Isimo esinjalo singathiwa sikulungele, ezo zibini ziba ngaphantsi nangaphantsi. Kodwa imitshato engaphumelelanga - ngaphezulu nangaphezulu. Sisiphi isizathu? Akukho cacile. Kodwa yintoni ekuthethwa ngokuqinisekileyo, kukuba abantu balahlekelwa yi ntembelo emva kokuba bahlukane nentombi yabo ethandekayo.
Indoda yindoda, kufuneka iphumelele ibhinqa, ngenxa yokuba amantombazana akhathazeki kakhulu ngale nto, kodwa amadoda ... Ahlakulela iinkomfa eziza kubathintela ekuzileni amantombazana. Okubi ngakumbi kula madoda aphile nentombazana ixesha elide emtshatweni, kodwa engenabantwana, kwaye emva koko-umtshato. Baqala ukuqonda ukuba sele sele beneminyaka yobudala, kwaye amathuba ayancinci kwaye amancinci imihla ngemihla.
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, indoda ayifuni ukukhangela umlingane womntu, kodwa ucinga nje kuphela. Uzibuza yona umbuzo othi: "Indlela yokukrazula iingcamango malunga nomfazi ongaphambili." Kwi-intanethi, isiqendu sezihloko enegama abantu abazama ukunceda unobhala, kodwa abaninzi bala bantu abazange bafumane kwiimeko ezifanayo. Enyanisweni, libale okokuqala yinto elula, kuba iingcamango zowesifazane owayesakuba ngumfazi - oku akunjalo njengesifundo sengqondo. Indoda ayinayo into yokucinga ngayo, ngoko ke igubungela intloko yakhe nendlela yokuphila kwakhe engayisebenzanga ngayo, ukuba yonke into imbi, lona wesifazane wamshiya. Kodwa ubomi abupheli apho. Simele siqhubeke siphila kwaye siqhubeke sivuya ngokuphila. Indoda ekule meko, ukuhleka ngala mazwi, kwaye uthi oku akunakwenzeka. Kodwa akazange azame.
Amadoda ahlulwe ngamacandelo amaninzi. Ngokuchanekileyo, akunjalo. Iingcamango zabo zahlula kwiindidi eziliqela. Kukho abo bacinga malunga nento eya kwenzeka kumfazi wabo wangaphambili kwaye ungazami ukukrazula iingcamango malunga nomfazi wangaphambili, kodwa kukho abanye abacinga ngabo kuphela.
Okokuqala, umfundi kufuneka aqonde ukuba uluphi uhlobo lweengcamango ezilawulayo. Ekuqaleni kunzima ukwenza oku, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuzama, kuba kukukho okuqhubekayo okusebenzayo.
Nangona ... konke akuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwintokazi ozama ukuyibala. Ukhumbule indlela akuxelele ngayo ukuba uyakuphonsa? Ngaba wayichaza isizathu sokuba Ngaba uthethe nto malunga nale? Ukuba kunjalo, weqa umhlathi olandelayo, kwaye ukuba awuyi ... ke ufunde ngokucophelela.
