaye unakekele ubomi bakho? Mhlawumbi sifanele siqale ukuqinisa ubudlelwane bethu nabantu abasondeleyo? Emva koko uloyike ukukhulelwa kwe-nebudet ukuze ube nengqiqo.

Uloyiko lokugula

Uloyiko lwesifo luhlobene kakhulu nokuloyiko lokulahlekelwa ubuhle. Kunokuthiwa ngenye yeendlela akhethiweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi abanesabi ngenxa yokuzingca, kodwa ngemiphumo yabo: ukuyeka ukuthabatha (oku kuthetha ukulahlekelwa ingqalelo kwindoda), ukuba kungabikho mfuneko okanye ngakumbi - ukufa.

Udibanisa negama elithi "ukwesaba"? Kungenzeka ukuba, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ezimbi kwaye ezingathandekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukwesaba ukugula kunceda ukukhusela impilo yakho. Uyenza rhoqo ukunyamekela imeko yakhe yempilo, tyelela oogqirha abalungileyo, uvavanyo, ufumane ulwazi oluyimfuneko. Ngomphefumlo uphelele kwaye unyaka kamva unokwenza kwakhona uphando. Ukunyamekela ukwazi impilo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kulungile. Kuba kubi xa ukwesaba ukuguquka kuya kuba yintsholongwane kwaye kukuvimbela ukuba uphile ngokuqhelekileyo.

Abasetyhini ngokwemvelo banikezwa ukutyekela ngakumbi malunga nokuphatha impilo. Ngokwezibalo, ubomi bomfazi bukhulu kunowomntu. Amadoda njengabameli besondo esomeleleyo banomdla wokubandezela, uvakalelo olunzulu luyakwazi ukudala iingxabano ezahlukeneyo. Ngenxa yoko banomngcipheko omkhulu wokufa ngenxa yokufa kogonyamelo. Abasetyhini, ngokuchaseneyo, ngokuqhelekileyo abanalo ukuthambekela okunjalo. Ziyadlula, zibuthakathaka kwaye zinokwakheka.

Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ukwesaba kwesi sifo kuboniswa ukuba uvelane, uxhasane kwaye ukhange abanye. Ubuzwa ngumbuzo othi "yintoni isifo?" Siphindela kwimpendulo yombuzo othi "yintoni ukwesaba ukukhulelwa?".

Kuye kubonakala ukuba ngokusoloko ukwesaba kunomfazi onobomi bomntu obuthathaka. Ngako oko, kulungele ukucinga kwakhona ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abenza ukukhwabanisa nokuzibandakanya ekwakheni ubomi bakho. Emva koko uloyiko lwezifo luya kupheliswa.

Khumbula ukuba naluphi uloyiko aluyi kuphulukiswa ukuba umntu akanalo umnqweno wokuwususa. Konke kusezandleni zakho.