Indoda enomona iyinkathazo kumfazi. Kwaye ngokusoloko i-postulate "inomona - ithetha, uyayithanda" ayikho into edizayo, kwaye iingxaki zobudlelwane maxa wambi zingabikho nto. Ikhwele livelisa umsindo kwaye zonke iziphelo ngezinye izihlandlo zibi kakhulu kwaye zisoyike. Ngoko, umona wesilisa kunye nezindlela zokulwa nayo - isihloko sesingxoxo namhlanje.
Isimo 1. Ukuhlala unetyala
Unyanzelekile ukuba uzive unetyala ngalo lonke ixesha. Akuthathi usuku lomntu wakho ukuba angakuncikiva ngenxa yokungathembeki. Umntu osebenza naye wabiza emsebenzini? Uvele esithi le ncwadana kukuba "unento eninzi yokwenza nayo yonke into kunye." Kuyafana nokudibana nomhlobo wesikolo. Kwaye ukuhamba okulula ukuhamba kunye nenja kuya kuba yinto yokumangalisa. "Kutheni udibanisa iinwele zakho?" Uza kubonakaliswa phambi kobani na? "Naliphi na indlela yokuphuma endlwini iyaxolisa kuye. Beka kwi-blouse enhle? Ngoko, uya kumhla. Ukuhlamba intloko yakhe-kuya kudibana nomntu. Yaye ke yonke imihla. Akunyaniseki! Ngaphezu koko, ngesimo sengqondo maxa wambi sinokuqiniswa ngokunyeliswa, ukuthelekiswa okufana nokuthi "unjengongqungquthela - uhenyuka kumnyango ongummelwane" kunye nosongelo ngendlela "uzama ukuhlala emsebenzini". Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala nendoda enjalo. Kodwa ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene - ungazama ukudibanisa ubudlelwane.
IBhunga lezengqondo:
Akufanele uphendule imibuzo emininzi, ehlala ihambelana nomona. Chaza nje imeko ngokufutshane, kwaye ke ezilungileyo zizocacela. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonakala uthumela umqondiso kumyeni wakho: "Uphinde uphinde ube ngowakho! Umele umise ngenxa yokuba ndibuhlungu. " Ewe, kubalulekile kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuxoxa ngeengxaki. Kodwa kholwa kum, lo mbuzo awudingi ingxoxo. Le ndoda isele isetyenzisile kwindawo yakhe. Awukwazi ukumkholisa okanye ukumthulisa. Okokuqala, zama ukujonga apho kubonakala khona umona wokukhweleka. Isizathu sisoloko sineengxaki ezahlukeneyo zangaphakathi. Indoda ayiqinisekanga yodwa - iyathuthunyiswa yimoyika yokhuphiswano, uyakholelwa ukuba unokufumana umntu olungcono. Kule meko, kulungile ukusebenzisa ubuqili bethu bendalo. Njani? Yisebenzise onke amathuba ukudumisa umntu wakho - umzekelo, ukuba unguyise omhle nomthandayo. Yongeza amagama alungileyo kwaye, ukuba ngaba imbangela yesikhwele kwiinkathazo, inokuthi inganciphise ukungathembeki. Ukuba ubukhwele buza esinye isizathu - wena, mhlawumbi, awukwazi ukujamelana yodwa. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukungenelela ngeengcali kuyadingeka. Ubukhwele obuphambili buxilongo. Le ngxaki yengqondo efuna unyango.
Isimo 2. Indoda ekukho konke ikulawula
Umlingani wakho uziphatha njengomntwana - ulandela yonke indawo, uhlola, u-opsdrops ... Uva nje uyaziqinisekisa ukuba unomntu onxulumene naye kwiofisi. Isiphumo? Ngethuba lomsebenzi kunye nexesha lokuchitha iiyure, ubiza yonke iminithi ukuba ubuze into oyenzayo kwaye xa ndibuya. Ufunda imiyalezo yakho yombhalo kunye ne-imeyile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ayikho inzondo, kodwa idangalisa. Iingqumbo zakhe ezihlala zibonisa ukuba "kungcono ukuba isela kunokuba isela". Ulwalamano lwalo hlobo olubangela ukuba abafazi bathengise ngokwenene.
