Nangona kunjalo, siya kuzama ukulandelela ezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo kulo mbandela.
Ulwalamano luqala phi?
Bathi ubomi bunobutyebi ngaphezu kobuxoki. Enyanisweni, phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi othandana nabo bahlala becala kwiindawo ezininzi zokusebenzela: emsebenzini, esikolweni, kufuphi nomzi (kwindawo yokuhlala) baqhelana nabantu abangama-80%. Kancinane kwiholide, ii-nightclub kunye ne-intanethi, kodwa ngokuyininzi sifumana uthando kwisangqa sabangane abasondeleyo, oogxa okanye abahlobo.
Xa ubuhlobo buqala
Akukho zikhokelo eziqhelekileyo. Abanye bafumana uthando ekuqaleni, abanye bayayazi ngaphambi kokuba ubudlelwane buqale iminyaka. Kodwa kukho ixesha eliphambili ngaphambi komtshato, emva koko iintsapho eziqinileyo zidalwe - ziinyanga ezi-3-6. Leli xesha lona lona luntlonelo ukwazi ngokuchanekileyo ukuba umntu ungasondele kuni. Kwindawo yesibini ekuthembekeni komtshato phakathi kwabantu abaqhelekileyo kwiinyanga ezintandathu ukuya kunyaka, ngomhla wesithathu - ukusuka kwinyanga ukuya kwiinyanga ezintathu. Ukuba abantu bebazana ixesha elide: ezimbini, ezintathu okanye iminyaka emihlanu, kodwa abazange baqalise ubudlelwane bokuthandana, njengomthetho, badala iintsapho ezinengxaki nangenakulinganiswa. Ukuze ulwalamano phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi ukuba lube namandla kwaye luhlala ixesha elide, izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kufuneka zithathwe ngexesha abazazi ngayo kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya ezintandathu. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukwazi ukuba ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi buya kuqala, kwaye yintoni eyokukhokelela kuyo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siqonde ukuba uthando luvela njani ekuqaleni. Ngenxa yokuba imibhangqwana edalwe kubantu abadala, njengomthetho, izibini zinyamekele ukukhangela abantu abahluphekileyo nabangabodwa .
Uthando luvela njani ekuqaleni
Isalathiso njengoko isenokuvakala, izazinzulu ziye zafumanisa ixesha elide lokwenza uthando ekuqaleni. Ngamafutshane, oku kulandelayo: kwi-subconscious sinalo uluhlu lweempawu zesigqibo sesibini esasikhona ebuntwaneni. Akunakuhambelani noko sikucingayo thina, kunye noko sikuthethayo nabanye. Ngokukhawuleza xa sidibana nomntu ohambelana noluninzi lwaleluhlu, kukho "i-short circuit" - uthando ekuqaleni. I-subconscious yethu okanye intuition isitsho ngokukhawuleza ukuba nguyena oyifunayo.
Ukuba uluhlu lweempawu zendoda nomfazi zihambelana, ubuhlobo buqala ngokukhawuleza, kwaye lukhula kwintsapho enonwabileyo. Ukuba uluhlu luhambelana nomnye kuphela, akukho uthando olungenakutshitshiswa, eninzi into ebona inhlekelele enkulu.
Izazinzulu kunye ne-podsuetilis: zithi uthando ekuqalekeni lunokubakho ngaphezu kweyodwa ebomini bakho, kwaye oko ngokuqhelekileyo uluhlu luyavumelana, kunokuba luhambelane. Okokuqala, kukho uluhlu olunjalo lweempawu ezihambelana nolunye uhlobo lobuntu, kwaye abantu abanalo hlobo lobuntu kwihlabathi banamalungu angaphezu kweyodwa. Okwesibini, umgaqo wokubambisana uhlala usebenza, umzekelo, abafazi abangenasiphelo njengabantu abangenasiphelo, kunye namadoda athambileyo-abafazi abanomlinganisi. Oko kukuthi, kukho uhlobo lolunye lomntu kukho ukulungelelanisa uhlobo lwakhe lomlingani lomlingani.
Konke oko kukuhle kwinqanaba leengcamango, kodwa le nto ingasetyenziswa njani ngokusebenza, ucela? Kukho into enzima ukucebisa apha. Kukho umgangatho wobuntu onjenge "nqanaba lokuziphendulela". Akunqabile ukuphakama, kwaye ngokumangalisa, inqanaba eliphezulu lokuziphendulela kubantu abavaliweyo nabangenasiphelo. Uninzi lwabantu abanalo amandla aphezulu okucinga, oko kukuthi, ngokwazi ngokwaneleyo ulwazi. Kwaye bafuna ukukhangela ngaphandle. Akunanto nto yokuba kwiinkulungwane ezininzi kwakukho iziko lomtshato, wapheliswa ngoncedo lomdlali womdlalo, okanye ulungiselelwe ngabazali. Izizathu zezenhlalakahle nezentlalo kuphela zibekwe entliziyweni yale nto, kodwa nakwiyo mbono evela ngaphandle.
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana umphefumlo wakho umlingane, unokunceda kunye nabahlobo, kunye nabahlobo, kunye nokucebisa ngengqondo yengqondo, eya kukunika ithuba lokuqonda oko ufuna ngokwenene. Yaye emva kokuba ufumene, kufuneka ufunde ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda. Uhlobo lophawu luyinkimbinkimbi kangangokuthi lufanelekile ukuba usebenzise ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekileyo. Njengomphumo wokufundisa ukubonwa ngokukhululekile, awukwazi ukuva i-jaundice emehlweni omntu ofanelekileyo, uxoxe naye ngokuthe ngcembe nangaphandle kokuhlambalaza okanye ukungabi nongqungquthela okanye ukungafihlisi, okuqhelekileyo kwiimeko xa sijongwa ngumvakalelo. Ukongeza, le mgangatho iza kukuvumela ukuba ungahlaseli umntu onjalo ngesibindi somntu olambile ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. Ngokulula, uya kuba nokufumana umlinganiselo phakathi kwesifiso esaziwayo nesingaziwayo, phakathi kweemfuno ezinengqiqo nezenemvelaphi yeqabane elizayo. Kwaye ke ukuza kubakho okukukhethayo kwiintlanganiso oye ulinde ixesha elide. Emva kwakho konke, kuvela ukuba umntu wakho ococekileyo - uhlala kwindawo ethile, kufuphi kakhulu!