Kukho abantu abahlala befuna ukuba kwinkampani. Xa behlala bodwa kunye nabo, emva kweeyure ezimbalwa baqala ukuziva bengakhululekile. Ngokwahlukileyo kweso sithuba, kukho ezinye - ezizodwa. I-loner ayikwazi ukushiya indlu iiveki, yabone izihlobo zonke iinyanga ezimbalwa, uhlale uthetha malunga nezinto ezifuna ukuthula, uxolo kunye nokuzimela. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Ngaba abantu ngokwenene abangatshatanga ngenxa yokuba bazalwa ngale ndlela okanye ngaba umphumo wentshukumo yengqondo kunye nokukhungatheka ebomini?
Umkhwa wokuhlala wodwa
Abanye bethu njengabantwana babengaqondwa kakuhle ngabanye abantwana. Omnye uzame ukujoyina uluntu, ngenxa yoko, waphumelela. Kodwa abanye abantu basebenziselwa ukuba bodwa. Uthando lwabo lonwabo luyindlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha eye yaqala ukususela ebuntwaneni. Enyanisweni, umntu akakwazi nje ukuba yinkampani, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Ngenxa yokuba akaqhelekanga ukunakwa, umntu onesizungu uqala ukuziva engakhululeki, kubonakala ngathi wonke umntu uyamkhathalela, abukele, into ayifunayo kuye. Ngako oko, unesiva sokuba kungcono ukuba ngcono kunomntu. Xa i-loner ihlala ingekho ngaphandle kwabanye abantu, ingakwazi ukuphumla kwaye ingacingi malunga nento oyenzayo nento oyithethayo. Uziva unyanzelekile, awunakuwufumana kwinkampani. Kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba olu hlobo lwezinto ezingabonakaliyo ezinzulwini zobomi zifuna ukufunda ukuthetha kunye no-lyudmii "ujoyine" iqela. Kodwa ngenxa yobunzima bezingane kunye nentsha, kunzima kakhulu ukuwela phezu koyiko lwabo. Yingakho abantu abanjalo beqhubeka bephila ubomi bodwa.
Ukudimazeka
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba umntu ukhethe ukunyaniseka ngokucacileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ebusheni, umntu othetha nabantu abaninzi, wayehlala enkampanini, kwaye ngokungazelelwe uhlukaniswe kuwo wonke umntu kwaye uthi kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomntu. Isizathu salo mkhuba sinokukhungatheka kwimeko. Ngelishwa, akubona bonke abantu abafumana abahlobo abalungileyo nabahlobo abafanelekayo. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba abantu kwiminyaka ye-vynoschye badibana ne "nkampani ezimbi" kwaye bekhula, badangele kakhulu kwindawo yabo. Kwaye kwithuba elide elide lidibana nabantu abangendawo kunokuba luhle, kukho ukuvakalelwa kukuba ihlabathi lifakwe emnyama. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abaphoxekayo bodwa bafumana uxolo kunye nokungcatsha kwabo bantu abasondeleyo abaye benza impazamo. Ngenxa yoko, banqume ukuba kungcono ukuba abe mnye kunokuba basondele kubantu, kwaye emva kwexesha ukuva ubunzima nobuhlungu. Ngendlela, aba bantu abangabodwa bangaba nabantu abambalwa abasondele kunye nabo abagcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kodwa bonke abantu abanontanga kunye nabo bafuna ukuvumela umntu ukuba asondele kakhulu kwi-initium. Unako ukuphatha abahlobo bakhe ngokugqibeleleyo kunye nabantu, kodwa uya kuhlala evakalelwa indlela aphuma ngayo eludongeni olungabonakaliyo kubo kwaye akamvumeli ebomini bakhe ngokupheleleyo. Ngenxa yeentlanganiso ezinqabileyo eziqhelekileyo kunye nezihlobo, abantu abanjalo bazama ukulawula uthando lwabo, ngokokuba xa kuthengiswa okwesibini, musa ukuzibona ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye ungacingi ukuba ihlabathi liye lawa. Abanxuwa abadanileyo banciphisa kakhulu iimvakalelo zabo. Oku kubonakala kwinto yokuba ngezihlandlo uhlobo olunjalo lwabantu "luyehla." Baqala "ukuphuma baye kubantu", nwabisa, bonani konke. Kodwa emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa baqala ukungena ngaphakathi kwabo kwaye banqabile ngakumbi ngenxa yokuba bayazi okanye bayazikholelwa ukuba bavuma ukuba bangabonakali kwaye, njengokuba kunjalo, bazijezise ngokuziphatha okunjalo.