Abasetyhini - ezi zizidalwa ekufuneka zifumane isizathu. Ngokomzekelo, khawucinge ukuba imeko: ngaba ufuna ukulala nomfazi wakho, uya kuthini ukuphendula? Akayi kukuxelela: "Andifuni," okanye "Ndiyagula." Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumanisa le nto, uya kuba sisisithakazelo kwaye sinyanisekile, kodwa sisona sizathu, umzekelo, indlela yakhe yokuphendula ngayo: "Intloko yam ibuhlungu." Ewe, apha. Ngoku makhe sihambe kuyo. Ukuba umfazi uhlala efumana impendulo, kwaye akaphenduli ngokucacileyo: "Ndiyakhathazekile, ngoko ndihamba," ke kukho esinye isizathu esivakalayo. Kufuneka ufumane. Zama ukumbiza kwaye umemele ukuba adibane kwindawo ethile. Emva koko uqala ukuthetha ukuba akafuni ukuba nobuhlobo kunye nawe, kodwa kufuneka umxelele, uhlale uzolile, ukuba ufuna ukuxoxa ngezinto ezenzekile. Kwi-80% yamatyala, uyavuma. Kwintlanganiso, makube nokuzola okuza kukunika ithemba, kokubili kuwe, nakwisiqingatha sakho sesibini. Ngokukhawuleza xa efika, mbuze into enokuthanda ukuyilungisa. Yiba mnandi kuye, njengokungathi ngomhla wokuqala. Ngokukhawuleza ekuphenduleni, musa ukukhawuleza ukubuza umbuzo onomdla kuwe. Mbuze malunga nobomi bakhe bamanje, ukuba uye watshintsha njani ukususela ekushiyeni. Yaye xa usuqhelana ngokuqhelekileyo nomnye nomnye, hamba kumbuzo ofanelekileyo. Buza ukuba kutheni ahambe, yintoni isizathu. Kodwa musa ukuthatha iimpendulo ezinjenge: "Uyeke ukuthanda." Le mpendulo ejwayelekile. Ngokukhawuleza xa uphendula ngokukhawuleza umbuzo wakho, unako ukuqhubeka nokuhlwaya kunye naye, ngokuqinisekileyo emva kokuhlalutya zonke iimpendulo zakhe. Kufuneka uqonde into engalunganga, ukuba akayithandi kakhulu kuwe. Yayiyintoni isizathu sokuba oko.
Ngoko, ma siqhubeke. Ngoku uyazi isizathu esicacileyo sokuhlukana kwakho. Kufuneka uqwalasele le ngxaki, yilungele yona. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ube ngcono, bonise iingcamango zakho malunga nomfazi owayekade ulunge ngakumbi, kwaye nangaphandle kwakho akufanelekanga. Qonda, ngoku akafuni ukuba nawe, kwaye unayo. Ngoku kungumgangatho ophantsi kunani. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuyangalisa kangakanani, kodwa kunjalo.
Ngoku khawucinge ukuba uphila njani ngoku, ucinga ukuba akanako ukucinga, ucinga nje kuwe, kwaye akanako ukuzinceda. Kwaye nangu apha! Usuke usisiqingatha ngokwakho, ngoku khawucinge ukuba ikusasa lakho liya kuba njani. Cwangcisa, unokuyibhala ephepheni. Khawucinge nje intombazana enhle kakhulu ecaleni kwayo, kufuneka ibe yindoda enhle ngaphezu kweyokuqala ukuya kwi-2 ubuncinane xa kunokwenzeka. Cinga nje wena, ngoku ulungele nantoni na, ukuba ube nawe.
Iingcamango aziyi kulala ngokukhawuleza. Kufana nememori efuna ukuzaliswa ukucima ulwazi olungapheliyo. Kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe ntoni ukuze ufumane ulwazi? Kunjalo ... kufuneka uqale ukuphumeza isicwangciso sakho, mhlawumbi akunakwenzeka, kodwa uzama, kufuneka ufumane isiqingatha seengcamango zonke.
Ngamazwi, konke kulungile, kodwa kusebenze ..., akubona bonke bahlangana nentombazana baze bafumane isizathu. Unokuzama ukuthetha naye kwesi sihloko kwifowuni, kodwa kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba uya kubeka phantsi ifowuni, eya kukuqhubela kwiimeko ezimbi nakakhulu.
Apha kungcono ukuba ungathathi ingozi kwaye uhambe ngenye indlela. Hlangana namantombazana, hamba ngomhla. Kufuneka ufumane oko. Gxotha konke oku kuyo, uhambelane namantombazana, mhlawumbi i-spark iya kuphuma kwaye uza kuphumelela. Kwaye kufuneka ucele: "Kutheni kukho intombazana eninzi kangaka? ". Kulula, ubonisa kwakhona ukuba ufanelekile kakhulu, kukho intombazana emininzi, kwaye ezininzi zazo zingaba zibi okanye zingcono. Unqabile ngokukhetha okulungileyo, uya kuvuya ukuphulaphula amabali abo. Konke oku kuya kusula ulwazi malunga nolwangaphambili, oluya kuba ngumzuzu omhle.