Ubomi abukwazi ukuqikelela. Inayo yonke into: iinyembezi, ukuhleka, uvuyo, iintlungu, iintlanganiso, kwaye, ngokudabukisayo, ukuhlukana. Kwaye ukuba sinako ukuhlala kunye nabahlobo, ngoko kunye nabantu esibathandayo kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
Ukuba ngabahlobo kunye nexesha banokuthi baphambuke, ngoko abathandi banamava okuhlukana, mhlawumbi - ngokubuhlungu. Asisoloko sifuna ukususa izipho zomhlobo emehlweni - ngaphandle kwengqondo. Asiyi kuza nale ngcamango ukufumana ngokukhawuleza umhlobo omtsha, ophumelele ngakumbi, ukukhupha umdala, kunye ne-postcript-diagnostic "ex" ...
Endleleni yokuphuma, sinalo imodeli yobudlelwane, apho umntu oyika kakhulu ukuphuka aze ahambe nayiphi na imvume, kwaye okwesibini uyayisebenzisa ngamandla kunye nokuphambili. Sinemodeli apho kungekho mvakalelo yangaphambilini, apho kungekho nto ikhutshwe ngaphambili, apho kungekho nto ikhona. N-Th-th. Ngokusoloko ufanele uve "ukugcina umtshato ngazo zonke iindleko", "ubaleke kwimpikiswano", "ukudibanisa". Yaye yonke into? Ukushiywa yedwa ebhedini elibandayo kunye neli hlabathi elikhohlakeleyo. Kodwa cinga ngenyameko-ngaba kuyimfuneko kuwe?
Ukuba umntu wayekufuphi kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ke akazange asebenze ngobomi okanye angazange ahlangabezane nezilindele zakho, oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele unikezele ubomi bakho ukuphindezela. Unako ukuhlazisa nina bobabini emehlweni "i-exa", kunye naye. Akunakwenzeka umfazi oya kubiza aze athumele iincwadi ngokusongela. Ukuziphindezela kukubona ukulwa kwakho, khumbula oku. Khumbula: intukuthelo iya kudlula, kodwa ngeentloni kwizinto azenzileyo ukuhlala kuwe. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba wenze ntoni: faka iifoto ezigqityiweyo zomntu owayengumthandi kwisayithi le-gay okanye uthele umnyango wendlu yakhe kunye ne-valerian.
Ukuphucula kakhulu kunye nokuvelisa ngakumbi kuya kulibala. "Kulula ukuthetha," uya kuphefumula, "Khumbula yonke into eyenzekayo phakathi kwethu, malunga namazwi athetha omnye nomnye ..."
Yeka! Akukho banikela ukulibala malunga nakho konke okulungileyo, okwenzekile ngexesha lenuveli, akunakunceda ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuphambene noko, kufuneka ukhumbule okulungileyo, kodwa ungazisoli ngokuba ixesha liyekile.
Funda ukukhumbula, kodwa ungaphuthelwa. Funda ukuxolela nokuhlala. Ekuthuthweni kwexesha elidlulileyo awuyi kuhamba kude, kodwa sinomzuzwana nje "apha nangoku". Xa ufuna ukuphosakela - ngokuqinileyo, ngokuqinileyo, ngokuzivakalela-vumela le nto yokunethezeka. Yenza i-self-flagellation, zilungiselele isihawu kuwe, kodwa ungathathi nto nayo. Xa uxinzelelo lugqithisa, thola amandla ukumema abahlobo ukuba batyelele okanye baye ekampini, kwiqela, nayiphi na into oyithandayo. Xa uqhagamshelana nabahlobo, sebenzisa inkohliso enye: ngokuqhelekileyo udibana nalabo bawaziyo kunye nesithandwa sokuqala kungekhona nje isibini, kodwa njengabantu ababini abazimeleyo. Uza kunxibelelana kakhulu kunye nabalandeli bomtshato onobudala-unomngcipheko omkhulu wokulula. Ngamehlo abo, uya kuzisola, nangona-ngcikivo, ngoko kungcono ukuphazamiseka ngabahlobo abatsha, tyelela iindawo ezintsha, ujikelele kwimibutho.
