Ukhuseleko lwabantwana ... Kwenzeka kaninzi kuthi, abantu abadala! Ngaba wakha wazibuza: Ingakanani umntwana wakho owaziyo imithetho yeendlela kunye nokuziphatha okukhuselekileyo kwisitalato? Ngaba bayayithobela? Omnye unokubuza: "Kutheni umntwana kufuneka achaze imithetho yokukhusela, ukuba xa ebonakala esitrato kuphela ngesandla ngesandla somntu omdala?" Kodwa akukude kakhulu nomzuzu xa umntwana wakho eya esikolweni, uba ngumqhubi ohambahambayo kunye nomgibeli ... Ngalolu nqaku kufuneka ukuba wakhe ukuziphatha okukhuselekileyo nokukhuselekileyo. Kule nto kuxhomekeke kwimpilo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bomntwana. Ngako-ke, incoko kule nqaku iyingozi kakhulu: umntwana kunye nendlela isiseko seleko. Wonke umzali kufanele azi oku.
Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokungonwabi ezenzeka ngabantwana endleleni, ukuwela kwesitalato kwindawo engaziwayo okanye ukukhanya okubomvu, ukubonakala kwangoko emva kokuhamba kwezithuthi. Izingozi ziphinda ziphindwe, nangona abantwana bafundiswa kwirejista kunye nasezikolweni ukuba badlule ngesitalato ngokuchanekileyo. Ingane yakho, kubonakala ngathi, iyaziqhelanisa nemithetho yendlela. Ngaba kunjalo?
Thetha nomntwana, umlinde kwaye uhlole ukuba unokuzimela ngokuzimela endleleni, yenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Emva koko, abaninzi abantwana banentembelo kwisitalato emva kweminyaka elishumi ukuya kweyishumi elinesibini. Ukuba umntwana wakho akakulungele, ngoko xa uphuma waya kwisitratweni akufanele umthathe ngesandla kuphela, kodwa uvelise, okokuqala, umzekelo wakho: ukuyiqinisekisa nokucacisa. Musa ukuphendulwa imibuzo yakhe enxulumene nendlela, ukuqhuba, izingozi, njl, nokuba zibonakala zingabalulekanga kuwe. Oku kubalulekile! Ukuba uyabuqhawula umbuzo wakhe, umntwana uya kwenza izigqibo, kwaye akuyiyo into yokuba iya kuba yinyaniso.
Tshela umntwana: "Xa imoto yokuqala ibonakala, kwakungekho migaqo yokhuseleko lwezithuthi. Indlela engaqhelekanga yenzeke. Iimoto zanda ngakumbi. Abahamba ngeenyawo baqala ukuwela phantsi kweevili zeemoto, bafumana izibhamu, benzakele kakhulu kwaye bafa. Kwaye kwagqitywa ukuba kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo kwisitalato. Omnye ububanzi, phakathi, wathathwa kwiimoto. Kwimacala amabini, iingoma zenziwe, kubahamba ngeenyawo. Kwaye wonk 'ubani wayenwabile, kuba akukho namnye owaphazamisa nabani na. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, imithetho yokunyuswa, imiqondiso yendlela, ukuhamba ngeenyawo, izibane zendlela. "
Mema umntwana ukuba acinge kwaye axelele oko kwenzekayo xa abantu bengenayo imithetho yeendlela. (Abahambahambayo bawela indlela apho bafuna khona, bephazamisa abaqhubi kwaye bazivelele engozini enkulu.) Isiphetho senza ndawonye: kufuneka ufunde imithetho yendlela kwaye uyenze, Ngenye indlela kuya kuba nokudideka, oku kunokukhokelela kwingxaki. Ingane kufuneka iqonde: ukuhamba kwenzelwe iimoto, indlela yokuhamba kwabahamba ngeenyawo, unokuwela indlela kuphela kwiindawo ezikhethiweyo.
Siwela indlela ngokukhuselekileyo.
