Enyanisweni, mbulela uThixo, asihlali kuMinyaka Ephakathi, kwaye into enjalo njengomtshato ivumelekile ngumthetho wethu. Ngoko ke, ukuba umhlobo wakho sele esele utshatile, oko akuyi kuba ngumqobo ongenakunqandwa. Kodwa isahlulo somtshato sisinyathelo esinzima kakhulu, kungekhona wonke umntu uya kuthatha isigqibo ngokukhawuleza kuyo. Ngoko indlela yokunceda wakho umthandayo uya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nomtshato, ukuba sele sele ecacile kubo bobabini ukuba uyakuthanda, kunye nomnye umfazi akonwabanga?
Okokuqala, kufuneka senze ukugcinwa, oko kuthetha, iindlela ezithandwayo, ukuba ukhulelwe, okanye ukuthumela kumfazi wakho, iifoto zakho (kwaye, ngokubanzi, ukukhawuleza kokuqhawula umtshato ngomfazi wakho), sichitha eceleni. Futhi kungekhona nje ngenxa yokuziphatha ngokuziphatha, kodwa nangenxa yokuba xa ivula, le yindlela eqinisekileyo yokulahlekelwa ngumthandayo. Kwaye njengoko kubonisa, ukuphinda usebenze ngokuqhelekileyo, ezi zikhohlisayo zivuliwe kwiimeko ezingama-99 kwi-100, kuba ukuze umntu abe nolonwabo ngokwenene nawe, kufuneka azenzele ukwahlukanisa kwaye azi. Kodwa ngokude nje xa ezenza isigqibo kuye, ezinyangeni, okanye kwiminyaka yexinzelelo oluxakekileyo kunye neemvakalelo, ziya kudlula. Ngoko makhe sijonge ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela esinokunceda ngayo intanda yethu ukuba iguquke nomfazi wayo.
IBhunga lokuqala, indlela echanekileyo, emfutshane.
Njengoko bethetha "ukunyaniseka ngumgaqo-nkqubo ogqwesileyo!", Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, njengoko kungathandeki, kunjalo ngokwenene. Emva kwakho konke, ulwalamano olutsha kunye nentanda yakho, kukulungele ukuqala ngamazwi enyaniso. Mxelele ukuba ulwalamano lwakho ludinga ukukhula ngakumbi, ukuba ubona ukuba akayivuyo nomfazi wakhe. Ukuphila kwiintsapho ezimbini akukhethi, kwaye ngokubanzi, kwenza wonke umntu abe mbi kakhulu. Nawe, nawe nomfazi wakhe. Ungagxininisi kwaye usongele, ufuna ukumchazela umbono wakho wemeko, akudingeki ukuba ufune impendulo ngokukhawuleza, umnike ixesha lokucinga. Ungabuyela kule ngxoxo maxesha amaninzi, kodwa kungekho rhoqo, akudingeki ukuba udibanise kwiibhokhwe zakho uze uyichoboze. Ngokuqhelekileyo yile ngxoxo abantu abangenayo ngokwaneleyo ukugqiba ukufakela umtshato.
Iseluleko sesibini, mbonise ukuba ungcono.
Siphuma kwi nyaniso yokuba loo mntu ngokwakhe ubona ukuba uphezulu kunobomi bakhe banamhlanje. Kodwa akusayi kuze kube nzima ukugxininisa isidima sakho. Ukuba ungobuhle, yile nto kwaye uhlale, ungabonakali phambi kwakhe ngaphandle kokwenza, ungamhlangabezi kwengubo endala, kufuneka ugcine ibha ephezulu. Ukuba unengqiqo, bonisa ke, unike umnxibelelwano kwinqanaba elengqondo lomfazi ongenakukunika. Kuyafana nokupheka, kunye nokulala kunye nantoni na. Simele sigxininise isidima sabo, kwaye ke yena ngokwakhe uya kufuna ukuba nawe, kwaye uya kufaka umtshato. Enyanisweni, le ndlela inokuba neengxaki, ukuba ngaba yimpumelelo, kuya kufuneka iqhubeke nokugcina ibha ephezulu, okanye ngokukhawuleza uyiguqulele kwinqanaba elibaluleke kakhulu, eliphinde lidibene nokudumala.
Kule ngongoma, ku funeka sidibanise ukuba akufanele uqhubeke ukuxoka, ukuba awukwazi ukupheka, ungazivumeli ukuba upheka kangcono kunokuba wenza! Khumbula, into ekhankanywe ngentla "ukunyaniseka, ipolisi engcono"!
Isiluleko sesithathu. Mbonise ukuba unzima kakhulu.
Njengoko igama lithetha, le ngcebiso iyahamba kunye neyokugqibela. Kodwa inemiba yayo enokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo. Okokuqala, ungamthiyi umfazi wakho. Iimpazamo zakhe akufanele zenziwe nge-aplomb enkulu, emva koko, wamtshata kwaye inokumthobela. Ngako oko, iingaphulelo zalo kufuneka ziboniswe ngokungabonakaliyo, oku kuya kunika isithunzi kuwe, emehlweni akhe.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni ...
Njengoko uqonda, ezi ngcebiso azikho jikelele, umzekelo, ukuba umthandayo nomfazi unabantwana okanye ishishini eliqhelekileyo, oku kunokunika ingxaki. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukukhupha umthandana wakho ukuba aqhawule umtshato, kufuneka uqwalasele kwaye ucinge ngolu hlobo.