Indoda nomfazi bahlukana. Bangaphi abesifazana abakhona, kukho amadoda amaninzi, kwaye ngokungafani ... Ndazikhumbula i-anecdote endala: "Wonke umntu wesifazane kufuneka abe namadoda amahlanu: umntu wokuqala ngumhlobo onikwe kuye yonke into, kodwa angabonakali nantoni na; Umntu wesibini ungumthandi oboniswa yonke into, kodwa akaxeleli nto; Indoda yesithathu ngumyeni oboniswa kancinci kwaye watsho okufutshane; Indoda yesine ngumjozi wezinyathelo zomzimba, kuye yonke into eboniswayo kwaye yonke into ichazwa; Umntu wesihlanu ungumphathi, ngubani, njengoko wathethayo, uya kwenza. " Kwaye ekubeni yonke into ehlaselayo inomdla wokuhleka, yonke into iyinyani, makhe sithethe ngabantu, ngokuchanekileyo malunga namadoda ebomini benkcazelo ngokubanzi.
Bangaphi amadoda okufanele abe
Ngako-ke, bangaphi kula madoda abafanele babe kwindawo yobomi bentombi, ukuba ngaba ngenyameko? Ewe, masithi, le ngcamango iyodwa. Omnye - nguyena kuphela kwaye uyingqayizivele ebomini bakhe bonke, enye-le nto inqwenelayo yesikhulu ayiyena ihashe elimhlophe, ngokuba owesithathu nguye onqobileyo, kodwa wafika kude nokuba ngowokuqala ebomini bakhe. Ngubani onethamsanqa, okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, ngubani na onayo imfuno yokuba "ukugqwesa" kwisithuba "somntu."
Kwaye ngoku kwiithala
Le nto ndiyanitshela ngokucacileyo malunga neengqungquthela, ngokuchanekileyo malunga namadoda amahlanu ebomini bhinqa.
Mhlobo
Ngaba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi? Nangona uya kuboniswa ukuba ubuhlobo obunjalo bukhona, ngoko buba nemingcipheko. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubuhlobo obunjalo busekelwe eluthandweni lwe-platonic, lusondele kwaye alufinyeleleki ngexesha elifanayo. Abantu bangabangani, kuba bahamba kakuhle, kukho into yokuthetha ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akukho sibindi esaneleyo okanye isibindi sokuba nobuhlobo obusondeleyo, okanye iimeko azivumeli: intombazana, intombi, indoda okanye umfazi.
Enye imeko ngumnqweno wokuba nomntu okanye umfazi ohlangothini, kakuhle, ubuncinane njengomhlobo. Emva koko imeko ivela: omnye ungumhlobo, omnye uhlaselwa yintando ye-platonic. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi lulawulwa yintlobo yesini-mvelo yesini, kunye ne-platonic. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bafuna umngane ngomphefumlo, ngenxa yokuba abafumani inkxaso efanelekileyo ebomini babo, kwaye ukukhohlakele ngokomoya kuqale, okukuthi, ngendlela, abantu abaninzi abaqapheli okanye abafuni ukuvuma, ukulungelelanisa ubudlelwane babo. Ngoko imeko ivela: umhlobo unokukwazi ukuxelela yonke into kwaye ufumane iimvakalelo ezintle kuye. Kuphela akukho siqinisekiso sokuba olu dlelwane lobuhlobo aluyi kukhula lube yinto engaphezu kohlobo. Ngako oko, ubuhlobo bunengqiqo. Inokuthelekiswa nezikali - kakhulu kuninzi, yonke into iya kufika.
Umthandi
Ngaba kukho umthandi kuwo wonke umfazi? Kutheni oku kuthethwa njalo? Mhlawumbi, kuba ubudlelwane beentsapho bavame ukuguqula ubomi obomileyo, kodwa ukuze kuluhluke, kufuneka sibheke uthando, okanye kunoko, ngesondo. Yindlela yokuziva uthanda ukuqala, uthando, ekupheleni, indlela yokuziva kwakhona umfazi-onqwenelekayo, onobukrakra, omhle.
Kuphela apha kwiimeko ezinobungakanani bamanzi abo angaphantsi kwamanzi, ngakumbi xa ubudlelwane bosapho bungafani nokutshatyalaliswa. Emva kokuba ufunde ukuvalelwa kwintsha, umfazi akanakwenzeka ukuba abefana naye, ngaphandle kokuba umthandi ulele ebhedini elibi kunomyeni wakhe.
