Umfazi oqolileyo oza kukwazi ukuzuza kwixesha likaBalzac. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kubekho, isiqingatha sobomi bakhe sele siphile, kwaye ukuba akahambisani nawe kwinto ethile, kukho ithuba elihle lokuphumeza ngokuzayo ukulungiswa kobungakanani bendawo okanye jikelele, kuba iimfuno zowesifazane okhulileyo Ukhulile ngokwaneleyo.
Ibhinqa ebudeni beminyaka ayikho nje ugogo onyana abantwana bakhe okanye usule iingubo zobutsha bakhe ekungeneni kwebhentshi - lo ngumfazi ofuna ukuthanda kwaye ufuna ukuthandwa. Yaye ngubani owathi abafazi abasakhulayo abafanelekanga kakhulu ukuba akukho uthando lokwenene? Emva kwayo yonke into, abaontanga-ngamadoda athile bayakuvuyela izibonda zothando kwiingalo zamantombazana amantombazana!
Yintoni embi ngaphezu komfazi? Kutheni bengenakukunceda ukubonakalisa uthando lomfana osemncinci, kuba ngabacebisi okanye abaphathi abanomdla kakhulu? Bayakwazi, kwaye nangona kunjalo! Kwimizuzu engama-30 yabafana bekukho nokuba kufutshane, kodwa uxhulumano lothando nomfazi omdala oneminyaka yobudala.
I-Balzac, ngokubonga ukuba igama elithi "ibhinqa likaBalc" lalibonakala ngobomi bemihla ngemihla, yayinkosikazi "eqolileyo" - unina onabantwana abaninzi kwaye, ngelishwa, umfazi ongathembekanga kwijusi ngokwakhe. U-Honore wayengumngcwabo kuye, njengoko yena, ngokungafani nomyeni wakhe-chump, waqonda iingcamango zakhe, iimvakalelo, iimpembelelo.
Abanye abantu bakhetha ukuthula ngoxolo, kodwa kuyinyaniso. Ebusheni bam, mna ndandithandana nomdla "weBalzac ubudala," kumdala kunam, ngaloo ndlela nge-20 nge-hook. Kwaye wandixelela ukuba naye wayenomfazi okhulileyo ebusheni bakhe owamfundisa amaninzi amaqhinga, kungekhona kuphela embhedeni, kodwa ebomini nasenkonzweni ... andiyathethi ngezoshishino zaseRashiya kunye nemizekelo, ukuba yiloo nto yonke imbono inayo phambi kwamehlo akhe ...
Andizixinisi ukuqinisekisa ukuba onke amantombazana aqolileyo awathatha, aphuma ezidlekeni zawo ezifuywayo kwaye ahamba emva kwamadoda amancinci amancinane, akukho mntu uyazi ukuba kutheni okanye kuphi. Ndiyathetha nje ukuba nangona ubudala umfazi unelungelo lokonwaba, uluthando, kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokuziqhelanisa ngokweenqanaba loluntu okanye lobugcisa.
Kucacile, ibhinqa elivuthiweyo kunzima ukufumana kungekhona nje umfazi omhle kunye nolutsha, kodwa ukuqonda indoda - indoda enamandla yelinye icala. Kwaye, ndixelele, kulula kangakanani ukwenza iminyaka yobudala? Yiloo nto, into enhle apho kungekho khona.
Inani elincomekileyo lithetha ukuba malunga nama-50% abatsha abatsha bakhetha iontanga zabo, malunga nama-20% abantu abanomdla kunye nabanomdla bahlala bekhetha amantombazana abancinci kunabo (nangona kunjalo, ngelixa bengagxeki ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nomtshato kunye nabanye abamaqela eminyaka), kunye ne-30% yabafana bakhetha ukuthembela ekuqondeni nasekunyamekeleni, ecaleni kwelungu lomama, umfazi omdala oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, ekunteni kokukhula.
Ngelo xesha, abesifazana abanempahla ekhethekileyo, njengelwandle lolwandle, umthombo ongahlaliyo wokuba nethemba, isimo sezentlalo ephakamileyo, iintaba zegolide - amathuba angenamkhawulo wezezimali, amahle amantombazana, abahlakaniphile, abaphilileyo, abakwenene nabasetyhini banesithunzi esingathandabuzekiyo kubahwebi babo abavuthiweyo. Ukuba awukholelwa ukuba umfana onokumhlonela ngobuhle ubuhle bendoda ekhulile, ngoko unokufunda iireveli zexesha leBalzac.
Ngaliphi na "inkunzi yokuqala" kwaye nawuphi na umfazi, ngamnye umfazi okhulileyo uya kukwazi ukuvuya. Kwaye ukuba unoyolo olunjalo kumntu nangothando, kufuneka uzinakekele ngokunyamekela impilo, kuba imbambano yempilo yabasetyhini ifana nomcimbi wobuhle kunye nenhlalakahle.