Uqhawulo lwabantu ababini alukhawulelwanga kwitshintsho kuphela kulwalamano lwabo. Umntwana uba ngumhlanganyeli, umlamli okanye ixhoba lokungavumelani phakathi kwabantu abadala. Ngekhulu leminyaka elidlulileyo, amagama athi "umama ongatshatanga" avakalisa isigwebo kubo bobabini umfazi kunye nomntwana. Namhlanje ukuzalwa komntwana ekungabikho koyise akuyona into engekho eqhelekileyo. Le nto yinto ehlukileyo yentsapho yakho ephumayo, okuya ku funeka ithathelwe ingqalelo xa ikhulela umntwana. Ngokukodwa, cinga malunga nendlela yokuhlawulela impembelelo yabesifazane kuphela. Kodwa le ngxaki ikusasa elikude, xa umntwana ekhula. Kwaye kuthiwani ngoku? Indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomntwana emva komtshato?
Ngoku kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntwana usetyenziso lwegama lomhlaba wonke. Ingqondo yomntwana yokhuseleko, intuthuzelo yakhe ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama imiselwe ngobudlelwane "kumama-baby". Ukuhamba kukayise kwintsapho kwangoko (ngaphambi kokuzalwa kuze kube seminyaka emithathu) yedwa akukwazi ukulimaza umntwana. Oku kuninzi kuhlasela imeko yomama wengane - umva wokuhlaziswa, ukuziva ukulahlekelwa ubunzima, ukuphoxeka okanye ukunganakwa. Ukuba umama uyacaphuka, iimvakalelo zakhe ziba ngumthombo wokuxhalabisa umntwana. Ukuxhalaba komntwana kubangele ukuphuhliswa kwamathambo. Ngako oko, umsebenzi wakho wokuqala kulolu suku kukuphinda ufumane ingqiqo yobomi. Intsapho engenabantwana abathathu, kodwa abantu babini, intsapho ngesigamu, ayithethi isigxina sonke. Awunaso isizathu sokuzijonga utyatywe okanye ungenasici. Kungekudala uza kuba nomntwana oza kuba ngowakho kuphela.
"Ndingomnye walabo" abadonsa indlu yonke. " Ndinezingane ezimbini zokufundela. Ubawo ubabona ngeCawa. Igalelo lakhe kwimfundo - ipenny alimony kunye ... ukuzonwabisa okuhamba epakini. Iindawo zokuzonwabisa, ice cream - abantwana bakholelwa ukuba uyise wabo ngumlingo. "
Umsebenzi wesikolo wasekhaya, izifo zobuntwana kunye nokuxabana yiyona nto isisigxina somfazi. Kwaye iholide ngohlobo lweCawa elimnandi lihamba ngenxa yokuqhawula umtshato kuya kwelinye. Oku kukuhlambalaza ngokwayo. Ukongeza, ubukhwele obukhulu: "ongenakufanelekileyo" ubawo ubeka iholide yobomi! Umthamo weenkxalabo zomama ongenamzali ukhulu kakhulu. Kodwa ukwenqaba kweeholide kwimeko enjalo akuyimfuneko. Ukwenqaba ukuzithandela. Uvumela umfazi ukuba azive lixhoba leemeko kwaye engaqondi ngokuxabisekileyo ukuvakalelwa kwakhe. Ngenxa yoko, kancane kancane ujwayele umfanekiso womntu olahlekileyo, kunye nothando lomama kubantwana lubhekiselele kwimvelaphi yobomi, obudandathekileyo ubomi.
Unelungelo lokuziva ngokumalunga nomyeni wakho owayesakuba ngumyeni wakho nawuphi na iimvakalelo - ukusuka kukudelela inzondo. Kuphela akuyimfuneko ukuhlakulela ngokwayo intshaba okanye ixhoba. Uye wahlula iindlela, oko kuthetha ukuba wonke umntu uhamba ngendlela yakhe ngoku. Uhamba nabantwana ngeCawa? Abantwana bayavuya xa behamba? Jabulela kwaye unabantwana. Sebenzisa ixesha ukuzikhulula.
Zama ukuxhobisa ubomi bezingane ukuze uvakalelo lweeholide luhlanganiswe kuphela ngohambo lweCawa kaTata. Ukutya okudibeneyo, imidlalo yokuzonwabisa, ukubhukuda, ukufunda iindaba zobomi bobusuku, nokusebenza kunye kunye nendlu - akunakufumana ithuba lokudala amaqela amancinane ekhaya? Abantwana abamthandayo umama abayi kuze 'bathengise' ngokuzonwabisa kwabo uyise abawanika kanye ngeveki.
"Ndiyaqalekisa umyeni wam. Waya kwelinye intsapho xa unyana wakhe eneminyaka emine ubudala. Ndiyayinqabela le nkwenkwe ukuba idibane noyise, andiyi kwamkela izipho. "
Uphazamiseka ngumsindo kumyeni wakhe - imvakalelo ewonakalisayo. Umthombo wengqumbo ungaphelelanga. Kodwa iimvakalelo ziya kuqhubeka zifune kwaye ziwele ezintloko zalabo abasondeleyo. Ukuthobela umsindo, ufuna umntwana amthiye uyise ngenxa yecala awenze lona. Kodwa umntwana akanalo izizathu zakhe zangaphakathi zokuzonda uyise. Kungaba yinto engokwemvelo ukuba umntwana alahleke uyise. Awukhuthazi ukubonakaliswa kwezi mvakalelo, kwaye inkunzi imele ifihlwe, ithole ithuba lokuqala lokufihla into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ngexesha elide, unyana wakho uya kuqala ukukukhohlisa, ukufihla iimvakalelo zinyani - uyenza yonke into ngokwalo.
Ukuvinjelwa kokunxibelelana phakathi komntwana kunye nomyeni owayengumyeni kuyabangela enye ingozi: ebusheni, unyana uya kuba nomdla omkhulu kubawo. Umntwana osemncinci, ngenxa yeempawu ezithile zexesha lomntu, uqala ukuzabalazela ukuzimela kwakhe, ukwahlukana nonina, kwaye ufuna igunya ngaphaya kwemida yentsapho yakhe. Kwaye nantsi imeko efanelekileyo: enye ikhoyo inxulumano phakathi koomama noyise. Uyise usekude kuye kwaye ngenxa yokudeka kwakhe ufukiselwe kwi-halo yeemfihlakalo. Umntwana uya kufuna ukuthetha naye naphezu kwemvakalelo yakho, ngasese kuwe, nakwiindawo eziphakamileyo kuwe. Unqwenela ukuhlwaya umyeni wakhe, ungamvumeli ukuba abone umntwana, uya kumsola umntwana. Umntwana unelungelo lokuthanda uyise, nokuba unina umthiyile. Imizwa yengqondo yomntwana kubo bobabini abathathi-nxaxheba kwinkquzulwano yembewu ayithethi ukuthengwa komnye wabo. Umntu omdala unakho kwaye kufuneka aqiqe ngengqiqo ngokuqhawula umtshato ngabazali bakhe. Inyaniso yokuqhawula umtshato ngowomnye wamaphepha kwimbali yentsapho. Kwaye iphutha elikhulu ukulidiliza, ukufihla kumntwana okhulile. Umntwana omncinci uthetha ngomtshato ngokwasemzimbeni. Ungabelani naye ubuhlungu bakho okanye ubeka isohlwayo kwintsapho ephukile: yincinci kakhulu ukuba ingayiphatha kakuhle imeko.