Uluntu olushushu
Olu hlobo lwama-singles lufana nolunye oludlulileyo, kodwa umahluko phakathi kwabo kukuba ukudideka kukhetha ukhetho olulodwa kwaye ungazami ukubeka ityala elizweni lonke kulo, nangona bacinga ukuba akude kuphelele. I-voztoobloblennye, i-themselves, musa ukulibala ukukhumbuza rhoqo umntu ojikelezile ukuba basolwe luhlobo lwengqondo yomntu. I-Takyhodinochek ayikwazi ukubizwa ngokuba yinyani, kuba akukho mntu uvunyelwe ukuhamba, bazama ukukhangela ingqalelo rhoqo. Abantu abanjalo bathanda ukuzama ukubonisa kwabanye ukuba abayidingi mntu. Kodwa ngokwenene, bazive bengonwabanga ngenxa yokuba abayidingi. Yingakho bazama ukutsala ingqalelo. Ngokomzekelo, phantse yonke iminyango inomkhulukazi okanye umdala omdala ongeyithandi yonke into. Lo mntu akaxubushelani nabani na, kodwa wonke umntu uyazi ngaye, njengokuba yonke imihla ukukhala kwakhe, ukuxhaphazwa kunye nokumangalelwa kwabo bajikelezileyo kuzo zonke izono zabo zivakala. Lo ngumzekelo oqhelekileyo wolukhuni oluthukutheleyo. Kunzima kumntu onjalo ukubonisa nantoni na, okanye ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo naye. Enyanisweni, yena ngokwakhe unecala lokuzimela kwakhe, kodwa akafuni ukuyiqonda kwaye ayamkele.
Unyulu-njengenxalenye yokukhanyiselwa
Mhlawumbi, kukufanelekile ukukhumbula olunye uhlobo lonwabo - aba bantu bathiwa abantu abakhanyisiwe. Oko kukuthi, izithixo zakwaBuddha, ngokuqhelekileyo, abo bakhetha ukuhlala bodwa, kungekhona ngenxa yokudimazeka kunye neengxube zangaphakathi, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukufumana iimpendulo zemibuzo ethile kwaye baqonde isizathu sokuba baphila kule planethi. Kukho ambalwa kakhulu angabonakaliyo, kuba kungekhona wonke umntu olungele ukukhangela inyaniso, endaweni yokwakha umsebenzi, ukudala intsapho kunye nokunye. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokuthiwa ukuphambukiswa kwengqondo. Enyanisweni, baninzi ababaqondi abantu abanjalo, kwaye njengokuba uyazi, kulula ukuba uluntu lubize ngokungacaciswanga kunokuzama ukuluqonda. Iimpawu ezikhanyisiweyo aziphepheli ngokupheleleyo kubantu. Ngaloo nto banomdla ngakumbi kwaye bakhululekile kwihlabathi labo elingaphakathi, kunokuba nabanye. Abantu abanjalo banombono ohluke ngokupheleleyo kunye nembono ebomini.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ungayicingi ngolu hlobo loluncedo, zonke ezinye iintlobo zabantu abathi bafuna ukuba ngabanye, ekujuleni komphefumlo kusadingeka uluntu. Kufuneka nje ukuba bafumane indlela efanelekileyo, bengabaniki iinkimbinkimbi kunye nokudumala ukuthabatha phezulu. Abantu abanjalo abanako ukungena emphefumlweni, njengendawo yabo yokuhlala kwaye kufuneka bahlale kwi-sofa. Kubalulekile ukuvula iingcango kwilizwe labo elincinci elincinci, ukushiya indawo yokuzimela kwaye akukho nanye inzame ukuzama ukuyicinezela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzama ukusondela kumntu ongekho, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ekugqibeleni awuyi kuba sisizathu sokukhungatheka. Emva koko, ukuba umntu omnye ungamvumela umntu ukuba aphume ehlabathini, lo akakwazi nje ukuwandisa, kodwa uyonakalise ngokupheleleyo. Oku kufuneka kukhunjulwe rhoqo.