Unina omncinci eRashiya uqhelekileyo. Baxhomekeke ekugwetyweni ngokubanzi, nangona oku akusoloko kunjalo. Musa ukucinga ukuba intombazana esemncinci ayikulungele ukukhulisa umntwana wayo. E-Rashiya, imeko yezoqoqosho imbi, ngoko ke akukho phantsi kwenkxaso evela kwilizwe. Kodwa konke okufanayo, oomama abancinci baba ngabazali abahle kakhulu. Bathanda abantwana babo, bezama ukubanika konke abalahlekelwe yimpilo yabo.
Izizathu zokubonakala koomama abangaphantsi.
Okokuqala, ukugcina impilo yakho. Ibhinqa akufanele liphazamise ukukhulelwa kwakhe kokuqala. Ngoku e-Russia kukho oogqirha abagqwesileyo abakwazi ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo ukusebenza, nangona kukho nengozi kwimpilo yabasetyhini. Umama, ukwenqaba ukuzalwa komntwana, ubeka umngcipheko wokulahlekelwa ithuba lokukhulelwa kwikamva. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intombazana engaphantsi ayifuni ukuba nomntwana wayo, ngoko ke wenqaba ukumzisa.
Okwesibini, umnqweno wokungena kumdala. Ngamanye amaxesha kwintsapho encinci intombazana ifuna ukuva "ubomi boqobo". Ngokuqhelekileyo, loo matyala avela kwimitshato yomtshato kunye namadoda amadala. Baye batyunjwa ebomini kwaye balindele ukuba ubudala bexesha elifanelekileyo lokungena kwiintsebenziswano ezisemthethweni. Kule meko, unina ongaphantsi komntwana uba ngumzali obalaseleyo, ulula umntwana wakhe.
Okwesithathu, ukungakwazi ukuphela kokukhulelwa. Ngelishwa, kukho iimeko xa intombazana ingazi ngokukhulelwa. Bavakalelwa nje kuphela kwiinyanga ezizayo nje. Ngelo xesha, akusenako ukugatya ukuzalwa komntwana. Ngoko, kukho omnye umama osezantsi eRashiya. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba ayenjalo, uyayenqaba abantwana okanye awanikezele kubazali babo.
Umama omncinci waseRashiya akanakunzima ukudibana. Ngenxa yokubonakala kwabo rhoqo, inani labantwana abangenamakhaya lizaliswa. Ngokuvakalayo banqatshelwe ngexesha lokuzalwa, nangona oku kulungile. Nangona kunjalo, umbuzo obalulekileyo uhleli, ngaba umama omncinci onokukhupha umntwana?
Unina omncinci kunye nokukhulisa umntwana
Lo ngumnye umbuzo onzima kunabo bonke abaninzi beengqondo. Inani labantwana abazalwa ngaphandle komtshato likhulu, kwaye ezininzi zazo zibangelwa ukungahambi. Ubudlelwane bobulili buqala kwiminyaka emininzi phantse, kodwa iindlela zokukhusela azisetyenziswa rhoqo. Ukukhulisa umntwana akulula, ngakumbi xa umntu engakagqiba isigqibo ebomini. Nangona manani abonisa ukuba umama omncinci unokuba ngumzali obalaseleyo . Akahlali esazi indlela yokuphatha kakuhle umntwana, kodwa ufihle zonke iimpazamo zakhe, anike uthando oluphezulu.
Akunabo bonke abantombazana abafuna ukukhulisa abantwana. Nangona kunjalo, akudingeki ukuba umntu acinge ukuba inani le "mama" elincinci. Kwaye naseRashiya, badibana rhoqo, bengayifumana inkxaso eyaneleyo ukusuka kuluntu. Abazali abangaphantsi kootitshala banako ukufundisa abantwana babo, besebenzisa uncedo lwabantu abasondeleyo. Kwaye ukuchaswa kwabantwana, kunoko, kubangelwa ukugwetywa ngokubanzi okubeka uxinzelelo kubantu. Emva kwakho konke, umnqweno wokukhulisa umntwana wakho unokuphela ngokukhawuleza njengoko kubonakala.