Musa kuba nomusa
Ngoko, okokuqala, khumbula ukuba abantu abayithandi xa bekhunjuzwa ngekhulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazi ukuba intombi yakho, umzalwana okanye umhlobo ahluke ngokulibala, umntu akafanele amkhumbuze ikhulu leempahla zengubo. Uyazi kakuhle kakuhle oko ku funeka ayenze kwaye uya kwenza konke xa enethuba. Kodwa ukuba uhlala uguqa phezu kwendlebe yakho, uphinda ukuba le ngcaciso imfutshane kufuneka usebenze wenze konke okukufunayo, ngoko mhlawumbi uya kufumana umfana ukuze angenzi nto ukukukhathaza, okanye uya kunceda, kodwa uncedo olungakumbi awuyi kumbuza.
Ewe, sifanele senze ntoni xa kubalulekile ukwenza into ethile ngexesha elithile? Ukuqala, khawuleza uthi le nto ikhawuleze kwaye uchaze isizathu. Ngaphandle koko, khumbula ukuba iingxabano zakho zifanele ukuba zizinzima. Umzekelo, ukuba uthetha ukuba ufanele uhambise ikhabhinethi okwangoku, ngenxa yokuba ufuna kanjalo, loo mntu akanakwenzeka ukuba agijime ukuze azalise isicelo sakho. Kodwa ukuba uchaza ukuba ii-ruble ezingamakhulu amahlanu ezidlulileyo ziye zawela kwikhabhinethi, kwaye uya kusebenza, loo mfana Uya kuziqhawula kwizenzo zakhe aze akuncede.
Lingalingani
Ungalokothi utsho into ethile kwisitayela esithi "Kodwa wenza uAna, kodwa andiyi." Ukuze uhlambele, kufuneka ukwazi isizathu sokuba yinkwenkwe eyamncedisa umntu, kodwa ayizange ikuncede kwimeko efanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, indoda inceda kwimeko xa ndiqinisekile ukuba intombazana ayikwazi ukwenza oku. Umzekelo, uya kuhlobo lokubuyisela inkqubo yokusebenza, kuba akayiqondi le nto ngokupheleleyo, kodwa akaze akwenze okufanayo ngodadewabo, ngubani ongumprogram ngophando, kwaye unesivila okanye ufuna ukunakwa. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuthelekisa, cinga malunga nokuba kutheni lo mfana wenza oku. Mhlawumbi, akakwazi ukubona ingqolowa engqiqweni kwisicelo sakho. I-Hotlynogie besetyhini kwaye isetyenziselwa ukuphikisa yonke ibinzana: "Ndiyintombazana, kufuneka ndincede wonke umntu kunye namadoda", eqinisweni, le ngxabano ayisoloko isebenza kumadoda. Kwaye ngendlela, iyalungile ngokupheleleyo. Kutheni umfana kufuneka alahle izinto zakhe (nangona zibonakala zingabalulekanga kuthi) kwaye zigijime ekuncedeni ukuthandana kwintombazana ukuba le nto intombazana inokukwazi ukuyenza yonke le nto? Ubundlobongela obuqinileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uyomelele, kodwa akakho umkhonzi kwaye akayikho ikhoboka.
Kucacisa ngokucacileyo izicelo
Enye ingxaki ehlala ikhupha intombazana kwiimeko apho zicela uncedo kubantu abatsha ukungabikho komnqweno okanye umnqweno wokuthetha yonke into ngokucacileyo. Abasetyhini banqwenela ukuba balumke baze balinde ukuba umntu ahenduke. Musa ukuyiqonda! Ukucinga kwabo kuhluke. Akwenzeki kubo ukuba acacise nantoni na. Ngako oko, bahlala bengaboni amacebiso kuwo onke, kwaye ke abayiqondi isizathu sokuba le ntombazana "ikhukhumele" kwaye ayifuni ukuthetha.
Xa ufuna ukucela uncedo, qulunqa izicelo zakho ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo. Okokuthi, ukuba, umzekelo, kufuneka uncede ekhaya ngokulungiswa, akudingeki ukuba utshele ukuba "kuya kuba mnandi ukubambelela iphepha lodonga, kodwa akukho mntu angayenza, kodwa ufuna into entsha." Thetha ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo: "Kubalulekile ukutshintsha iphepha lodonga egumbini, mna andinakukwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo, uncedo, nceda. Ndifuna ukuqala ngoLwesibili, ngaba unokuyenza okanye usethe olunye usuku? "Kule meko, umntu ubona umsebenzi ocacileyo phambi kwakhe, efuna ukuyicombulula, kunokuba acingisise ngesihloko samahhala angayinakunceda, ngenxa yokuba akajonganga nemibandela engekho.