Xa kuyimfuneko ukusinda i-gap, kubalulekile ukubona umgca ocolileyo phakathi kokudakumba kunye nokuzithobela. Ubeka umngcipheko ukuba ube yixhoba ukuba uthathwa ngulo mva. Ukuba udinga ubomi obutsha, hlaziya iziphakamiso ongaziqwalasele ngaphambili.
Yenza oko, kuba i-sublimation isebenza kakuhle, kwaye iziqhamo zayo zihlala zixabiseke kakhulu kunemveli eyababeletha. Ingaba: awazi ukucula - tyelela nabahlobo bakho ibha ye-karaoke, besaba ukuhamba-ukuya kwikampu. Thatha izifundo zegitare, gxuma ngeparachute, funda indlela yokupheka i-lasagna e-super-delicious, ufunde isiFrentshi, ufunde ukuguqula i-poi. Xa uzithatha into engavamile, iingcamango ezibuhlungu ziya kuqala ukuhlaziya.
Intlawulo engcono kakhulu yakho yangaphambili isisiseko sobomi bakho "emva kwakhe" ngendlela enelisekile ngayo. Musa ukuzivumela ukuba ucinge ukuba nguye kuphela onokukuqonda. Akunjalo.
Ukuze usinde ikhefu, hambisa ukutya. Ukuphulukana nokuhlukana kuya kunceda uncedo lwangempela lwentlalo. Ezi ziquka isonka nge-bran kunye neminye imikhiqizo evela kwii-grains ezipheleleyo. Nika ingqalelo kwi-turkey nobisi. Izityalo ziqulethe i-acids carboxylic acids, kunye ne-turkey kunye ne-tryptophan yobisi. Bonke abo bangabangaphambili be-serotonin, into ejongene nomoya omhle.
Ukukhawulezisa inkqubo yokuphulukisa yamanxeba angamavakalelo, ukulahla iziqholo ezibukhali - isiliva kunye neerisheya. Ukunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kwekhofi, ivuselela inkqubo ye-nervous, engenzi negalelo ekunciphiseni. Yenza enye ithoni kunye nabanye - izixhobo zamachiza, iifuni zeziqhamo kunye neejusi ezitsha. Kwaye kubonakaliso kubalulekile, kunye nomoya. Phuza amanzi amaninzi: ukukhulelwa kwamanzi kudala ukukhathazeka.
Xa kukho ikhefu, kukho uluhlu olupheleleyo lweengcebiso ezibizwa ngokuthi "Yintoni ongayenzayo". Ngoko, musa:
- unxila phambi kokudakwa kunye noqhankqalazo, ukulila intliziyo yakhe ephukile kunye neinyembezi ezivuthayo phambi kwabantu abangaqhelekanga;
- ukulala kunye nomntu owayeselunxilisayo okanye ushishino olusisigxina: mhlawumbi, isondo siyakucasula nje, kuba iimvakalelo aziyi kubuya isenzo;
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, thetha nothando lwangaphambili, kungcono ukuba ugweme, awukwazi ukuba uyavuma njani: iinyembezi, ityala okanye ummeli.
Kungcono ukucima incwadi yefowuni kumanani, ukutshabalalisa iidilesi ze-imeyile kwaye ungahambi "ngethuba" kufuphi nendlu yakhe. Izipho ezithandekayo, iibhaubles, nayiphi na intsana engakhohlwayo isusiwe emehlweni. Nika, unike umbutho onobubele, ukuba akusiyo inceba - yikhuphe nje. Iifoto zivutha kakuhle, kwaye imikhonkco edibeneyo ikhutshwe ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka nje. Kodwa ufuna, akunjalo?
Akumangalisi ukuba isilumko sathi, "Ukwahlukana akuyilahleko, kodwa intlanganiso kunye nawe." Khipha ubuninzi benzuzo, funda kwiimpazamo uze wakhe ubomi obutsha ngaphandle kokujonga emva.
Anastasia Krainer