Indoda yintloko yentsapho
Imveli yezinto ezininzi zokukholelwa ukuba indoda - into ephambili kwintsapho iyanyamalala ngokukhawuleza kwixesha elidlulileyo. Kodwa konke okufanayo le ngcamango ihlala kwindawo ezinamandla kwiindawo zethu. Amadoda abonwa njengesiqingatha esomeleleyo sobuntu ukususela ngexesha lokukhumbula xa befumana ukutya kwenyama kunye nokukhusela abo bathandekayo kwiingozi. Imiqathango yobomi yayinzima kangangokuba intsapho yayidinga umkhokeli ongenasimo esinqununu. Abaninzi abafazi bafuna ukubona intloko yentsapho yindoda eya kuthatha uxanduva kwintsapho, ukuzinyamekeka kwayo, iza kusombulula uninzi lweengxaki eziqhelekileyo. Abafazi abasweleyo babona indoda njengomkhuseli wabo.
Iingcali zengqondo zivuma ukuba indima yentloko yentsapho yindoda ifana nemvelo. Ukuze sibe noxanduva lozinzo lwentsapho, kufuneka sithathe izigqibo ezinengqiqo, nangenjongo, kwaye ekubeni abantu besengqiqo baninzi ngaphezu kwemvakalelo kaninzi, kulula ukuba benze izigqibo ezinjalo kunabesifazana abahlukileyo kwimpembelelo yabo. Amadoda ancike kakhulu kwizinga, kwaye ekubeni ekubeni intloko yentsapho nayo yimeko, iya kumenza aqonde intsapho njengeprojekthi yakhe, apho uya kutyhola imali ngokuzonwabisa. Ukuba uyayichukumisa indoda kude nolawulo lwentsapho, uya kuzama ukufumana enye indlela yokuzivakalisa, ukuziva ukubaluleka kwayo kunye nemfuneko, umzekelo, emsebenzini okanye ngokulinda.
Ukusekwa kobukhosi
Akuqhelekanga kwiintsapho apho umfazi ephethe isikhundla esiphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiimanyano, ibhinqa inezimpawu zobunkokheli, kwaye umntu ungumntu onobubele. Loo ntokazi, ngenxa yobume bakhe obusebenzayo, ithatha umntu ojongene nentsapho, ngenxa yokuphila kwakhe. Ibhinqa eliqhelekileyo loshishino, otshatile kwisithandane, ejwayele ukukhokela kwindawo yakhe yokusebenzela, uya kuqala ukulandela indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ngendlela efanayo kwintsapho. Indoda ithatha uxanduva lokubeka iliso kubantwana, ukulungisa iingxaki zendlu. Kule meko, yonke into ixhomekeke kumlingani wabatshatileyo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo indoda ekwazi ukulawula kakuhle inendima yentloko yentsapho ngokuzithandela inikeza iingcambu ezandleni zabasetyhini, kuba sonke siyivila. Kodwa ukukhokela intsapho ngumsebenzi onzima, ofuna iqondo eliphezulu, kwaye xa umntu ethatha yonke le mpahla ephuma ezandleni zakhe, akanako ukumelana nayo yonke into. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa abantu bekhuliswe ngumama onamandla onomdla oqinileyo, akafaneli nje ukuba isigqibo kwintsapho singenziwa ngumntu ngaphandle kwabasetyhini.
Esinye isizathu, i-dodger yentsapho iqulunqwe ngumtshato-imeko ekhoyo kuluntu. Kwamanye amazwe, umzekelo, e-China, kunabesifazane abancinci kunabesilisa, kwaye bazama ukusebenzisa oku. Ekhaya, baxhaphaza amadoda, baxhaphaze isimo sabo, kwaye amadoda ayesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumlingane wakhe, kuba xa umtshato uqeshwe ithuba lokutshata kwakhona kuncinci kakhulu.
