Ekuqaleni kwe-1070 eMelika, basebenzisa iifowuni zokulala. Umntu osanda kuvuka aze akhumbule iphupha lakhe angabiza le fowuni aze aguqule ubuthongo kwizinga likaSigmund Freud, kunye nemiyalelo kunye neengcebiso malunga nokulawula iphupha lakhe.
Emva koko, iisemina zengqungquthela ezaziqhutyelwe kwiziseko zezifundo ezidumileyo nezigunyazisiweyo kunye neyunivesithi zaza kunceda. Ngokomzekelo, iisemina kwi-theory kunye nokusebenza kwephupha eliphambili kwiYunivesithi yaseStanford zaziwa kwaye zifuna. Izifundo ezili-10 zibiza i-dollar ezili-1500. Emva koko kwafika iMelika yaseMelika, eyayifunde amaphupha, ngenxa yale nto yabonakala uninzi lweencwadi ezizodwa kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zamakhosi kule ngxaki.
AmaMelika ayengekho boovulindlela kwimibono yemibono. Eli gama alinakuqulunqwa yiyo, kodwa nguDistorick Van Eden. Wayepapasha isikhokelo sencwadi, umntu ohamba ngeenyawo wayekwazi ukulawula amaphupha akhe ngekhulu le-19. Kule ncwadi, u-Idrenasskazival ukuba yena ngokwakhe wayelungelelanise amaphupha akhe kangangokuthi wayeze aphephe iphupha (ininzi iphupha lokubhabha ephupheni), ukudibana nabantu abasweleyo kunye nokuhamba ukuya ekupheleni komhlaba.
Unjingalwazi waseMerika waseYunivesithi yaseStanford uSteven Lauberge waba ngumbutho wamanje wokulawula amaphupha. Uyazi indlela yokuzilawula ngokwakhe, kwaye wabhala uluhlu lweencwadi ezisebenzayo ezibangele abantu ukuba bazibandakanye kwezobugcisa bokuphupha. Ukongezelela, wadala idivaysi ekhethekileyo efana neengqungquthela ezibonakalayo ezikwazi ukuphendula ekuhambeni kwamehlo kwaye zingenza umntu angene ephupheni aze azibone kwindawo yokulala. Iindleko ezinjalo zixabisa malunga needola ezingama-200.
Kodwa ngaba ukwazi ukuqonda amaphupha akho kwaye wenze izilungiso kubo? Konke kuxhomekeke kwimigudu yakho. Ngokusekelwe kwimisebenzi yase-Eden, iLaBerge kunye neCosaneda, kukho isicwangciso sezenzo ezithatha inyathelo eziza kukunceda kule nto. Bonke aba bantu bathi naliphi na umntu olala ebusuku angaba nobuchule bokuphupha.
Ungafunda njani ukulawula amaphupha akho?
Inyathelo # 1
Ukuze ufunde indlela yokulawula ukulala kwakho, kufuneka ufike kwiintliziyo zakho. Ngamanye amazwi, kufuneka ufunde okokuqala ukuba uzibonele ephupheni kwaye ungafundi ukwenza, ngoko awukwazi ukulawula ukulala. Ngokuchanekileyo, kufuneka ufunde ukuzilawula ephupheni.
Umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu: njani ukwenza oku? Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ufike ngento enokukunika i-snooze. Umzekelo, yonke imini, jonga izandla zakho, kwisibuko ebusweni bakho uzibuze umbuzo: Ngaba ndilala okanye akunjalo? Ngenye imini, xa uwela ezintendeni zamehlo akho, i-reflex iya kusebenza kwaye imibuzo iya kucinga engqondweni yakho: Ngaba ndiphupha okanye akunjalo? Ngako oko, wena ngokwakho uphendule umbuzo lo: Ewe, ndiphupha.
