Kakade ke, ukuzinyameka kunokungafani: uxinzelelo okanye ngesigqibo sakho. Akunakuba nje ubuhlungu kunye nokucinezela, kodwa kuzisa uxolo, uxolo. Ukuxhwaba kwintombikazi, ingakumbi abafazi abalungileyo, kunzima, ngaphezu kwento yokuba akukho mthandayo ofuphileyo, akukho mntu uyazifihla ngokwengqondo, abafazi abangatshatanga banako ukuzalisekisa injongo yabo yabesifazane ebalulekileyo-ukuzala nokukhulisa umntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye besetyhini banamandla, banethemba kwaye bazimeleyo ukuba banokugqiba ukukhupha umntwana ngaphandle komyeni. Kodwa kuthekani ngabafazi abancinci abaye bafuna umkhuseli kunye namagxala athembekile? Izizathu zokuzihlalisa.
Kuye kwagqitywa ixesha elide ukuba iingcamango zinempahla yokwenza izinto. Ukuba ibhinqa, nokuba yindoda enhle kakhulu, ngenxa yemigudu emininzi engaphumeleli yokulungisa impilo yakhe, iqala ukucinga ukuba yayingadalwa yintsapho yolonwabo kwaye ingabi nantoni na ngokuziphatha ngayo ngale ndlela, indoda iya kuqala ukuyifaka. Yingakho ukuzinyuka kwamabhinqa amahle kubuhlungu gqitha - kuba bona ngokwayo baqinisekisa ukuba kukho into ephosakeleyo kubo kwaye bafumana iziphumo ezihambelanayo. Kodwa akufanele kube njalo, wonke umntu unelungelo lonwabo! Isizathu esona sizathu sokuba unesizungu kukuba abaninzi abayiqondi okanye bayayamkela ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kwangaphambili.
Thumela unesizungu emnyango wakho.
Ukukhupha isisulu kubalulekile, okokuqala, ukwandisa ukuzithemba. Musa ukugcina amadoda angafanelekanga ecaleni kwakho ngenxa yokwesaba ukushiywa wodwa. Ukunyamezela ukungcatshiswa kwamadoda e-narcissistic, awuzihloneli. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umthande umntu onjalo, kuphela ukuba uzive kuye inzondelelo ehamba ngokukhawuleza kungekudala engenanto yokondla.
Fumana isidima kuwe, kuba umntu ngamnye unamacandelo atshabayo kwaye anomdla, kwaye ubonise ngaphandle kokuthobeka, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphandle kokugqithisa ngokweqile. Njalo ekuseni, khumbula ukuba ungubani, ukuba ngabahlobo bakho abaqapheli oku kwaye bangakuxeleli - bahlobo luni lwabahlobo? Awunakudinga, uya kufumana lula ukufumana ezintsha, ukuba ufuna, kuba kulula ukwenza oonxibelelwano abatsha, kufuneka nje, ngokukodwa kwezobuchwepheshe bokwenza ubuhlobo obuthile kwi-Intanethi. Kholwa, ngamandla akho kwaye uya kuphelisa uluncedo, kuba ukholo luyinto apho kwihlabathi lethu lithatha kakhulu!
U-Elena Romanova , ngakumbi kwisiza