Lumente weDemokhrasi
Ukongeza kwi-patriarchy okanye u-matricarryy, kukho enye indlela yokulawula inqanawa yentsapho - idemokhrasi, ukulingana ekuxazululeni imiba yentsapho. Ukwenza oku, bobabini nendoda kufuneka bayikulungele ngokwengqondo. Okokuthi, ukuthatha isigqibo kukuthatha uxanduva, kwaye akubona bonke, ngokwenene, bathabathe umthwalo onjalo kumagxa abo. Ukuxazulula nayiphi na umba kwi-oda engahambisani nayo kunokunyanzelisa ukuzithemba kwesiqingatha sesibini, ngoko kuyacetyiswa ukuba ubambe amabhunga eentsapho, apho wonke umntu uya kuchaza isikhundla sakhe, kwaye emva koko le sigqibo sisamkelekile, esivumelana ngazo zombini. Oku kuthetha ukuba zombini imiphumo yesigqibo esinjalo iya kuphendulwa ngabo bobabini, kunye nokuhlambalaza, njengokuthi "ndathetha", abasayi kwamkelwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abaxhomekeke ekusebenziseni, ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi, batyale izigqibo zabo ekuqhelweni komntu othandekayo, bamphoqele ukuba acinge ukuba isigqibo sakhe saso, kwaye loo mfazi wavuma nje. Kunzima kakhulu ukubiza imeko enjalo yentando yesininzi. Idemokhrasi isekelwe ekuthandweni nasekuhlonipheni, kunye nokunyanzelisa kukukhohlisayo okunika i-manipulator amandla. Kunzima ukwenza izigqibo kunye. Abaninzi bathi i-demokrasi kunye nokulingana kwintsapho yimbali. Balinganisa ubomi bentsapho ngokuhamba ngomkhumbi, apho kukho umphathi omnye kuphela. Ewe, ukuba abantu abanako ukuwamkela isikhundla sesinye, ukuba akukho ntlonipho, uzama ukulungisa isisombululo kunye kunye kunye nokutsalana. Kodwa kule ngxaki kunzima ukuthetha ngobomi obudibeneyo. Idemokhrasi inikezela ukukwazi ukuvelisa nokunyaniseka, ukuhlonipha isikhundla somntu othandekayo. Kukho nawuphi na, uthando luyona sizathu esona sizathu sokuba abantu bakha intsapho, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba abayikulibala ngeemvakalelo zabo ngokufuna ukubaluleka kwabo.
Indima yayo
Ngokuphathelele ukuhanjiswa kweembopheleleko kwintsapho kunokuthethwa ixesha elide. Kukho izithethe ezithile kwintlalo eyahlula imisebenzi kwintsapho nakwowesifazana, ngokwemiqathango yokukhusela i-immunity kufanele ibenze izikhonkwane kunye nezixhobo zokulungisa, kwaye loo mfazi ulungiselela i-borschtes ukuba agqoke iimpahla. Enye indima yendabuko yamadoda-ukufumana ukugcinwa kwentsapho, kunye nelo mfazi-ukuhlala ekhaya nabantwana. Ukuba bobabini abatshatileyo bakhuliswa kwimimiselo yendabuko, ngoko ke imeko yabo iyakwamkeleka ngokupheleleyo kwaye iyavumelana ngokubambisana.
Kukho enye indlela yokwabiwa kwakhona kwemisebenzi, xa indima ebantwini idibana neempawu zabantu kunye nabasetyhini. Ukuba umntu uphumelele nakweyiphi na intsimi okanye uyayithanda, kuya kuba yinto engqiqweni ukuvumela ukuba akwenze kwintsapho. Ngamanye amazwi, wonke umntu wenza okuthile kwintsapho ayithandayo, kwaye ukuba ulungile kuyo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu ujabulela ukupheka ubugcisa bokupheka, ngoko kutheni ungamniki ububalulekileyo ekhitshini. Umfazi ungumzali ozalwe ngumzali, owaziyo ukugcina uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, unokukwazi ukunyamekela ngemali ekhaya.
Ewe, kulungile xa wonke umntu enza oko akuthandayo, kodwa kukho imisebenzi emininzi endlwini, ukuzaliseka kwayo okungenakukuvuyisa kakhulu nakubani na. Kulo mzekelo kungcono ukugqiba kunye kunye nantoni eza kuqhutywa ekhaya, ngokokuba akukho ukuphazamiseka, xa umntu enza yonke into ephambili. Le meko ihlala ikhokelela ekuhlakeleni kunye nokuhlambalaza.
Ngamanye amaxesha izazi zeengqondo zicebisa iintsapho ukuba zitshintshele ngokunyanisekileyo imisebenzi yazo, ukuze abafazi bavelele kwenye indawo baze bafikelele ekuviseni. Eli liva linceda, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha lihleka. Ngokuqhelekileyo amabhinqa namadoda ayesaba ukwabelana ngemithwalo yabo, kuba besaba ukulahlekelwa ingqalelo kubaluleka kwabo kwintsapho. Kodwa oku akunjalo, kuba kwintsapho apho kukho intlonipho kunye nokuqonda, oku akuze kwenzeke.