Emva koko, ukukhethwa kobugcisa yinyathelo lokuqala kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bomntu, ugweme umntu ophumeleleyo ongakwazi ukuwubalekela. Kule khetho, kuxhomekeka kakhulu: kungekhona nje ikamva eliqaqambileyo, kodwa kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe ngokomoya nokuthuthuzela ngokomoya.
Kutheni kubantu abatsha ukukhethwa kobugcisa bexesha elizayo - ngaba le ngxaki enkulu? Kukho iimpendulo eziliqela kulo mbuzo. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kukho uluhlu olukhulu lwezinto ezizodwa, abadala baye balahleka, kodwa abatsha bavele, kungekhona nje kuphela abaselula kodwa nabazali babo abazange bazive ngabo!
Isizukulwana esitsha asinalo ithuba lokuqhelana nolwazi olulodwa lwezakhono ezahlukeneyo, umzekelo, njengoko kwakunjalo kumaxesha eSoviet. Konke oku kungenxa yokuba ibhizinisi lwanamhlanje lingavumelekanga ukungenelela, ininzi yemisebenzi yomsebenzi ayinangqiqo yokugcina, ekubeni idlula kwinqanaba lokucinga. Kwabantwana oku kuqondakali ngokupheleleyo, kuba abantwana abaselula bayacacile, kuba abaphumelele ngaba uhlobo lwesimo, nangona kunjalo, ukusuka ngaphakathi ngaphakathi.
Olunye ulungelo olubalulekileyo lwangoku kwintlupheko yamaqela anomdla abazali bethu abathandayo kakhulu: ama-radiyo ahlukeneyo kunye nezobugcisa, iindidi zabaselula beefoto kunye neengxelo zenkcubeko, imodeli yomoya kunye nabanye abaninzi. Abagqwesileyo ababa nethuba lokuzivavanya ngokwabo kwiintlobo ezithandwayo, ngoko abanako ukufumana umkhombe. Abantwana besikolo banokuqonda into ethile kuphela ngomzekelo wobugcisa babazali babo. Kodwa oku kuncinci kakhulu ukuzimisela ukhetho lwazo.
Unokuhlala ungabhala uluhlu lwezizathu zonke, kodwa kusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ukugqamisa iimpazamo ezinokwenzeka abaselula xa bekhetha izikhundla ezizayo:
- Abantwana bangakhetha okokuqala, okuza kuwela ejongeni, ubugcisa;
- Kwakhona, bayayinyamekela ethile imisebenzi ngenxa yokuba bayaqiniseka ngokuqina kwayo;
- okanye inkampani kunye nabahlobo abaye benza ukhetho;
- mhlawumbi bavela kuvelwano lwabantu ngabantu abamele umsebenzi othile;
- igcinwe ingcaciso engapheliyo malunga nokukhetha okhethekileyo;
- ukudibanisa isihloko esasifundiswa esikolweni kunye nomsebenzi ngokwawo;
- abakwazi ukuziphulaphula, abaziqondi izakhono zabo neempawu zabo;
- Musa ukunxulumanisa ukubaluleka kwamakhono abo okanye ukungaziphathi, okubaluleke kakhulu ekukhetheni i-specialty;
- Awazi ukuba yintoni umgaqo ofuna ukhetha uqeqesho.
Ndingathini na? Sinokubanceda njani abantwana bethu ukuba baxhomekeke ekukhethweni okhethekileyo kwixesha elizayo?
Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukuba iimpawu zobugcisa zihambelana ngokupheleleyo neempawu zengqondo zomntwana. Okhethekileyo, kwindawo yokuqala, kufuneka inomdla kulutsha. Umsebenzi ngamnye uthatha ubukho beempawu zobungcali kumntu. Xa ukhetha uqeqesho, kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba umntwana useempawu zakhe eziyimfuneko ethile kwizakhono ezithile. Uhlobo lobugcisa lufanele luhambelane ngokupheleleyo neempawu zomntu. Ukuze ungaphuthelwa ekukhethweni kobugcisa, kufuneka ube nako ukwazi.
Oku kuza kuza kuncedwa uvavanyo, oluqhutywa ngempumelelo namhlanje ngamanqanaba aphakamileyo emfundo, ezi mvavanyo zikhululekile kwaye zijoliswe kumsebenzi. Baya kuncedisa ukuqonda isikolo esiphakamileyo samabanga-nokuba ngaba ushishino okanye ufanele ukukhangela.
Le yinkqubo esemgangathweni kwaye impendulo ifanelekile. Kulandela ukuba ukuchaneka ngakumbi kunyanzelekile ukuzama iindlela zengqondo zenkxwaleko.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akavelanga umdla othile kwinto ethile, kwaye ootitshala abafaki ukukhanga into ethile, iitalente zakhe zingcwatywe ngokukrakra, kwaye ingxaki yengqesho ezayo iya kubachaphazela nabazali ngokunjalo. Iingxaki zengxaki ezikhethekileyo ezinzima ukujamelana neetalente ezingenalwazi.
Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho wayengumshicileli, mhlawumbi, kuya kuba mnandi ukuba azame yonke indawo, kwaye kukho ithuba lokuba uya kufumana amaninzi. Abantwana abanjalo banzima kakhulu ukufumanisa ngoxanduva lwexesha elizayo, iimvavanyo apha zingenanto.
Kubalulekile ukuzama indlela enjalo yengqondo yokuqonda, njengoluqeqesho. Emva kokugqitywa uqeqesho lobugcisa, umntwana angakunqanda ukungathandabuzeki, uqeqesho luya kunceda kwiimeko ezingenakuthemba kwaye kwindawo edidekayo kakhulu. Umqeqeshi uza kubonakalisa amathuba, anike uncedo lwengqondo kumntwana kwaye anike isiqhelo ekukhuleni komntu siqu. Kanjalo, kuya kunceda ukwakha isicwangciso senkqubo esicacileyo kwaye kuya kufikelela ekuphumeleleni iziphumo ezingaphezulu!
Khumbula kwakhona ukuba awukwazi ukuba nomsindo xa umntwana engakwazi ukugqiba isigqibo malunga nokukhethwa kobugcisa ngokukhawuleza njengoko ungathanda. Wena, bazali, musa ukunyanzela, ukukhala okanye ukujezisa. Ngoko unokufezekisa kuphela ukuba umntwana wakho uza kuvala! Yiba nomonde, uncede, ukhokele, uthethe. Ukuba kukho ingxaki, khangela isisombululo, tyelela uqeqesho okanye uhambe uvavanyo. Emva kwakho konke, namhlanje kukho ukhetho olukhulu lweengcali ezilungele ukuza kuncedwa kwaye zineengcebiso ezifanelekileyo kakhulu. Kule ndlela ungamnceda umntwana wakho akhule njengomntu omdala onoyolo. Kwixesha elizayo, uya kukubulela ngokusinceda kwimeko ebalulekileyo kuye, njengokukhetha umsebenzi. Khumbula ukuba kuya kwenzeka kwaye ukuze umntwana wakho enze ukhetho olubi. Mhlawumbi uya kufumana into eya kumdla. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuya kukhawuleza ... Uyayicinga njani iminyaka elahlekileyo! Ukuba oku akuzange kwenzeke, qaphela abantwana bakho kwaye ungalahli yonke into ngokwakho!