Masinike imizekelo yabasetyhini abangaboni nantoni na ihlazo, qalisa umtshato kunye nomfokazi. Ziyintoni ezikhokelayo?
1. Ucinga ukuba umtshato wakhe umthandi akayi kuhlala ixesha elide. Ucinga into efana nale: into yokuba sele sele esatshatileyo yinto engathandabuzekiyo, kufuneka abe yimi. Ngoko ke, simele sisisuse ngokukhawuleza ukususa kuye "intsapho engasebenzi". Ngaba akayiqondi ukuba umfazi akayena nje isibini? Uphatha umfazi wakhe ngokucekisayo. Uyamhleka, kutheni ufuna yena?
Aba bantu babini, nje abakwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide kunye. Kodwa siyinto enye. Sidalwe omnye nomnye, siqondana ngomlomo wesiqingatha, kwaye xa sidibana, sikhumbula nje ukuba kukho ixesha. Simele simenze umshiye umfazi wakhe, kwaye siza kufaka isandla ngesandla.
2. URazluchnitsa ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwintanda yakhe kunye nomfazi akakho okwaneleyo, ubumnene, ulwalamano kunye neentlupheko. Emva koko uvakalelwa njani ngeemvakalelo? Ukuba ekhayeni lakhe uthanda ukuvalelwa okanye kumenza abe khoboka: "Phumani inkunkuma!", "Ukucoca", "Ixesha lokulungisa, awucingi njalo?". Kodwa indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ayikho nje ngesisu, musa ukunyanzelisa umntu ukuba enze into ethile, kufuneka umkhulule kwiingxaki zansuku zonke.
Kodwa mna uya kuvuya, kwaye ubomi abuyi kuphazamisa ubudlelwane bethu. Kwaye ukuba sichitha ixesha elifutshane kunye, kulungile, ndiya kuma, ndiyayiqonda yonke into, unomsebenzi omningi kunye nomsebenzi. Ndiya kuthuthuzelwa kuphela ngcamango yokuba nguye wam. Kwaye kaninzi kangako iintlanganiso, zinamandla.
3. Mhlawumbi umninimzi uvelwano nomthandi wakhe, kuba umfazi akayiboni nhlobo, akanalo ibhantshi kunye nekhati, imingxuma kwiisokisi okanye akakhange ahlome amaqhosha. Akakwazi ukuqonda indlela umfazi osemthethweni onokuphatha ngayo umyeni wakhe ngokungakhathaleli xa ebona i-fat fat stain kwi-blouse yakhe.
Kwaye kutheni umntu othakazelisayo edla ngeesanti ezimbini kunye ne-sausage kunye noshizi, kwaye ngaphambi kokuya emsebenzini, akayidli nantoni na, okanye asela isaladi elula? Udla ngokukhawuleza kwaye oko kufuneka akwenze - akunakwenzeka kwaye kunobungozi kwimpilo. Ngoko unokuzisa umyeni wakho kwisilonda esiswini, okanye umntu uya kuba negazi eliphezulu.
4. Mhlawumbi "i-hijacker" ayiyikuqwalasela into enomdla wayo egqobileyo, kunye nento ayidlayo. Unomsebenzi owodwa-ukunyusa, ukumbambisa, kwaye, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kunjalo, unezicwangciso ezinjalo ezingenangqondo, apho "umfazi" akakwazi ukuphuma. Wenza oku ngokukhawuleza kunye nokunyamekela ukuba indoda iwa thandana ngokukhawuleza, ukulibala malunga nayo yonke into.
Akazi ukuba kutheni ufuna umfokazi, ungumzingeli nje, uthanda ukufumana indlela yakhe, aze ayeke umhlobo wakhe wangaphambili. Akafuni ukuhlala naye ebomini, aze atshate naye. Kodwa ngokungafani namanye amabhinqa, akakhathaleli ngombala kunye nobudala bomntu. Ufana ne-toy elula, ungadlala naye kwaye uyeke.
Ngoko ke yintoni amathuba okuba zonke iintlobo zeendoda eziphathekayo zithatha umntu ngaphandle kwentsapho? Kuxhomekeke kuphela kumntu, kwaye uyavuya gqitha kwintsapho okanye ukhathala kangakanani ngokuqhelekileyo.
Kodwa akuyinyani ukuba emva kokuba indoda ishiya intsapho, uya kuphumelela ekwakheni intsapho eqinile. Emva koko, umtshato wesibini awunamandla kunowokuqala. Ngokweengqondo zengqondo, indoda iya ngakwesobunxele, ukuba umfazi kunye nenkosikazi ayithandi. Indoda idibana nomnye umfazi kuba ufuna nje "ukuphumelela iqela elilandelayo" kwaye uqiniseke ukuba unomtsalane. Ngoko ke, ngumfazi omele enze indoda yakhe ikhululekile kunye naye, kwaye akaqali ukukhangela intombazana ecaleni.