Ngaphambi kwendlela, musa ukuvumela umntwana ukuba aqhube phambi kwakho, ubambe ngesandla, ungakhohlwa ukuba unako ukusikhulula ngasiphi na umzuzu. Namela ingqalelo yabantwana, ukuziphatha kwabanye abahamba ngeenyawo, mhlawumbi inkunzi iya kusetshenziselwa ukuwela indlela, ingakhangeli, ithembele kuwe. Intsana yamathoyizi ithathe "ubambe" yona: ngexesha lokutshintsha, unako ukukhulula isandla sakho kwaye ngokukhawuleza ugxume endleleni ngaphandle kwebhola elingekhoyo okanye idonsa.
Ukuba inkwenkwe igqoke iiglasi, khumbula ukuba ayilungisi umbono wombono, kubaluleke kakhulu kubahambahambayo! Ngoko ke, hlawula ingqalelo kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zomntwana kunye nokuhlolwa okuvaliweyo, ufundise ukuvavanya isantya somatshini ozayo.
Ngelixa ulinde umqondiso wesibane somzila, abanye abemi abangapheliyo bahamba endleleni, bengalindelanga ukukhanya okuluhlaza. Kukhuseleke kakhulu ukuma kwisiteyathelo-esinye nesiqingatha ukusuka kwinqanaba, ukuze ungangeni phantsi kweevili zithuthi.
Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntwana wakho sele esazi indlela yokuwela umgwaqo ekukhanyeni kwendlela kwaye uya kucatshulwa ngokuzonwabisa: ukukhanya okubomvu - akukho ndlela, ulindelo oluhlaza, kunye nokukhanya okuluhlaza-hamba (okanye: ngoxa ukukhanya okuluhlaza kuvuliwe, umendo uvulelekile ohambahambayo). Kodwa le mithetho ayisoloko ihlonishwa ngabantu abadala. Chaza kumntwana ukuba imithetho ephulwa "ngabayeni" abangamantombazana, kwaye awukwazi ukuthatha umzekelo kubo. Tshela umntwana ukuba ukhuseleko olupheleleyo kufuneka "ukhange" kwiimoto ezimileyo, nokuba ujikelele indlela ekukhanyeni okuluhlaza. Chaza ukuba kutheni ungeke ukwazi ukuyeka ukutshintsha.
Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uyazi indlela yokuwela umgwaqo kunye nokuguqulwa okungalawulwayo ("i-zebra", kwaye ukukhanya kwesitratti akukho). Nangona kunjalo, qi ni sekise oku. Indlela efanelekileyo, yeyona, ngumdlalo. Kanye kunye nosana, sondela indlela kwiphepha elikhulu, phawula utshintsho. Thatha amathoyizi amancinci (umzekelo, amanani avela kumangalisa) kwaye udlala. Xa umgca weendlela, umntwana ubeka izimvo "kwizenzo" zeetoyiti: waya kwinguqulelo, wayeka, ekhangele ngakwesobunxele, ukuba akukho iimoto ezikufutshane, ndiphuma phandle kwendlela kwaye ndihambe nge "zebra". Ndafika phakathi kwendlela, ndazibona ukuba iimoto zivela ngakwesokudla. Ukuba kunjalo, ndiyeke "kwisiqithi se-ukhuseleko", siphuphe kwaye uze uqhubeke. Umdlalo uza kuza kwiimoto ezinobuncwane kwaye ezincinci: unokuba ngumqhubi, kunye nomntwana onyawo, kunye nokunye.
Kwisihlalo sebhasi.
Ulinde ixesha elide kwibhasi, kodwa konke apho kwaye akukho ...
Yeka kude kumgama (umntwana uphezulu kunomdala). Ukuba ungenayo ithoyilo yakho umntwana, uthetha naye. Buza, yintoni na kwaye wayedlala naye, yintoni ayifakile, ebonwe kwi-kindergarten, into afuna ukuyenza ekhaya. Ungaya kwi-newsagent, cinga iimagazini, uthenge oko uthanda.
