Utywala kunye nabantwana zizinto ezimbini ezingahambelaniyo. Kuze kube neminyaka engama-21, umzimba womntu ngowona mngcipheko, ngoko umphumo wokusela izidyobisi unobungozi kakhulu. Ewe, umntu akakwazi ukusho ukuba abantu abadala banokudla ngokugqithiseleyo, banokwazi ukujamelana nokusebenza kwawo kwaye bayeke. Umntu omncinci usemngciphekweni omkhulu, kuba, ngenxa yobukhulu bakhe, ubona iziphuzo ezinokusetyenziswa kotywala e-ethyl "ithoyilo" elula. Ngokwakhe uluvo, unako ukuwashiya ngexabiso lokunika amandla, kodwa amanani aphikisana nale nkcazo.
Iiphumo zotywala emzimbeni wendoda eselula
Okokuqala, ukuphazamiseka kwemiba. Utywala buchaphazela umntu omncinci ngendlela eyingozi. Ekuqaleni kuthintela inkqubo yakhe yeentlungu. Kuze kube yiminyaka engama-21, ihlala ihleli. Ngoko, nayiphina impembelelo kuyo iyingozi. Yintoni utywala obunxilisayo? Oku kuphazamiseka kwemizwa yesibindi kunye nempembelelo kwingqondo, oko kukuthi, ukuphazanyiswa okukhulu komsebenzi wenkqubo ye-nervous. Incinane encinci yotywala iyancipha ngokukhawuleza. Kwakhona, masibuyele kubalo-manani bachaza ukuba ininzi yolwaphulo-mthetho lwenziwa ngabantu abatsha kwiimeko ezixakile.
Okwesibini, ukutshatyalaliswa kwamalungu angaphakathi. Umzimba womntu usetyenziselwa nayiphi na impembelelo. Nangona kunjalo, utywala kuyingozi kakhulu kuye. I-ethyl yotywala kubantu ibuthakathaka obuthathaka, ngokuthe ngcembe kwathintela izitho ezahlukahlukeneyo zangaphakathi. Ukuqala kokutshatyalaliswa kukuxhomekeke kwisigxina somzimba. Emva kwexesha, izifo ezahlukahlukeneyo ziqala ukuphuhlisa, umzekelo, isilonda sesisu. Kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo kwisibindi. Iphinda ibuyisele yonke into enobuthi, kwaye ukuba akunakwenzeka, iwashiye "ngokwazo." Ngenxa yobutywala, isibindi sinokukhawuleza. Le yimizekelo emibini, eqinisweni, umzimba womntu osemtsha ukhangeleke kakhulu kwi-ethyl alcohol.
Okwesithathu, ukuthotywa komntu ngamnye. Ingqondo, umntu omncinci uqala ukuphuhlisa. Imeko yakhe ishintsha rhoqo, kuxhomekeke kwimiphumo eyahlukileyo kubantu abajikelezile. Utywala iba yindawo ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa kwayo, kuba ukuzama ukuyilungisa yonke into. Akukho Rashiya ongazange athathe utswala ebomini bakhe. Ngenxa yoko, ukuthotywa komntu omtsha njengomntu kuqala. Akaqondi "ukuwa" kwakhe, kodwa, uqala ukujongana noluntu. Ngaphantsi kwefuthe lotywala, incinci inako ukwenza nayiphi na isenzo, hamba nantoni na.
Unokukhusela njani umntwana omnxila?
Iziyobisi zithengiswa kuyo yonke into eninzi, ngoko abazali abanakuze bakwazi ukukhusela umntwana wabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana utywala utywala ngokuchasene nokunyanzeliswa kwabazali, abafuna ukubonisa abantu ngabanye. Awukwazi ukuphazamisa ukukhuliswa komntwana, kodwa akufanelekile ukuyeka. Umntu ngamnye kufuneka enze ukhetho lwakhe ebomini, ukuze umntu akwazi ukuyeka utywala kuphela. Unako ukuqonda umonakalo owenziwe ngotywala, nangona kwezinye iimeko oku akulula.