"Umthandi omhle, njengesilwanyana. Yizame kanye, uqale ukuqhuba kuyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukulibala ngemisebenzi yakho, ukukhathalela kunye namalungu entsapho, "u-Oksana uthi. Ibhinqa lithembeke ngakumbi ekubeni lithandekayo kunomntu. Uthatha ubudlelwane obunzulu ngakumbi kwaye unamathele ngakumbi kubo, nangona ukuba ubuhlobo obufanayo busekelwe kuphela kwisini.
Kukulungele ukuqala umthandi kuphela kwimeko apho kungekho nqatshelwe kwintsapho kwimibandela "yobomi bomntu", nangona kunjalo, ngoko umbuzo ohluke ngokupheleleyo uvela: "Ingaba sele sele yintsapho?"
Umyeni
Indoda yintloko yentsapho. Kodwa kuphela ukuba amadoda ecinga ukuba wonke umntu uyazi malunga nabafazi bawo, abaphosakeleyo ngolu hlobo. Ngoko imeko iyaqhubeka: Ndibonisa kancane, ndithi kancinci. Ibhedi yindawo apho yonke into eyenzeka ngokuhambelana nomgangatho: beka - kunye nesondo. Kwaye uthetha kakade, njengaye, kwaye akukho nto ... Omnye uyavuya ukuba oku akusiyo wonke umntu njalo, kodwa, ngelanga, kudla ukufumaneka.
Ubomi kunye neengxaki zeentsapho zenza umntu abe ngumntu wesondlo, ibhinqa libe ngumama wentsapho. Ukuthandana nokuthandana kufihliwe kwisifuba esicacileyo, kwaye umfazi uhlala elala embhedeni "umsebenzi wakhe wokuhlala."
Ngethamsanqa, imeko enjalo ayikho isizathu sokubeka umnqamlezo kubudlelwane, kodwa isithuba sokutshintsha into ethile. Umzekelo, ngamanye amaxesha unokuziva umyeni wakho njengomhlobo oza kuphulaphula aze aqonde yonke into, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha - njengomthandi, uthumele abantwana ku-ugogo wakhe kunye nokulala ngesimo esingagqibekanga.
Gynecologist
O! I-Gynecologist - lo ngumntu ofanelekileyo! Uya kunceda ngeengcebiso, kwaye "jonga" ... Ndiyabulela kwindoda yegazi, abantwana bazalwa. Indoda enjalo kufuneka iyakuthandwa kwaye iyanconywa. Kodwa akusiyo onke amabhinqa aya kuxelela umntu, nokuba yena ugqirha, yonke into nayo yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, ngeli xesha i-gynecologist, ukuba ingumcebisi ontle, iyabiza kakhulu kunomdlavuza wegazi.
INtloko yeSebe
Ngokwalowo uphando, abaninzi abafazi bathanda ukubona kwinqanaba lomphathi wabo ngumntu. Kunzima ukutsho ukuba kutheni, mhlawumbi indoda ingakhathazeki ngesini sesini, mhlawumbi kukho umlando apha: ekuqaleni, eqinisweni, yindoda kuphela eyenza izigqibo kuzo zonke izinto. Uninzi lwabo, abafuni ukubona ibhinqa eliphakathi kwamanqanaba ephakamileyo, libonwa njengomntu onobungozi kwaye enganelisekanga.
Abanye babona indima yomphathi wesilisa kungekhona nje ngokuba ngumphathi, kodwa kwakhona njengokuba unako okanye usenokuba ngumthandi wenene. Abafazi abanjalo bahamba phambili kancinci kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, kuba banayo yonke "amakhadi abanjwe." Okubi kakhulu imeko xa umnini-mabango ebonisa ukuba unobunye ubudlelwane bezoqoqosho, kwaye umfazi uyala. Amadoda anjalo athambekele ekuphindiseleleni. Ngoko ke, umphathi wesilisa, ukuba ukhona ebomini yowesifazane, kungcono ukuba wahlala nje ngumphathi kunye nomhlobo omhle.
Qaphela ukuba isitatimende esithi "ngamnye umfazi kufuneka abe namadoda amahlanu" afanelekileyo kuphela kumfazi otshatileyo: unokuba nomyeni kunye nomthandi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umbuzo uvela: "Kutheni kukhulu kangaka?" Ngaba akulunge ukuba neyona nto ingcono, ngubani oza kuba ngumyeni nomhlobo, umthandi onomdla, kwaye mhlawumbi, umfazi wesifo somzimba kunye nomphathi. Kodwa oku kufuneka kusele ifunwa ... "Uphi na njani?" - ucela. Ndiya kuthi, nangona kunjalo, ukuba amadoda anjalo ayenakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukukholelwa, kodwa lelinye ibali ...