Kodwa akukho nto. Ubundlobongela ngaphandle kwezibophelelo kwixesha lethu sele liba yinto eqhelekileyo. Kudala ukuxabana, kulungile okanye kubi. Ukuba kwakukholelwa ukuba ukulala ngokwesondo ngokuyinhloko kubantu, ngoku ukukhululwa komtshato kuye kwaguqula imibono yoluntu. Okanye mhlawumbi ngokuchaseneyo, faka yonke indawo kwindawo yayo. Abantu abaya kulwalamano olulolo hlobo, baqhutywa yinkxwaba yenkanuko, kodwa abanomnqweno woxanduva lomlingane. Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi, ukulala ngokwesondo kubangelwa ngomhla wokuqala. Iimbangela zezinto ezininzi, azikwazi ukuba neenkanuko, ithemba lenye yeqabane ekudibaniseni ubudlelwane, ukuqonda ukuba ukuqhubela phambili kwencwadana engasayi kusebenza.
Kodwa ukuba kwenzeka njalo ebomini, khumbula umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu wesondo ngobunye ubusuku ku-SAFETY. Ngaloo nto iya kuxutyushwa kuqala. Ukulala ngesondo, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuyingozi kwimpilo yakho. Ingaba kuyimfuneko ukuxelela ngoku nge-AIDS, izifo ze-venereal okanye ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo? Kodwa ukuba "ukuzingela kunamandla kunezigqila", qaphela ukukhuselwa. Ulunge ngaphezu kwekhondom, iindlela azange zicatshangwe, kwaye zingancinci kwaye zithukuthele. Kwaye nangona uthakazelo lugxininisekile, ngokuthobeka kwaye ngokumkhombisayo uyamkhumbuza iqabane lakho, kwaye okulungileyo kunabo bonke bahlala benalo nawe.
Okwesibini, ukuba usenza isigqibo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nomntu ongaqhelekanga, qiniseka ukuba omnye wabahlobo bakho uyazi malunga nendawo yokuhlala yakho. Kwimeko enjalo, umngcipheko awunanto. Ifowuni okanye i-SMS ayifumananga ixesha elide, kodwa liya kukukhusela kwisiphumo esingathandekiyo.
Umgaqo wesibini uthembekileyo. Qiniseka, ubuncinane nawe. Musa ukuhlala ubuhlobo besikhathi eside, ukuphela ngokupheliswa okuvuyisayo. Ngobunye ubusuku akunakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe i-destiny yakho ngokusisigxina. Ukwabelana ngesondo ebusuku kukuphela kweengcamango zakho zesondo. Indoda inikezela umzimba wakho, kodwa kungekhona umphefumlo.Kodwa, ungasheshi ukuyivula kumlingane wakho osweleyo. Ngobusuku obunye akudingeki wenze oku.
Umgaqo wesithathu unokwenzeka ukuba uncomo. Emva kokuba ndenze ingqondo yam, yiba ngumququzeleli, umphathi weprojekthi yakho yesondo. Ukuba awufuni ukuya apha naphaya, qaphela indawo yokuhlangana. Ngaba iya kuba yindleke epholileyo kwindlu yakho okanye kwigumbi lehotele, zama ukwenza isigaba se-aesthetics kunye nesinambitha. Faka umculo omnandi. Gwema "ukukhwela ekhaleni". Ukuba into enqwenela ukuyenza isondele kwaye inokungakhuselekanga, mncede aphumle. Yilapho inxalenye encinci yotywala iya kulungeleka! Kodwa kule meko kubalulekile ukuba ungayidluli. Utywala luphucula umnqweno, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngokusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo, luba ngumqobo wokuwaneliseka. Uncedo kwiimeko ezinjalo kunokuba lula ukusilalisa. Ngamanye amaxesha indoda ifuna ukuthetha, yakhala "kwisiqwenga". Musa ukungafuni kuye kwintlalo enjalo, bonise ubuchule.
Ukuba unayo, hlala kude kube ngentsasa, ngenxa yokhuseleko olufanayo. Ukuba unayo, jonga iimeko. Ngomso, mnike ikusasa elifutshane kwaye (ukuba awufuni ukuphindaphinda), mbulela ixesha elihle elichithwe.
Kodwa ukuba ungumtshitshisi wesondo ogqithiseleyo, kwaye zonke ezi zinto zingabonakali kuwe, ngoko ke, zonke izinto ezifanayo, imigaqo yokucoceka ekuthandeni kwakho.
Ukuba awuyithandi ubulili, musa ukubandakanya "ukuhamba ngeenqwelo-moya", akunjalo nje. Ngcono ngokuzikhethela ukuthetha ukuhlambalaza kunokuba uphumelele kumntu ongezantsi.
Ukubizwa ngesondo okuxhatshazwayo kuthiwa, ngokugqithiseleyo kudlulayo. Musa ukukhathaza umlingane wakho osweleyo, musa ukuzibophelela. Akunaswele kuwe nantoni na, njengoko uyenzayo. Ungalindeli nayiphi na isithembiso kuye, kwaye ungathembisi nto.
Ungalindelanga ukuqhubeka. Indoda ehamba ngesini lesinye ngesini, mhlawumbi ayilungele ubuhlobo obude. Kwakhona, nokuhlawuleka kakhulu umfazi ukwesaba. Khumbula ukuba ngokwemvelo umntu ungumzingeli, ukhetha ukuphanga amaxhoba akhe, ukubeka amanetha kunye neengcibho, aze avuyise ukunqoba. Kwaye unqwenela ukudibanisa i-destiny yakho nendoda eguqukayo yabasetyhini, njengeiglavu.
Le mithetho elula yesini iya kukunceda nje ukuphelisa impilo yakho yempilo, kodwa nokuzinza kwengqondo.
Kwaye ngoku ngamagama ambalwa ekukhuseleni ngesondo ngobunye ubusuku. Umngcipheko ufanelekile, kwaye umdlalo ufanelekile ikhandlela, ukuba kwenzeka ukuba ngaphandle kwentshiseko ye-miuto kukho ummangaliso obizwa ngokuthi "Uthando", ukuba ngokukhawuleza yena kwaye uyaqonda ukuba abanako ngaphandle komnye, ukuba ekugqibeleni bafumene into ababeyifunayo. Yaye masibe nobuthathaka obuthathatyathwa, ixesha elincinci liza kuba liphepha elihle lentsapho yabo.