Funda ukuchaza izizathu
Kukho izicelo ezibonakala ngathi ziyindoda, kodwa ngokwenene awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle koncedo. Kulo mzekelo, kufuneka uchaze loo mfana ukuba nangona ibonakala iyimangalisa kwaye ingaqhelekanga, kodwa awunakuchukumisa nje kuphela, awuyivila, akunakwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, kukho abantu abanoyikwesaba ukuphakama, nokuba bakhuphukela kwisitulo. Intombazana enjalo ayiyi kuzinyanzela, kodwa ayikwazi ukususa iileta. Ukuba nje ucela umntu ukuba ancede, yena ke, akayi kuthatha ngokungathandekiyo, kuba abanye abancedi kule meko. Kodwa ukuba uyichazela kuye ngendlela elula kwaye engenayo i-hysteria, uyavuma ukuba oku akuqhelekanga, kwaye ulwa noloyiko lwakhe, kodwa engayifumananga, ngoko umfana uya kuza kuhlangula, nokuba uyayikhawula. Lo mgaqo ngokuqhelekileyo awusikhubekisi, kuba kuwe umphumo oyintloko, nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukuba ukwazi ukuhleka.
Funda
Enyanisweni, amadoda akwenqabile ukuba ancede xa eyazi ukuba umfazi akakwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo. Isihlunu sokugqibela asiyi kunceda i-nestisumki okanye ingenzi umsebenzi owenziwe ngendoda ejikeleze indlu. Kodwa abafana bahlala bengayinaki izicelo kulezo zihlandlo xa intombazana engafuni ukufunda. Ngokomzekelo, umntu uye wabonisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo waza wachazela indlela yokufaka le nkqubo okanye loo nkqubo, kodwa ngokukodwa oku akufundanga, kwaye rhoqo xa ecela uncedo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abafana abanqwenela ukukholelwa, kuba bakholelwa ukuba umntu akafuni ukwenza into, ngoko akafanele ancedise. Emva koko, ukuba amaxesha ambalwa ancedi - intombazana iya kufunda. Ngoko, kwimeko apho uqaphela le mpahla emva kwakho, cinga ngendlela ongayitshintsha ngayo. Kwaye ukuba akavumelani nantoni na, mthembise ukuba ngoku uya kufunda ngokwenene kuye, kwaye akukho zicelo ezinjalo. Khawukhumbule ukuba ufanele ukuzalisekisa isithembiso sakho, kuba ixesha elizayo ngokuqinisekileyo aliyi kunceda. Ukuba uqala ukwenza okuthile nge-vysses, kwaye ubona ukuba uzama ngokwenene, ngoko uya ku xelela ukuba akuxelele ukuba enze konke okusemandleni akho. Amadoda ayayithanda xa abanye benza umzamo, kunokuba banethemba lokuba umntu uza kuza enze yonke into esikhundleni sakhe.
Dumisani uMntu
Ukuba ucela umntu ngento ethile, akufuneki ukuba uyenze. Musa ukuzenza njengeengxaki zakho zibaluleke ngaphezu kwakhe. Ikakhulukazi ukuba ungumzalwana okanye umhlobo. Ewe, unesihlobo, unabantu abasondeleyo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umfana kufuneka akhuphe ukukunceda nantoni na. Ngoko ke, ukuba loo nto ayiyiphuthumi, makakhethe ihora elikhululekile ukuba eze kwaye enze konke. Kwaye, ke, musa ukulibala ukudumisa nokubulela. Ungalokothi uphathe uncedo lomntu njengoko kufanele. Khumbula ukuba ngenxa yakho wanciphisa ezinye zezinto zakhe, nokuba ngaba azinzima kuwe. Ngoko ke, xa ucela uncedo kumntu, kaninzi umkhumbuze ukuba unamandla kangakanani, umntu omdala kunye nesibindi, unokuba nethamsanqa ukuba u-uvas. Unokwenza uncedo oluthile, ungaguquli intonga, kuba akubona bonke abantu abanomdla ophakamileyo kumntu wabo. Kulula nje xa ufuna uncedo, bonise ngokubonakala kwakho ukuba uyavuya kakhulu ngengqalelo yakho kwiingxaki kwaye uza kuyimbuyisela ngemali enye, xa insizwa iya kukucela ukuba inomdla.