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Ukuqhathaniswa nomyeni wakhe, njani ukusinda komtshato? Inqanawa yakho yentsapho yaphazamiseka, yaphazamisa ubomi? Kunzima, kodwa kufuneka uzame ukuphuma kwaye ungagxininiswa! Funda amacebiso kwinqaku lethu namhlanje!
Yeka ukuzibala unetyala! Enyanisweni yokuba awukwazi ukugcina intsapho, ngokuqhelekileyo amaqabane omabini asolwa. Ekugqibeleni, kukho imeko kunye neemeko ongenakukwazi ukuzibona, utshintshe okanye ukhuphe konke. Thatha ikhefu ngokukhawuleza. Yaye khumbula into ephambili: akukho mntu unelungelo lokugxekisa kwaye ukusola ngokuba ngumfazi omubi okanye umngane ongenakukhathazeka, uqhuba indlu, akanomdla kwimicimbi yendoda, njl. Kule meko, kukulungele ukuzola kunye nesidima sithetha ukuba awufuni ukuthetha kwesi sihloko nonke, okanye nalo mntu ngokukodwa.
Ukulwa nokudandatheka! Okokuqala, kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo, intsimbi yokudandatheka: xa kwenzeka okubi kakhulu ukuba awufuni ukushiya indlu, zibukele ngokwakho, zenzele, zidle, zidibanise iinwele zakho kunye nokumomotheka nje kuba yingxaki. Ngoko, kufuneka siziphoqe ukuba sivuke, sihlambe, sigqoke, sihlambulule izinwele zethu, senze size siphuma kubantu: ukutyelela, kwi-theatre, ukuya kwi-cinema. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zilungiselele ukuyothenga ngokulula: uthenge isambatho esingazange sithenge ukuthenga ngexesha lomtshato, nceda uzenzele ngevumba elitsha lezindlu zangasese. Ukuba awufuni ukubona nabani na, hamba epakini. Into ephambili kukuzibandakanya ngento ethile, kungekhona ukugxila kwingxaki yakho kwaye ungayihlutheli umsila ngezinyembezi.
Ungesabi ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zakho! Akukufuneki ukuba uthethe ngeengxaki nazo zonke izihlobo. Kwanele abantu ababini okanye abathathu, njengomama okanye umhlobo omhle. Zama ukuthetha kwaye ubone ukuba uziva ungcono ngokukhawuleza.
Yamkela inkxaso yabantu abakuzungezile: oogxa emsebenzini, abahlobo, izalamane. Akukwazi ukuba wonke umntu akugwebe, uhlekise okanye ujabule ngentlungu. Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho abantu abahlala kunzima ekuncedeni. Omnye uya kukumema ukuba uye kutyelela, ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, unike uhambo ngaphandle kwesixeko, kwilizwe. Ngovuyo, yamkela ezi zimemo, njengemibono emnandi yinto oyifunayo ngoku.
Thatha yonke into ekhumbuzayo ngexesha elidlulileyo! Fihla ama-albhamu kunye neefoto, izikhumbuzo ezivela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili kunye nezinye izinto ezingakhumbuza ngaye. Musa nje ukulahla! Emva kweminyaka embalwa, xa intlungu yakho iyancipha, uya kuvuyela ukuphonononga kwakhona iifoto kwakhona, ukukhumbula ixesha elidlulileyo.
Musa ukuphulaphula abacebisi abafuna ukukwazisa malunga neemeko zakutshanje ebomini bomnye umntu ongekhoyo kuwe. Abachaphazelekayo ukuchazela ukuba awunomdla.
Musa ukukhawuleza ukungena kulwalamano olutsha! Ewe, ndifuna ukuziphindisela kwi-ex, ndibonise ukuba akayena yedwa ehlabathini kunye nabanye abantu bakukhathalela. Kodwa emva komtshato, ixesha kufuneka lidlule. Ukuba uhamba ngokukhawuleza ukuba ube ngumtshato omtsha, ngoko mhlawumbi uya kukhetha indoda yesimo sengqondo apho umyeni wakho owayesakuba ngumyeni wakho, ngokuba ungenakulungelelanisa ubuhlobo obutsha.
Ungenzi nto ngokubi kunye nokulimaza yakho yangaphambili kwaye, ngokukodwa, uluthando olutsha! Ukwenza iimpazamo ngeli xesha kulula, kodwa kuya kuba lula kuwe. Dlula ngaphantsi kwentloko yakho ebanjwe phezulu kwaye ungawaqwalasela.
Unesigaba esitsha ebomini bakho. Kuya kuba bhetele xa idibaniswa nemikhwa emitsha kunye nemigangatho emihle. Qala ukuya echibini okanye ukufaneleka, ubhalisele ezinye izifundo. Namaxesha amaninzi kunokwenzeka, hlabana nabangani. Ingxoxo ejabulisayo iphazamisa iingxaki, musa ukuyikhumbula. Esi sihloko sivaliwe! Vimbela ukubiza amagama: "Ngonyaka odlulileyo uye waya kwendalo, walungiselela iholide," "Le ngubo, iinwele zakhe zazithandwa ngokukhethekileyo nguye," "Ndiye ndandipheka ukupheka oku kwaye, yiyo izitya ezithandayo." Phila ngoku kunye nekamva, kungekudala.
Ukuba unabantwana abaqhelekileyo, musa ukuwutyalela ubaba wakho. Akunakwenzeka ukugxekisa abantwana kwingxoxo nomhlobo, ukugxeka into ethile. Sifanele sibaxelele ngokuzenzekelayo yonke into, ukutsho ukuba utata uyabathanda kwaye akayi kuze aphele. Awudingi ukulimaza i-psyche yezingane, abayikusola ikhefu lakho.
Ukuze usinde umtshato, yiphatha njengethuba lokuvavanya ubudlelwane bakho nabantu, qwa lasela iimpazamo zakho kunye nekamva ukuze ungavumi.