Awufumani nto, kodwa xa usetyelele, uyithenga isipho esibi (ungacingi ukuba uhlwempu)? Ngaba unyoko uyakhumbuza imihla yonke ukuba wena unomvuzo? Umyeni wakho, osebenzayo ekhaya, akakwazi ukuthetha igama emsebenzini? Zonke iimeko eziphosakeleyo. Zininzi, kodwa ezizona "zinobungozi" kakhulu - iingxaki zowesifazane xa zijongene namadoda. Bayiyingozi ngokwenene ubomi bethu. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko isazi senzululwazi esidumileyo uK. Jung sathi, "kubalulekile ukuba awunayo inkathazo, kodwa uya kwenza ntoni nabo" ...
Into yodwa esivimbela ukuba siphile siyiyo. Iingxaki ezidlulileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, ukwesaba kwabantwana kungenakuthi "auknutsya" ekudala. Ngaphandle kokuba siqaphele, siqala ukuhlakulela zethu izakhiwo, siphila ukuze sibakholise kwaye siyeke ukwenza oko sifuna ngokwenene. "Ngoko kuya kulungile," "Yintoni abanye abaya kucinga?", "Akunakulungele kubantu", "Ndimele ndizincwine ngenxa yabantwana, nokuba baziva behle", "Ngoku ndiya kulinda encinane, kwaye uya kuza kum "... Zingaphi izihlandlo esiye sathetha ezi binzana ebomini bethu? Ewe, lixesha lokuma kwaye uqaphele ukuba asihlali ubomi bethu.
AWABENZISI KWEBANYE
Ukuba uhlala unxulumana nendlela oziphatha ngayo yintoni abanye abantu abangacinga ngayo ngawe, bayesaba ukuthetha esidlangalaleni, kwaye ngokubanzi bazame ukunciphisa uluhlu lwezonxibelelwano zakho, ukufihla intloni ngenxa yokuzikhukhumeza-mhlawumbi unobuthathaka obunzima. Ngokuqhelekileyo, konke kukukhushulwa okungalunganga. Ukususela ebuntwaneni bethu bokuqala sifunde ukuthelekiswa. "Khangela indlela uKatya afunde ngayo, kungekhona oko ukhona!", "Thatha umzekelo ka-Olesya - intombazana ethobelayo ..." - ngubani na ongayitshoyo la magama? Emva kokufakela okunjalo, nayiphi na ingqwalasela iya kubonwa njengentlekele! Kwaye ke, sikhula, siqala ukuzithobela ngokwethu isimo sethu: sithenga iimoto ezigqithisileyo neempahla, sibheke kuphela amadoda "afanelekileyo" (abahlobo kunye nomama baya kuwuxabisa), basele okanye batshale kuphela ukuba bandile bekhulile "bepholile." ..
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo? Ukuqala ukuhlalutya. Zama ukuqaphela ukuba yintoni into oyenzayo kumadoda kunye nezimvo zabo ezilungileyo malunga nawe. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ukuba wenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo? Enyanisweni, akukho nto! Ngoko uzonqabile uze uzame ukwamukela ngokwakho. Emva kwakho konke, awuyinto embi kwaye akulungile kwabanye. Uhlukile.
NGAPHANDLE UKWENZISWA KWEZINDAWO
"Andiyi kuvuyela ngokupheleleyo umtshato wam, kuba ndihlala ndicinga ukuba ndashiye umama wedwa", "Ndingahamba njani eholide ngoku, xa osebenza nabo bebenomsebenzi omkhulu kangaka?", "Ngaba ndinelungelo ukushiya abantwana kunye noninazala kwaye ushiye ukuphumla kuphela nomyeni wakhe? Baya kundicaphukisa! "Amabinzana aqhelekileyo kunye neemeko, akunjalo? Inkxalabo yecala inxulumene ngokusondeleyo nomoya wecandelo loxanduva ngokunyanzeliswa kancinci kuthi ebuntwaneni. Ngamanye amaxesha sinokuziva sinetyala kungekuphela kwezenzo ezenziwayo, kodwa nangengcamango okanye kwiminqweno. Umzamo ongenamdla wokukhusela oku ngezinye izihlandlo ukhokelela kwiintsholongwane. Ngoko, ukucoceka okucokisekileyo kunye nokusola kubonisa indlela ephosakeleyo yecala. Ukuba uhlala uqaphela ukuba i-gas ishiyiwe, uhlala uhlamba izandla zakho, mhlawumbi ufumana uxinzelelo lwengqondo kwaye kufuneka uguqulele kwingcali.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo? Yimangalisa njengoko kubonakala ngathi, zizingca. Uyidinga ngenjongo yokwelapha! Yeka ukucinga ngeemvakalelo zabanye uze uzigcinele. Ewe, mhlawumbi umyeni wakho uyaxhalaba, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba utyhola oku! Zibuze lo mbuzo: "Yintoni endiyenzayo?" Mhlawumbi uya kuqonda ukuba unembopheleleko kuphela wena kunye nobomi bakho. Kwaye kufuneka ube nolonwabo ...