Musa ukuvumela umntwana ukuba aqalise imidlalo, ahambe kwinqanaba lokuhlukanisa i-pavement ukusuka kwendlela. Oku kuyingozi, ngakumbi kwimozulu yemvula okanye kwiqhwa. Umntwana angaphonsa aze awe phantsi kwebhasi yokumisa. Ukongezelela, ukuba imoto edlula ihamba ngeqhwa, iya kubhabha ngqo kumgca wendlela. Kwaye ukuba kukho i-puddle kufuphi, iinqwelo zokudlula ziyakunidlulisela ngedaka lomntwana.
Uninzi lwabantu baqokelelwe kwibhasi lebhasi. Ubamba umntwana ngokumanyanisa ngesandla, ume phambi. Nantsi ibhasi elilindele ixesha elide. Ukuqhaqhaqhaqeka kuya kuqala. Unokuba "ucinezele" kwiingcango ezivaliweyo, okanye zingashenxisa phantsi kwevili, kwaye "ungenise" kwi-salon. Nangona umntu omdala, le nto ixinzelelekileyo, kodwa yintoni umntwana onjengaye?
Kungcono ukukhuphela ezo zihambo ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba kufuneka uhambe kunye nomntwana wakho ngeeyure zokukhawuleza, ke indawo yakho ayikho ngaphambili, kodwa phakathi kwabo bahlala belinde ngokuphumla. Emva koko, eli bhasi alilo lokugqibela, kodwa impilo yengqondo nengqondo yengane iyabiza.
Abantu bayeka ukuma kwindawo yokuma. Ecaleni lendlela, ngasecaleni lomgwaqo. Nika umdla uvuyo kunye nawe. Kodwa musa ukwenza oku. Akunjalo kuphela, ukukhubeka, unokuwela uze uthwale umntwana. Unobungozi kunye phantsi kwamavili! Ingane ihamba nayo: "Asiyi kuba nexesha, uMama (uTata) uya kuhamba, kodwa ndiya kuhlala." Kutheni ubungozi bakho ubomi kunye nempilo, kha thazela umntwana? Kwakhona, kwaye le bhasi aliyona yokugqibela.
Ekugqibeleni unesigodini. Owokuqala ngumntwana, omdala ungumva. Hamba phambili ukuvumela abanye abagibeli ukuba bangene. Mkhumbuze inkunzi oyifunayo ukuba ubambelele kwisigxina, awukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwiifestile ezivulekileyo, uphonsa imfucuza, uphume kwi sithuthi uze uqede ngokupheleleyo. Kuya kuba ngcono xa ungenzi oku ngeendlela zokubhengezwa, kodwa, ukubeka ingqalelo kwiimeko ezifanayo nabanye abagibeli.
Ukuba umntwana uyaphuma ebhasi kuqala, unokukhubeka aze awe, zama ukuhamba ngapha kweendlela ngokwakhe. Ngoko ke, ekuqaleni, umntu omdala uhlala eshiya izithuthi. Emele ngakwesobunxele emnyango, uyamnceda umntwana.
Kwimoto.
Kwakuhlobo lweeholide, ukuhamba ngaphandle kwesixeko, kwilizwe, kwindalo. Abaninzi benza le mizila encinane kwimoto yabo. Njengomthetho, umntwana uzama ukuthatha indawo kwisitulo sokugqibela kuqala. Ukuba abantu abadala bahlala phantsi baze banokuyicinezela emnyango. Xa uqhuba, ukuvalwa komnyango ngokuzenzekelayo akubonelelwa kuzo zonke iinqwelo. Cinezela iqhosha elifanayo okanye abantu abadala abaloba belibale. Kule meko, umnyango ngesantya esipheleleyo unako ukuvuleka, kwaye umntwana-wehla endleleni, phantsi kwevili kunye nezinye iimoto. Ewe, kwaye xa uyeka, umntwana ohlala embi kakhulu akayi kulinda ade abantu baphume emotweni, kwaye bavele bavele bephuma kuqala. Ukuba uthe wangena ngale ndlela endleleni yendlela, uya kuba yingozi. Musa ukuvumela oku kwenzeka!