Inyathelo # 2
Ukuqhubela phambili kwenkcazo, kufuneka ugxininise ingqalelo kubantu kunye nezinto eziwela ebuthongweni bakho. Kubukeka ngathi ugibele ukuguquka kwaye uzama ukugcina amehlo akho kwezinye izinto ezidlulileyo. Kwanje, gxila kwizandla zakho. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba umfanekiso uphazamiseke, iingcali zincoma ukukhangela kwakhona kwisihloko oqhelekile (izandla zakho). Ezinye iinkcukacha kunye nezinto ephupheni kufuneka zijongwe ngokungapheliyo, ngokugquma okukhawulezayo, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukubuyisela umbono wakho kwizinto eziqhelekileyo - izandla zakho.
Kwiincwadi zakhe, uLaberge uthi yile nkqubo yokuba iintsana zifunda ukubamba intloko kwaye zisetyenziswe ekuqinisweni. Ngeentsuku zokuqala zobomi babo abanako ukugxila ingqalelo kwizinto ezifanayo. Ngethuba lexesha, ingqwalasela yenkcazelo iyaqina kwaye umfanekiso kwisiphupha uba njengokwenene njengokuba kunjalo empilweni.
Inyathelo # 3
Kubalulekile ukugcina iphephancwadi lakho lephupha. Bhala phantsi zonke iifoto zamaphupha kunye neemvakalelo ozivelele kuzo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukurekhoda yonke into eyenzekayo ngaphandle kokuphuma ebhedeni, ngokusemthethweni ephupheni. Ngolunye usuku uya kubona ukuba yonke into ayifani njengoko ubhala phantsi, uya kuphawula ukungahambisani. Ngokomzekelo, wena ephupheni lakho uya kuphawula i-athimba e-vegas malunga nendlela yokwenza iimaski zokunyaniseka kweefoloji ekhaya, kwaye xa ukhangela okwesihlandlo sesibini kwiphephandaba, uza kubona enye inqaku-yintoni, indlela yokwakha indlu. Ngamarekhodi akho aza kukunceda ukulandelela zonke izicatshulwa kwaye uza kucacisa ukuba awukho nje ephupheni lakho, kodwa yenza (kulo mzekelo, funda). Yaye xa iqhinga lephupha liza kutshintsha ngokukhawuleza, kuya kuba ngumqondiso ocacileyo ukuba utshintshe unyana wakho wedwa.
Inyathelo # 4
Zonke izinto ezingaqhelekanga ezenzeka ephupheni kukuphawu oluhle kuwe. Esi sizathu esicacileyo sokuba injongo yakho yokuguqula ubuthongo iyaqiniswa. Akubakho ukwesaba ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku ngokubanzi, into ephambili kukuba inkqubo iqalile. Kuwe, makube yinjongo ephambili, kuba kungenxa yenjongo yeziganeko ezenzekayo: iintlanganiso, iingxoxo, ukuhamba, iindiza kunye neminye imimangaliso. Abaphangi abafaki imigaqo eyenzekayo yokwenyani (imithetho yemvelo, iinqununu zonqulo, ubuninzi bemvelo, ukuziphatha kunye nabanye). Unokwakha ubomi bakho amaphupha kuphela ngoncedo lomnqweno wakho, okulula ukubonakalisa njengento eqinile. Kufuneka wenze isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuthetha nomntu okanye uhambe kwindawo ethile, kwaye kuya kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza. Yile ndlela ubomi beephupha eziphuphayo ezizalwa ngayo, ukuba kunjalo, vumela ukuba ukholwe.
Le ngongoma. Ukusebenza kufuna umonde, ixesha kunye nokunyamezela. Ukuba ubusuku bokuqala awuphumelelanga kwaye wanquma ukuyeka le shishini, ngoko awuyi kuzuza nayiphi na iziphumo. Thatha zonke izinto ezandleni zakho kwaye wenze. Nangona awukwazi ukufunda indlela yokulawula amaphupha akho, ngoko ke qalisa ukuvuka, ebaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yethu.
Ngaba ufuna ukufunda indlela yokulawula amaphupha akho? Okanye mhlawumbi sele uyakwazi ukwenza oku?