ZONKE ZONKE!
Ixhoba elincinci lidibene nencamango yenkonzo. Ngomnqweno wokuba nobuhle kwaye ufumene ukuqaphela ukuba yonke into iqala rhoqo, kwaye iphela ngokuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kumadoda angqongileyo. Emva koko, ukwenza konke, ulinganisa izenzo zakho yonke ixesha ("Oo, kangakanani amandla, ixesha kunye nempilo endichithayo kumthandi, ndoda, mhlobo!") Uze ulawulwe ngombono wabanye ("kwaye akayikuyixabisa! "), Emva koko ungacingi ngqalelo indima yentleba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula ukuyifumanisa ukusilela kwakho ("andizange nditshatile okwesibini, kuba ndifanele ndikhulise abantwana", "andizange ndibuyele emsebenzini ngenxa yokuba ndifanele ndinyamekele umyeni wam", "ndayeka ukucinga malunga nokubonakala kwam, ukuba ndibaninzi ndikhathalela indlu "). Kodwa ngaba ixabiso? Phantse zonke iingcamango ze "lixhoba" zidibana. Abantu abanenkathazo enjalo bathambekele ekulindeni ubomi ngenxa yembuyekezo yabo kwaye abazange banelisekile. Indlela eqhubekayo yinkxalabo eqinileyo kunye nokubonakalisa okukhulu: "Ukuba bekungekho kum, awufumananga apho iplati ikhona!" Unokuzikhohlisa ngeengcinga zobuchule bakho, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uza kuqonda ukuba amadoda aphephe nje wena, ngenxa yokuba awufuni ukuhlala unengxaki yokuhlala unetyala phambi kwakho.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo? Kungenzeka ukuba, njengomntwana, watshelwa ukuba akukho nto inikwe into. "Ufanele uhlawule yonke into", "Ufanele ufanelwe" - ezi zicwangciso eziqhelekileyo zeli "lixhoba" elizayo. Ngamandla akho ukutshintsha ubomi bakho. Yeka ukuqokelela kwamaphuzu kunye nokulindela ngonaphakade kolunye uhlobo lomvuzo. Zama okungenani iveki ukuba uhlale nje wena-faka uvavanyo olunjalo. Ngeli xesha akukho mntu uza kufa ngenxa yendlala, iqini lakho liya kuhamba, kodwa uya kuyonwaba. Kwaye mhlawumbi ngexesha uya kufundiswa ukuba wonke umntu uyakuthanda kwaye ngaphandle kwamaxhoba akho.
"NDIYAZI ..."
Le yenye enye eyingozi-into ebizwa ngokuba yinkampani yenkampani. Ujonge abantu ukusuka phezulu uze uqiniseke ukuba uhlala ulungele yonke into. Unqwenela ukunika iingcebiso kumadoda onke naphakade. Apha kukho iingxaki ezinkulu: uxhomekeke kubantu. Enyanisweni, ubunzima bomphathi bungozi nangona ukuba abasondelene nabo bayasuka kuwe (ngubani onomdla kwixesha elihlala njalo, ehlahlisa itoni yokuthoba?) Kodwa ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuba khona ngaphandle kwalabo abaya kukuphulaphula. Ukuthobela ubomi babantu kunye nokufumana ulawulo olupheleleyo ngumsebenzi oyintloko womphathi.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo? Inokwenzeka ukuba, wakhuliswa kwintsapho enobulungisa kwaye wamkela indlela yokunxibelelana nabazali bakho. Ewe, lixesha lokugqiba ngokuziphatha kwaye uzame ukutshintsha irekhodi. Ukufunda ukuba ngabahlobo ngumsebenzi wakho oyintloko. Zama ukunganiki, kodwa ukucela iingcebiso. Yazisa amadoda azungezile kwaye uthembele kubo. Abayiziqhinga ngaphezu kwakho. Zama ukwamkela ukuba sonke sihluke, akukho nto enhle kwaye iyamangalisa kunokuphila, kwaye wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza iphutha ...
