Uceba, ufuna ukwabelana nawo onke amanwaba kunye neentlungu zobomi bentsapho.
Kodwa, ngomnyaka kamva, kukho ukuxabana kokuqala, ukuxabana okubuwula, yintoni enye impikiswano, nangona kunjalo, yonke into efanayo. Bobabini bacaphukile! Isizathu? Ewe, mhlawumbi abayi kukhumbula ngoku! Mhlawumbi ngenxa yekati okanye inja, ukuba ngelo xesha isibini sasingabantwana. Baxakekile kwaye badla ngokugqithiseleyo. Emva koko, iyure iyadlula, kwaye icela ukuxolelwa kunye ... okanye iqabane lakhe lixolela, okanye lithatha inja / ikati, izitya ezizithandayo kwaye zihamba ngqo kwiofisi yokubhalisa ukuba ifake umtshato. Ngaloo mzuzwana, waqonda ukuba akafunanga ukuhlala entolongweni yalobu dlelwane kwaye abe noxinzelelo lobomi bentsapho, okubonakala ukuba wayebambelele kuye ekubeni isitampu sibonakala kwipaspoti.
Ixesha lidlula. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi zonke izikhokelo zenkundla sele zilungisiwe kwaye akayi kuzisola ngesigqibo, kodwa ukuqonda ukuba ngoku, nangona kunjalo, kodwa uye waba yedwa, entliziyweni, esayikhathaza. Uqala ukucinga kwakhona ngeziganeko ezenzekayo, ubuyele kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye uzama ukufumana izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato, uzigxeka kunye nabanye. Kufika ixesha lokulinda. Uyesaba ukutshintsha nantoni na ebomini, enethemba lokuba mhlawumbi uza kubuya ngolunye usuku kwaye yonke into iya kuba njengaphambili. Iquka imvakalelo yengqumbo, intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ngoko konke oku kuthatha uhlobo lobuninzi obude.
Le mizekelo ingamakhulu, amawaka, izigidi! Kanye nezizathu zezi. Akukho mntu ukhuselwe ngumtshato. Ngamanye amaxesha akusenako ukugcina umtshato, kodwa ukunqoba le ntlekele kunye nokukhawuleza ukukhulula kwengqondo kwizandla zakho.
Akunakwenzeka ukuphazamisa, kunye nokuqhawula umtshato kukuwa kwethemba kunye nokuthembela ngokumalunga nomntu osondeleyo. Yingakho, zonke ezi ngcamango ezimbi kufuneka uqale ususe ekhanda lakho. Ukwahlukana kukuvavanya kakhulu, kodwa oko akusiyo isiphelo sobomi, kuphela ukuphela kwesinye sezigaba zayo, esikukhathazayo, sikwenza unamandla kwaye unobulumko. Ngoko cinga ngendlela yokwenza isigaba esilandelayo sobomi bakho siphumelele. Zama ukuphelelwa yintliziyo! Ukwahlukana akusiyo isizathu sokuyeka ukuzikhathalela uze ukhale nje. Iinyembezi kule ndawo ziphendula ngokuqhelekileyo kwinto eyenzekayo, akufanele uzinqande, iimvakalelo ezingapheliyo ziya kuhlala zide kwaye zinciphise ixesha lokukhishwa kwengqondo emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Into ephambili akuyikuyeka! Okokuqala, ukukhulula ngengqondo wakho umlingane wangaphambili kunye nayo yonke into edibanise nawe. Zama ukutshintsha umfanekiso, iinkcukacha zangaphakathi, ungashiya ezinye izinto ezikukhumbuza ngexesha elidlulileyo okanye ukufudukela kwesinye isixeko ukuba awuxhunyiwe ngabantwana okanye ezinye izibophelelo. Utshintsho lweendawo zokuhlala luza kuvula abaqhelana nabo, amathuba, kunye namathuba okukusindisa kwiintlanganiso ezinokwenzeka kunye nomyeni wangaphambili okanye ukugweba izimvo zabangane. Ukuba uqonda ukuba unxibelelwano olungathandekiyo alukwazi ukuphetshwa, uzama ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kuyo yonke imibuzo uze unike iimpendulo ezaneleyo. Ekubeni emva kokuqhawula umtshato uyinto yokuqwalasela, kwanabo bantu babengazange banomdla ebomini bakho ngaphambili. Kaloku nje, uye waba ngumxholo oyintloko wengxoxo, kodwa ungakhathazeki, kungekudala kungekudala ukugqithisa kwaye uya kuphefumula. Ungesabi ukuzithiba, hamba eholide okanye uzalisekise iphupha lakho elixabisekileyo, kuya kunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo. Ukuya kumabhayisikobho, kwimidlalo yemidlalo, iipikniksi, iiklasi kwizinto zokuzonwabisa ozithandayo nazo zamkelekile.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukubona iinjongo kunye neenjongo ezintsha. Zi thembisa ukuba unqobe yonke ingxaki kwaye wakhe ikamva eliqaqambileyo. Yenza uluhlu lweenguqu omele ulwenze ngendlela yakho yokuphila. Ungakulibali ukubandakanya kwesi sicwangciso ngamathuba okuvulelwa ubomi obungasemsebenzini. Ndikholelwe, kuya kubakho ezininzi! Ukukhulula emva kokuqhawula umtshato kunemiba emihle! Emva koko, akukho nto abantu abaninzi abaye batshata ngaphambili abazibophelelanga ngakumbi ngokubambisana kwabo, kodwa bazikhethele ukuzimela.
Ukukhishwa kwengqondo emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuyithuba elide ngokwaneleyo, elinokuthatha malunga nonyaka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ixesha liphilisa yonke into, kodwa ukuba emva kwesi sihlandlo isimo sakho sengqondo asiphuculanga okanye unomuvo wokuthi awukwazi ukujamelana nale meko ngokwakho, kufuneka ufune uncedo kwi-psychotherapist. Ekubeni ukuphendula ngokungazenzisiyo ukungazinzi kwempilo yengqondo kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezingakumbi zempilo.