Xa senza uthando, kubonakala kuthi kuthi kweli hlabathi akukho mntu kodwa thina sibini. Ingxaki kuphela kukuba ngezinye ihlabathi ihlabathi licinga ngenye indlela. Kwaye ngoku udibanisa udibaniso, kwaye udidi lwesithathu lubonakala (okanye, ngakumbi, abalinganiswa), ubujonge kwi-daze, kwaye uqala ukugubha, ukufunga okanye ukulwa, ukubamba ishushu.
Abantwana. Konke kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana. Kuze kube yiminyaka emithathu: siyavuya kakhulu xa abantwana bethu beqala ukuthatha amanyathelo okuqala, ekuqaleni bangacingi ukuba amanyathelo abantwana ayenokwenza kwaye ngethuba elingapheliyo. Umzekelo, phakathi kobusuku. Ucinga ukuba umntwana uhamba ephupheni, oku kuthetha ukuba ukhula, kwaye umntwana, okwangoku, uhambahamba egumbini lokulala, oku kuthetha ukuba yonke into ibona. Ukulila i-alamu akuyimfuneko, ukuba uyakubamba ishushu. Umntwana uya kulibala yonke into, kwaye awuyi kuzisa nayiphi na intlungu engqondweni yakhe. Ngaphandle koko, awuzange nje ukhwebe, njengonqamlekileyo. Kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-8: umntwana sele sele eqonda kakuhle kwaye, kubalulekile, unomdla onomdla kwindlela intombazana ehluke ngayo kumakhwenkwe. Kwaye bayaqonda ukuba into enomdla ifihlakele kuye. Yintoni ekufuneka uyenze ukuba ubanjwe kwindawo eshushu? Ngoko, lixesha lokuyeka ukukhohlisa umntwana wakho ngokungenasiphelo, njengokuthi "Isitokisi se-Daddy-mummy siye sadibana kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo - iklabishi kunye nesorkork". Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe xa ubanjwe kwindawo eshushu?
Thetha kumntwana. Kodwa ukuba ulwimi aluguquki, khuphela kwiWebhu incwadi ethi "Ndaphi na." Kukho ulwimi olulungileyo kunye nemifanekiso. Ngexesha elifanayo uya kufunda nokufunda. Ukufikelela kwiminyaka eyi-13-15: umntu sele esazi yonke into, kwaye uyaqonda kakuhle kakuhle ukuba umama noyise bayakwenza. Ngoko, kwiimeko ezinokuthi, ufanele uthi: "Ufanele ugobe, ndoda." Emva koko ulinde de kube umntwana ekhulile umhlala phantsi, uqede ngokuqinileyo ishishini lakhe, aze ahlaziye ngokuhlwa kunye nabo bathathu. Umdala: mxelele, makangakhange ahambe ngeengcebiso zakhe - Umama noTata baya kuziqonda, kungekhona. Abazali. Uloyiko, ewe? Ewe, kodwa sisadingeka iteksi. Abazali bakho. Ndimele ndithi: "Mama, utata, lo nguVasya, siya kushiya ngomzuzu." Uze uphume. Yilungiselele izinto abazali abayiyiqonda. Akulungele ukuziphatha ukuba intombazana yabo uVasya iphosa into ethile. Abazali kufuneka baqonde, ngoko ke, kuba kakuhle, baqonde. Baya kuthobeka. Ewe, ukuba iVasya iphuma, ilungisa umbhobho kwaye icela isandla sakho, iya kuyifumana ngokukhawuleza. No-Vasya-Inhlonipho.
Abazali bakhe. Oku kubi. Ungathi: "Sawubona, igama lam ngu-Masha, uVasya kunye nathi sasihlala ndawonye kwinkampu." Kodwa kufuneka ulungele ukuba abazali bakhe bakufumanisa ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye kuya kufuneka udibanise le ngqungquthela iminyaka. Kodwa asifuni iindlela ezilula. INtloko. Kukho ukhetho.
Ngoko, ukuba bekuyi ... Kwiqela lequmrhu, ngoko unako ukuhamba kunye nehlaya, oko, bathi, ngoku uhamba ngqo kule nqabile yokuqinisa intsebenziswano. Umphathi ngumntu. Ukuba umphathi ngumntu oqhelekileyo, uya kuqonda. Yena, ndikholwa, akukho sinono. ... Eofisini, ngexesha leentsuku zokusebenza, unokubhala ngenjabulo inkcazo "ngokwakho". Ubundlobongela kwindawo yokusebenza ngexesha leentsuku zokusebenza akuvunyelwanga nakwiimithetho ezinxulumene nabantu, kwaye oku kubakho ukungabi nabulungisa ngokungalunganga, ukulungelelanisa umntu ongenamsebenzi, akunakuqonda.
Abatshatileyo. O. Ewe, ngaba kunjalo? Ukuba u ... ufumene umyeni wakho: uya kufuneka uncwatye umnqweno wakho, oyingxaki. Usuke ushushu (iqabane) layo: kufuneka uthenge i-wig kuba ayiyi kukhula kungekudala. Kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo, izizathu ezisishukumisela ukuba sifebe, kufuneka siyiqonde ngokubanzi, kodwa ngoku into eyodwa kuphela - ukuba ukwenza oku, ubuncinane uthathe onke amanyathelo okukhusela ukukhubaza abanye abantu.