Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye kuni ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bam wadibana nendoda ekhangela ingxaki, umntu onesifo sexhoba. Ukuba umntu uyasuswa emsebenzini, yile nto. Ukuba umntu ushiya umfazi wakhe, ngoko ulapha. Ukuba nabani na ngeeholide kwaye baqhekeza umsele, ke yena kuphela. Ekuqaleni umntu onjalo unobubele bubabini kunye nezihlobo kunye nabahlobo. Bazama ukumnceda, bamkhuthaze ngamazwi, kodwa umntu onobuhlungu ulahla lonke uncedo ngamandla akhe onke.
Ngenxa yoko, imeko iya kuma - umntu uhlala ebudeni, abantu abasondeleyo behla izandla, yonke into imbi kwaye akukho mvume. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukunceda abantu abanjalo? Ngaba ikhona ithuba lokuphepha ololuhlu lweentsilelo? Ewe, ewe, oku siza kuzama ukuyiqonda.Ukuba ixhoba liphakathi kwenu.
Okokuqala, yeka ukuziva uxolo. Ngoko, yintoni na, ukuba le ndoda iphinde ibe yintlekisa. Zingaphi kangangexesha ayenayo kangaka inhlanhla ngenyanga yokugqibela? Unyaka? Ingaba wayezama ukuphepha ukungaphumeleli ngandlela-thile? Yiloo nto.
Mamela ngokucophelela izikhalazo zexhoba, kodwa unganikeli, kodwa ubuze imibuzo ethile. Yintoni oya kuyenza ngoku? Ngaba sele usicinga, kutheni le meko iphinda iphinda iphinde ibuyele? Ukugxininisa ukuba umntu unqabile ukucinga ukuba akonwabanga kwaye ubeka ityala kuyo yonke indawo, nokuba mhlawumbi okwesibini ucinga ukuba unembopheleleko yobomi bakhe.
Ungazami ukusombulula zonke iingxaki kuye. Uncedo ufumane isisombululo kwingxaki. Ndixelele indlela kwaye ungayifumana phi umsebenzi omtsha, kodwa ungakhangeli indawo kwixhoba ngokwabo-makanganyamekele. Musa ukuxoxa naye ngeeyure ezithembekileyo umfazi ongumthengisi, unikeze enye, umsebenzi ocebileyo.
Ungayixhasi ixhoba lokulwa nabanye abantu kunye neli hlabathi elingaphelele. Ixhoba liya kuhlala lifumana ityala kwaye liya kuba nabani na, kodwa kungekhona. Ukuthintela intetho enjalo.
Umntu onesifo sexhoba kufuneka ajongane nelokuba ukuba akazithethi ngoku ngoku, akukho mntu ufanele amthembe kuye.
Kwimeko apho ixhoba lingafuni ukukuqonda nokutshintsha into ebomini bakhe, sebenzisa iindlela ezinzima. Ngokomzekelo, ingxoxo engenangqiqo. Ungesabi ukuba ngumrhwebi kunye nenombolo yesitha. Isimo sengqondo sexhoba kubantu sihlala sisitshintsha, kwaye unokuhlwayela inkozo enempilo.
Tshela ixhoba lonke inyaniso ngaye, oko kukuthi, indlela kunye neemeko ezenzeka kuye, jonga ngaphandle. Zama ukuthetha ngokuzolileyo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, ungamangaleli, utsho nje iinyani.
Ukuba ixhoba liye lithetha kwaye ligqibe isigqibo sokutshintsha into ethile, ncedise kulo msebenzi, uncede unqobe isilingo sokushiya yonke into uze ubuyele kwimpilo yakhe yangaphambili.
Ukuba ulixhoba.
Ukuba uqale uqaphele isifo sexhoba ekhaya lakho, uqaphele ukuba uhlala ukhononda kubahlobo kunye neentsapho malunga nento othetha ngayo ngezinto ezintle, ukuba iingxaki zihamba emva komnye, ubudlelwane nabantu baba nzima kakhulu, zibeke ingqalelo. Ngaba asikho isizathu?
Musa ukucela kwabanye izinto ezinje okumele uyenze. Awucingi ukuba uhamba ngeentonga xa unemilenze enempilo? Kwimeko enjalo, musa ukucela abanye ukuba benze nantoni na okanye benze izigqibo apho uzivala khona.
Musa ukoyika ukwenza iimpazamo. Ukuzithathela uxanduva kwabanye abantu, ubeka ingozi ngakumbi.
Musa ukutsala iimeko ezimbi. Musa ukucwangcisa ukungaphumeleli komsebenzi wakho ngamnye. Ungathathi hlangothi nento eyenzekayo, kodwa zama ukwenza okusemandleni akho ukwenza isiphumo njengoko uyifunayo.
Gwema isilingo sokuba buthathaka. Wonke umntu unako ukujamelana nenani elikhulu kunengxaki. Xa sizisola ngokwengeziwe, amandla angaphantsi esinako okwenyaniso.
Zithokoze nangona impumelelo encinci. Khuthaza elowo uloyiso ngobuthakathaka bakho, kwaye ngexesha elifutshane, uya kuba ngumnqobi kwixhoba.
Enyanisweni, wonke umntu unokunqoba ubuthathaka. Kwanele ukuba uzifunise ngokwakho, ukuhlola ngokuchanekileyo amandla akho nobuchule kwaye ufunde ukuma ngokuqinile ezinyaweni zakho. Uncedo lomnye umntu kwiimeko ezinzima luyimfuneko kwaye uphelele, ukuba unomntu ofuna ukucela uncedo. Kodwa ukuguqula uxhaso lomhlobo kunye nobubele kwiintonga ezinobungozi kunobungozi nakumntu onempumelelo kakhulu.