Kungatsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukuziphatha, kunye nezenzo zomntu othandweni, zihluke kakhulu kwizinto zokuziphatha kwamadoda nabafana abangenandaba nale ntliziyo yokukhanya.
Kukho izibonakaliso zokuziphatha zomntu othandwayo. Umzekelo, ukuthuthumela emzimbeni xa ebona into yakhe yokudumisa. Le ngqungquthela ayikwazi ukunqotshwa. Ukongeza, umthandi unika amehlo "avuthayo". Kubuqili kwamehlo abonisa ukuba ngoku okwangoku umntu ujongene nexesha elivuyayo lobomi bakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuziphatha kunye nezenzo zomntu othandwayo zibonakaliswe ngombala osebenzayo kwaye wehla. Oku kungenxa yokuba loo mntu ulwa nothando olungathandabuzekiyo.
Indoda ethandwayo ngokuqinisekileyo iyaqhawula ngaphakathi kwiimvakalelo ezintle kakhulu.
Abanye baze bavuke ngokuphefumlelwa kwangempela. Ukuba wayengazange abone okokuqala imibongo okanye ukucula iingoma, ngoku uhlamba ngokuthanda i-odes okanye imidlalo yegitare yakhe ethandekayo imihla ngemihla. Kwaye akuyikwesa, into edlalwa yimilobo ayifumani isingoma okanye ingoma ishiya into efunwayo. Umntu oyintloko wenza konke ngokunyanisekileyo nangentliziyo yakhe yonke.
Ukongeza kwindlela yokuziphatha, izenzo zendoda ethandwayo zitshintsha kakhulu. Ngoku ulingisa yonke into yakhe ethandekayo. Ukuba intombazana iyakuthanda ukubukela iindidi, ngoko umkhosi wamadoda ngokwakhe uhlale kwaye abukele le mafilimu kunye nentombi yakhe. Ukuba uthanda ukuzenzela kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo wenza, ke umntu, ukuba amkele uvela kwintanda yakhe, uyamnika izinto ezizongcolileyo.
Umntu onothando unokuziphatha njani? Akakwazi ukulala ebusuku, uphupha ngokuthandana naye. Kakade ke, ukuthanda othandweni ngumvakalelo omnandi. Nangona kunjalo, ukulala ukulala kungenxa yokukhathala nokulala ngexesha losuku. Umthandi ulungele ukwenza konke ngentombazana yakhe ethandekayo. Ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nentombi yakhe, kungekhona nabahlobo. Abahlobo baqala ukumbamba.
Indoda ethandwayo iqalisa ukubiza bonke abesifazana igama elinye kuphela - intanda yakhe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abafazi kunye namantombazana baya kumthukuthelela, kodwa akanandaba. Ngomso kusenokubonakala "ukuhamba ngeenqwelo" kumaphiko othando lomsebenzi okanye isifundo. Uyayithanda yonke into encinane kwaye amomotheka kuwo wonke umntu. Uzama ukubonakalisa zonke iimpawu zakhe ezintle aze abonise amandla akhe ukumangalisa intanda yakhe. Indoda ethandwayo yenza izenzo ezintle kakhulu, umzekelo, ubhala kwiileta ezinkulu, kwi-pavement igama lakhe intombi kunye nokuvakalisa uthando. Ukuba imvume yemali ivumelekile, indoda enothando inokunikela kalula imoto yakhe ethandekayo kakhulu okanye uhambo olumangalisayo ukuya eBali. Unokwenza itekisi kwisifuba sakho ngegama lomthandayo.
Kukho imiqondiso emininzi ebonisa uthando lomntu.
Isiqalo sokuqala kunye nesisisigxina sinomtsalane wesondo kwinto ethile. Oku kuqwalaselwa njengesibonakaliso sokuqala esibonisa intlungu yentombazana leyo. Okokuqala, loo ndoda ibonisa uvelwano kuphela, landelwa uthando. Ukongeza kwintembelelo, indoda ethandwayo ivakalelwa ngokusondelana ngokomoya kunye neqabane lakhe. Uthanda ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nentombi yakhe. Uthanda ukuthetha naye aze amthinte. Ibonisa ukunyamekela, kwaye ayifihli ubomi bayo. Le miqondiso ibonisa ukuba le ntombazana ayinkosikazi yakhe kuphela, kodwa umntu othandekayo kuye. Ngokwemvelo yabo, amadoda alondoloza ngokucophelela ubumfihlo babo kubantu abangabaziyo kwaye akavumeli ukuphazamiseka. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyayithanda, ngoko uqala ukuthetha ngothando lwakhe aze atyhila ngokuthe ngcembe iimfihlelo zobomi bakhe.
Ukuba intombazana okanye intombazana oyintandokazi iyabuza, ngoko indoda enothando inokungafuni nayiphi na imikhwa yakhe, umzekelo, wenqaba ukudlala i-poker kunye nabafana njalo ngoLwesihlanu.
Esinye isibonakaliso sothando lomntu lubonakaliso lwesisa kunye nomnqweno wokunyamekela intanda. Nangona kunjalo, umntu kufuneka alungiselele ukuba ububele bakhe, kunye nokunyamekela akuyi kubuyiselwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ukuba umntu uyamthanda umfazi, akayi kuvumela intanda yakhe ukuba ihlupheke kwaye ikhale ngenxa yezenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe. Umthandi akanakucasula ngenjongo yakhe intombi. Nangona iimbambano ezincinci zingaphendulwanga kubudlelwane phakathi kwezi zibini. Oku kuqhelekileyo kubo bonke abathandi. Abasetyhini kufuneka baqaphele ukuba indoda ibonisa ukunyaniseka kwintsebenziswano okanye yenza ukungcatsha, oku kubungqina bokuba akayithandanga nonke, njengoko ibanga. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, amantombazana kufuneka acinge ngendlela yokwakha ikamva elihlangeneyo. Nangona kunjalo, ezo ntlobano zithembise nantoni na.
Awukwazi ukuhlala uxabana xa abathandi befuna ukugcina uthando lwabo. Indoda ethandwayo ithatha kuphela kwisigaba sokuqala sobudlelwane kunye neinyembezi zowesifazane. Uhlala edabuka abantu besondo, unokugqiba nokushiya umfazi wakhe othandekayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntu akanako ukuvavanya indoda ngothando ezinsukwini zokuqala zobudlelwane bokuthandana. Uthando lobuhlobo luphuhliswa kwaye luhamba ukusuka kwelinye iqanaba ukuya kwelinye. Abathandana baya kukwazi ngolunye usuku emva komhla, kwaye basebenzise utshintsho. Ulwalamano oluthandanayo aluhambelananga kuphela nothando.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuqonda ukuba umntu uyayithanda okanye ayithandi? Amadoda nabasetyhini bahlelwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kulula ukuba umfazi athi "Ndiyakuthanda!" "Kunomntu. Ukuqatshelwa okunjalo kumntu kuyisenzo esibi kakhulu. Indoda eyivuma ngokucacileyo oku, ngaphambi kokuba ilinge indima yomntu onomlutha. Ukuba abafazi banokuthobela ngokuzithemba ukuxhomekeka kwabo, loo mntu uqala ukwesaba. Ngokuqhubekayo iqabane lixinezela kuye, ngakumbi uqala ukwesaba. Kungenxa yokuba indoda enomdla kakhulu ayifuni ukuvuma ukuba ithande kwaye ithule. Ukuchonga ukuba umntu uyamthanda, ufuna nje ukumjonga.