Ngoko, umntwana uhleli kwisihlalo sokugqibela, umnyango uvalelwe. Apha ke abantwana kuphela, ngokukodwa amancinci, ama-fidgets anjalo! Umncinci - kwaye inzala endiyithandayo imile nemilenze esihlalweni, yenza ubuso kwiwindow yangemuva, ivula iwindi, ibeka isandla sayo, okanye ingozi, intloko yayo. Xa kwenzeka ukuqhuma okanye ukujika ngokukhawuleza, umntwana omi esihlalweni angangena kwisithuba phakathi kwezihlalo aze athathwe kakubi. Ngoko ke, ukuthutha umntwana ukuya kwiminyaka elishumi elinesibini kwisitulo sangasemva saloo moto unako kuphela ezandleni zakho, uxhomekeke kwibhande lokukhusela, okanye kwisihlalo somntwana esikhethekileyo.
Imithetho yezithuthi ivumela ukuthuthwa komntwana ukuya kwiminyaka elishumi elinesibini ubudala kunye nesitulo sangaphambili (ukuba uhlala kwisihlalo somntwana ngexesha elinye). Ukuhamba phambili kakhulu kuya kuba lunqweneleka kunoma yimuphi umntwana, ngakumbi kwinkwenkwe. Kodwa indawo ecaleni komqhubi iyona yingozi kakhulu xa kwenzeka ukudibana. Ngaba ufanelekile ingozi? Ukuba umntwana usakhwela phambili, ungalibali malunga nekhanda lokuhlala. Ukuba ayinalo utshintsho oluzenzekelayo, yiphakamise ngesandla. Ibhande, elingahlanjululwanga kakuhle, aliyi kusindisa umntwana kwintlungu eyintloko nentloko yesifo esifubeni xa kwenzeka ukuqhuma okanye ukudibana.
Kulo hambo kwakungekho ukukhathaza umntwana, dlala nayo. Khumbula umdlalo omdala omnwe: "Soroku-blondoku" okanye engaziwa ngaphantsi:
Lo mnyoko ngumkhulu,
Lo mnyoko ugogo,
Le nto nguTata,
Lo mnyoko ngumama,
Lo mnwe kum.
Nangu intsapho yam!
Ngomncinci, dlala imidlalo: "Kukuphi na ukufihliweyo", "Biza iibhokhwe zezilwanyana", "Othethi".
Kubantwana abadala, imidlalo efana ne "Iidolophu", "Yitsho into echaseneyo" (umntwana ukhetha izichasiselo zamagama anikeziweyo: unqabile, uyakhala, uhleka, njl.). Umdla umdlalo "Ukuba kuphela, kodwa ukuba kuphela." Umntwana unikezelwa ukugqiba isivakalisi ngokwesi sikimu: "Ukuba ndibe ... (njengomntu omdala ucetyisayo), ngoko ndiza ... kuba ...". Kuvela ngale ndlela: "Ukuba ndiyimoto, yayikugijima, ukuba ihambe ngokukhawuleza", "Ukuba ndiyi-apula, ngoko ke ndiluhlaza kwaye ndiyomuncu, ukuze kungabikho mntu unditya." Ngokuzonwabisa okunjalo ixesha lokuhamba liya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuhamba endleleni kunye nosana, zama ukuba izenzo zakho zibonise kuye kwaye unakekele ukhuseleko lwakhe, kunye nokuziphatha okuchanekileyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo.
Ngaba kwenzeka ukuba ubaleke ngokukhawuleza endleleni eya ekukhanyeni okubomvu ngelixa kungekho zimoto eziseduze? Ukuba unemoto, ngaba uhlala uchanekile malunga nabahamba ngeenyawo kunye nabanye abaqhubi? Umntwana wakho, ehamba ngesitalato okanye ehleli emotweni, ubona konke aze akhumbule yonke into. Nangona ukuphulwa kweminye imigaqo ingaba ngumzekelo ombi wengane. Ungumlawuli ongenakuphikiswa kumntwana, izenzo zakho kuzo zonke iindlela zendlela kufuneka zichaneke.