Naziphi na izimvo zomyeni, utshintsho lwezesondo ngolwalamano (emva koko, emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ubudlelwane bezocansi buguquka ngeendlela ezininzi), ubusuku obungalali, uchithe kwicala, ukunyamezela rhoqo kunye nokunyaniseka koxanduva lomntwana, kunye nokunganeliseki kwabo, ukubonakala kwazo - konke oku uyakwazi ukunqumla umfazi okhuseleka ngengqondo kwiimeko ezidandathekileyo. Kwaye iingcamango ezinjengokuthi "Andiyithandi umyeni wam", "undijonga njengento engathandekiyo," "endiyidingayo" ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye ngokujulile uhlala kwingqondo yomama oselula. Kwaye ngaphandle kokuchaswa kakuhle, umphumo weemvakalelo ezinjalo ezihlaselayo zingabangela ukuba buhlungu kakhulu. Ukudandatheka kukukhokelela kwezinye izifo, kungekhona nje ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Kwaye igama elithi "zonke izifo ezivela emantanjeni" akuyiyo inkolelo. Ngoko, yintoni omele ukwenze xa uvakalelwa iimpawu zokudakumba kwangemva kokubeleka, ulahlekelwe yithemba lakho langaphambili ekukhangeni kwakho, okanye wambona nje ukuba uye waba buhlungu ngakumbi ngamazwi ngawe?
Okokuqala, musa ukuyihoxisa ingxaki, ungavali amehlo akho kwiinguqu ezenzekayo kuwe. Amava akho kunye nokwesaba kuya kuqokelela kuwe kuphela, abayi kutshabalalisa ngaphandle komkhondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele uqhube ukuhamba ngakwesobunxele kwaye ulungile malunga neengxaki zakho, kodwa qhagamshelana nabahlobo bakho abasondeleyo, uye ekubonisaneni kunye nengcali yezengqondo-konke oku kungabakho indawo. Uninzi lwabantu, ukuze siqonde izizathu kunye nendlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezilukhuni, kufuneka nje ukuphulaphulwa. Ungalindelanga ezinye izisombululo kwiingxaki zakho, konke oku kufuneka kunqunywe nguwe. Kwakhona ungesabi ukuthetha nomlingane wakho malunga nento eyenzekayo kuwe, kwaye yintoni enzima kuwe. Ukuqonda kunye nenkxaso evela kumntu osondeleyo kuya kukunceda ukujamelana neengxabano nokulungisa iingxaki ezinzulu.
Isinyathelo esibalulekileyo kukuzivuma ngokwakho. Utshintsho lwangemva kokubeleka kumzimba wesetyhini alufaki ulwaphulo kunye nolutsha ngokukhawuleza kumfanekiso wakho, kwaye abaninzi abafazi beenyanga ezili-9 ezedlulileyo bebantombazana abancinci ngaphambili, kunzima ukubekezelela indlela entsha yomama onesiko. Nangona kunjalo, ulutsha aluyi kuhlala ngonaphakade, bonke abantu bahlala begugile kwaye batshintshe, kodwa ukutya okufanelekileyo kunye nomsebenzi owenziwe ngokulinganayo kuya kukunceda ukuba uphinde ukhangele okokuqala emehlweni akho. Akulula kumama oselula ukuba athole ixesha lokuphumla, ukubuyisela amandla. Zama ukuzifumana ungumncedisi, mhlawumbi uya kuba ugogo okanye unina oza kuzinyamekela umntwana. Musa ukulibala, kungekuphela nje umntwana wakho, kodwa ufuna ukunakekelwa kwakho. Thatha ixesha lokuphumla, uhambe emoyeni, uzame ukungabi neenkxalabo ezininzi, umthwalo ongenakubekezelelwa uza kuphazamisa imeko yakho. Kwakungaphakanyiswa ukuba kuqhutywe ngamandla, okwenza uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo emzimbeni. Qhagamshelana neengcali malunga nokuzivocavoca okhethekileyo, emva kokuzivocavoca kwimeko yokuzivocavoca kunokusondeza imeko.
Abasetyhini abaninzi bafumana ubunzima bezesondo.
Ukuzalwa komntwana kuyimvavanyo enzima ngokomzimba, kwaze kwabeletha ngeCesarean section. Ukususela kwimbono yezokwelapha, ixesha elifanelekileyo elifunekayo ukubuyisela umfazi emva kokubeleka inyanga nesiqingatha. Yaye ungesabi, ukuba ungenayo iminqweno yangaphambili kunye nomnqweno, ukuhla kwezinto kulungele ngokupheleleyo kwizinga lokuphila. Okokuqala, imvelaphi yakho ye-hormonal ishintshe kwaye umfazi emva kokuba ukuhanjiswa kugxininise ngakumbi kumntwana wakhe, okwemvelo. Yaye uyayikhathalela ngembewu iqhutyelwa kwimvelaphi yenzelwe ukukhwabaniswa ngokwesondo, okwezinye izihlandlo kubangelwa imbandezelo yabantu. Ngamanye amaxesha bangabonakalisa umona ocacileyo kumntwana oqhelekileyo, becinga ukuba bayeka ukudlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Njengamaxesha amaninzi, kulungile ukuba nencoko kunye nokuthembela ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho lomntu. Ungesabi ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho, ungesabi ukunyaniseka.
Ukubonakala kwelungu elitsha lentsapho kubalulekile kungekuphela kwakho, kodwa nakwinkwenkwe yakho, kunye nengxoxo enengqiqo kunye nokuqonda ngokubambisana kuya kunceda ukudala umoya oyimfuneko ekuphuhliseni komntwana. Zikhusele kwiingxoxo ezingathandekiyo okanye imibhiyozo enomsindo, umama lixesha elikhethekileyo, lifuna uxolo noxolo. Ungagxininisi kwiingxaki ezikukhathazayo kunye nokungaqiniseki ngokungazenzisiyo kwakho. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, ungavumi ukuvala iingxaki zakho kwaye unganqikazi ukuthetha ngazo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo. Siyathemba ukuba ibinzana: "Umyeni emva kokuzalwa komntwana uthe andithandabuzeki", awuyi kuchukumiswa.