IBhunga lezengqondo:
Amadoda alolu hlobo ngamanye amaxesha aya kuba nomona ngomcuphi okanye umphandi. Bayiqaphele, banobuqili, bahamba kwaye bavelise ingcamango. Uphuhliswe kakhulu. Akunakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe umntu onjalo ngokuthula. Kodwa unokuhlala naye ukuba uthembekile kwaye uyamthanda lo mntu. Indlela yokujongana nayo? Kwaye kutheni? Ukuba awunanto yokufihla-masibe nemihlali! Makuqinisekiswe ngokunyaniseka kwakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye unokuyidambisa kwaye udibanise kwimincili. Ekugqibeleni, ukuhlekisa kuya kumkhathaza aze athathe isigqibo sokungasebenzisi ixesha elingakumbi kumsebenzi ongenamsebenzi. Emva kokuba uthathe isikhundla esinjalo sokuqhawula kunye nokuhlekwa kancinci kwendoda enjalo, unokufikelela eninzi.
Isimo 3. Ukugqiba ukungeniswa kunye nesingenakungeniswa
Indoda yakho ikuphatha njengeyakhe. Uyakulawula ngokupheleleyo, amphoqele ukuba enze oko akufunayo, ukubonakala ngathi ufuna. Kuza kwinto yokuba uxelela ukuba ususe i-makeup kwaye ugqoke kwizinto ezindala ezingenanto, ukuze ungabangeli umdla wabanye. Uyakuthintela ukuba uphume ngaphandle kwakhe ekhaya, uye emsebenzini uze udibane nabahlobo. Akayena umtyholi, akayinto enyantyantle, kodwa uyaphikelela kwindawo yakhe kwaye akavumeli ukuba uphile ngokuqhelekileyo. Lo ngumzekelo obunzima kunabo bonke onobukhwele besilisa - akukho zikho ndlela zokulwa nazo. Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala nomntu onjalo. Kodwa ukuba uyayidinga ngempela (uthando lobubi), ke yile nto okumele ukwenze.
IBhunga lezengqondo:
Ixesha lokuxelela umyeni wam ukuba ayeke! Ngaba uyayinyamezela ukuxhaphaza emzimbeni? Bika oku kumapolisa okanye ufonele umnxeba kwaye ufune uncedo lochwepheshe. Ndixelele ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo ukuba ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe akutshintshi - uya kushiya. Unokuvuma ukusebenzisa unyango lwengqondo ukuze ufunde indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo nokuziphatha kakubi. Akwamkeli imigaqo yakho? Emva koko, unganqikazi, uthathe onke amanyathelo afanelekileyo omtshato. Xa umona womlingani uthatha izinto ezinjalo, ezibuhlungu, awukwazi ukulwa nalo. Kulula ukuba umntu otshaya isifo sokutshaya ukuyeka ukutshaya kunokulungisa loo mntu onomona.
Uphi umona wesilisa ovela kuyo:
1. Umzekelo ovela kwintsapho yabantwana. Xa yena, njengomntwana, wabukela uloyiko lukayise ngoomama, umbulelo wesikhwele - unokubangela ukuba angamnquli.
2. Ukuziphatha okungahambi kakuhle komlingane. Ukuba umfazi, umzekelo, uvame ukufika ekhaya ngokukhawuleza, uqala ukukhathaza umyeni wakhe.
3. Ukunyanzela ukutywala utywala kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi. Ukusetyenziswa gadalala rhoqo kubangela ukusola kwaye kudala iingcamango ezimbi, ezifana: "Unomntu onokutya."
4. Iingcamango zabahlobo. Ukuba bathi umfazi "into efanayo" - ngokungabandakanyeki kukho izikhalazo. Abahlobo ngamanye amaxesha bakwenza oku ngenxa yomona, kodwa umntu akaqiqi ngalokhu kwaye uqala ukubethelela umfazi wakhe.