Indlela yokuqala ubomi obutsha emva komtshato?

Kwinqaku lethu "Indlela yokuqala ubomi obutsha emva komtshato?" Siza kukuxelela indlela yokuqalisa ubomi obutsha. Kwaye ngoku uqhawule umtshato. Ngoku unokufumana uluhlu olubanzi lweemvakalelo zentukuthelo, intlungu ebandezelekileyo, ukuziva unesizungu, ofuna ukulila, ukuba uvuyo oluye lwagqitywa luphela. Kodwa ukuba uqhawula umtshato ukuba uphinde utshatile, ke le nqaku ayikukho konke kwaye kuya kuba yinto emangalisayo, kwaye ngoku unokwenza umtshato oqhelekileyo, iingxaki ezintle.

Kodwa ukuba uhanjelwe ngumbono wokuthi kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, ungasindiswa ekubeni unesizungu, kwaye kubonakala ngathi yonke into yayingalunganga, okanye mhlawumbi wawungenanto yokuqhawula ngaphandle kwayo. Apha kufuneka ume, kuba uya kubhala ngokukhawuleza amaza athathu: kuba kwenzeka ntoni, kwenzekani kuwe.

Mayeke ukuzisola oko kwenzeka. Emva koko konke oku sele kwenzekile. Wena ungumfazi oyingqondi, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unesizathu esivakalayo sokuqhawula umtshato. Uninzi lwabasetyhini aluqhawulwanga nonke ngenxa yokuba "abanomonde", kodwa yonke into, kuba abafazi bafakwa kwiimeko ezinjalo. Emva kokuba usuqhawule umtshato, ngoko sele usuphumelele.

Yeka ukuzisola ukuba wawukade unayo. Masiqale iphupha malunga noko kuya kuba yeyakho. Emva koko siza kuguqula amaphupha kwisicwangciso seenjongo, kwaye siya kuhamba kwinqanaba leenjongo. Yonke into. Abasetyhini abaninzi banengcamango yabo yangaphambili emva komtshato. Ukuba yonke into yayinkulu, kutheni le ntsapho yahlukana?

Ungazixolisi, nangona kulula ukuthetha indlela yokwenza ngayo. Ewe, ukhubekile, ushiywe, kwaye mhlawumbi uza kudlula eli nqanaba leentlungu. Musa ukunweba kwaye ungamkeli ukuqonda ukuba ushiyiwe. Ukuba unabantwana, oku kuya kuba usindiso lwakho, kuba xa uzinikela ngokuzidla, kunzima kakhulu kubo. Unomngcipheko wokungcatsha, apho izihlobo zakho ngezinye iinkhathi zikuxhaphaza kuwe, kunye nabantwana abavela kumava okulahleka - ukufa kweebhere ozithandayo kumatshini wokuhlamba okanye ukufa kweentlanzi ozithandayo.

Yintoni oyifunayo xa ixesha liphilisa amanxeba akho? Impumelelo yonyango iya kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha kwesigulane. Akukho mveliso yonyango yonke, njengoko kungekho ncebhiso yonke. Ngamnye uhlala ngokuhlukileyo, la maxesha. Yintoni eyenziwa ngumfazi?

- Eli bhinqa liyakhala. Oku kulungile, kodwa into ephambili ayikuthi ithathwe. Ukukhala kuyakusiza, kodwa yonke into idinga umlinganiselo. Ukuba awuyi kungena kwi-hysteric, konke oku kuya kuba nefuthe elihle kwimvelaphi ye-hormonal. Izizathu zezinyembezi, mhlawumbi ezininzi.

- Unomnye umfazi, undiphose, ungcono kunam, kwaye ndibi kakhulu, ndiyinto ehlakaniphile, isifuba esincinci, esincinci, i-fat and so on.
- Ndiyedwa, andiswele mntu, ndingumntu ongenalutho, akukho mntu uyandithandayo ...
"Andikho mntu onokumthemba, mna ndedwa, andinanto yokuhlala kuyo, andinayo indawo yokuhlala kuyo, andinayo umntu oncike kuyo ..."

Masibuyisele konke oku:
- Ikoyiko! Ndandichitha iminyaka emininzi kule sidalwa esingenalusizo, oye wahlonywa ngekroti waza wathathwa kwi-stall ...
Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo, unokuvuya kukuba uphume ngelahleko esincinci kwaye umlahla ngexesha. Unokubulela kwiingcinga zowesifazane okhaliphe oye wazibulala ubomi kunye nendoda enesidima, ngoko wakhululwa.

- Ukuziphindezela. Kufuneka kube nomlinganiselo wenani. Sonke ngabantu abadala, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokukhunjulwa malunga nokuthintela nokukhusela izifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo. Konke oku kunceda umfazi ukuba aphunyuke kwedwa kwaye uphakamise izinga lokuzithemba kwakhe. Musa ukuhla ukuya kwinqanaba kwaye into ephambili ayizukufumaneka xa uzinikela. Mabenze banqobe. Emva koko, ngoko unako ukuzisa iziqhamo kumadoda amahle.

- Usela. Kubonakala ngathi ayinxilwanga, nangona kukho imeko enjalo. Kubonakala ngathi i-Martini iya kunceda. Kodwa akusiyo iwayini, kungekhona i-whiskey, ayikho i-Martini eyanceda. Umoya kunye nenkampani kunceda. Iindlela eziphambili kakhulu zokudala ukukhohlisa "andiye ndedwa" nokuphakamisa ukuzithemba, kukudlala ngothando, ukuphuma kunye nabahlobo "ekukhanyeni", bambani isibindi. Intombi, ezama ukutsala ubuncinane i-movie, kumbuzo wam, "Yimaphi i-movie?", Wandiphendula "Nantoni na ifilimu, ukuba bekukho isizathu sokwenza!".

Ufumana i-hobby. Kukho iindlela ezimbini, wenze into ngaphambili, uyithandile, wakwenza, kodwa xa usatshatile, kwakungekho ukungabi nesikhathi okanye into ofuna ukuyenza, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi ongenakukwazi. Ngoku unokwenza izinto ezizithandayo, njengoko intliziyo yakho inqwenela. Oku kuya kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuvuselela ". Kwakulungile ukuba abantwana banokuthatha inxaxheba kuyo.

Uqhubeka uhlala. Khawucinge nje ngeliphi ithemba elingavulwa phambi kwakho. Nonke unako, mane ube nomonde, ungabi neentloni zemiva, uvuselele kwakhona. Unako ukukwazi ukuthandana nomntu osemzini, wakhala phezu kwefilimu, unako, qalisa ikethi kunye nabantwana.

Ngoku siyazi indlela yokuqalisa ubomi obutsha emva komtshato. Ubomi buqala nje. Thatha wena ngesandla, kwaye uya kuphumelela, kwaye yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle ebomini bakho.