"NDIYAZI, UYE UKUPHILA ..."
Isakhiwo esiyiCinderella sidibanisa ngokuthe ngqo nokulindela ikusasa. Uyabona yonke into eyenzekayo ngoku njengolu vavanyo, uhlobo oluthile lwexesha lokutshintsha ngaphambi kokuba udibane ne-HIS, iNkosana yakho. Ezi zilindeleke ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kulahlwa. Ingxaki kukuba abafazi abaneenkcukacha ezifanayo abazixabisi isipho sobomi ngokwabo. Bakufumanisa kunzima ukuqonda ukuba akukho zinduna (ngaphandle kwamadoda afanelekileyo awanakuzibona), kwaye siyakwazi ukudala iindaba zamagama. Ungaphuthelwa lakho ngoku ngokulindela umsindisi wakho kunye nobomi obutsha, obuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Abafazi abanjalo, xa batshatile, abanqabile ngokwenene: ithemba libekwe kumyeni wakhe kakhulu.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo? Ukujongela ihlabathi ngokukhawuleza, ukukhupha iilazi ze-rose. Zama ukuzibuza le mibuzo ilandelayo: "kwaye yintoni na eyandikhathaza kakhulu? Yintoni eyayiyitshintshe indoda eyabonakala ebomini bam? Ngaba ndinokutshintsha into ethile? Ngaba yonke into eyikekayo ebomini bam? "Ingxoxo enje yangaphakathi iya kunceda ukufikelela kwisigqibo sokuba wena ngokwakho unokuzigcina usisigxina. Kutheni uhlehlisela ngomso oko kunokukwenziwa namhlanje? Kutheni ulinde umntu ukuba eze kwaye akugcine xa unamandla okutshintsha ubomi bakho ngcono. Kwaye kwakhona: jonga ngeenxa zonke. Zingaphi iinkosana ozibonayo? Kwaye amadoda aqhelekileyo (nangona iingxaki zawo)? Kuyafana. Ungazicima ubumnandi bakho, uxabise iphupha elikhohlisayo lomntu ofanelekileyo.
NGOKUBA KUQINISWA
Ewe, ezi zinto azizona zonke iingxaki ezithintela ukuba siphile. Omnye ukwesaba abantu, ngoko ke ukhetha ukuhlakulela umfanekiso wabo wendoda eyaneleyo, umntu unokuzibeka enkampini kuphela "njengezithengisi", umntu ... Uluhlu lweengxaki luyaqhubeka ngonaphakade. Into ephambili kukuba akukho namnye kuthi akhululekile kwiinkomfa ngendlela enye okanye enye. Ngamanye amaxesha inobungozi, ngamanye amaxesha inobungozi kwaye nayiphi na into ayinanto. Yintoni endiyenza ukuze ndizincede? Siza kufutshane nathi, ngaphantsi siza kuva nomsindo kwilizwe langaphandle. Isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu - ukwamukelwa kweengxaki zabo njengengxenye eyaziwayo eyabo "Mina". Kwaye ekugqibeleni, isigaba sokutshintsha. Yithetha ibinzana lemilingo "Yazi indawo yakho!" Emva koko izakhiwo ziza kuba ziimpawu ezintle: ubunzima bokuziphakamisa - ukuzihlonipha, ukuxhomekeka komntu ongezantsi-ukugxeka, ukuxeliswa kwecala - ukuva novelwano. Kwaye kuphela kwinqanaba lokukulungela kwakho utshintsho kuxhomekeke kwisitshixo sempumelelo yakho.
UKUBHALWA KWEZEMPILO NGEZINGCACISO.
✓ Ndiyithanda ngokwam into endiyiyo!
✓ Andiyidingi "ukufumana" ulonwabo nothando. Andifanelanga nto!
✓ Ndiyayihlonela imbono nezenzo zabanye abantu. Akunabo ngcono okanye ababi ngaphezu kwam. Kwaye banelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo.
✓ Okokuqala, ndijongene nam. Andiyi kubeka ityala ngenxa yentlekele yabanye.
✓ Ndifunda ukwakha intsebenziswano ngokusekelwe kwithemba!
✓ Ndiphila ngoku kunye kwaye andilindele ukuba umntu uza kuza kwaye andisindise. Umgangatho wobomi bam uxhomekeke kum!