Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba xa udibana nomntu, siqala ukucinga ngaye, ngokukhawuleza sithandana naye. Kodwa indlela yokubeka lo mntu? Lo mbuzo uthanda abaninzi abafazi. Ukuze ulungiselele kuye, landela le miyalelo emithathu: phulaphula, ucebile kwaye uncedise!
Njengomfazi, indoda ithanda indlebe
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba igama elithi "uthanda indlebe" libhekisela kuphela kwisondo, kodwa akukho nto iyenzayo, amadoda azimisele ukukholelwa kunabesifazane. Ewe, indumiso yabasetyhini kufanele ibe yinto efanelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, indoda ikwaxelela ngezinye zezinto "ezinkulu" ezifezekileyo, kwaye wena, ukuphulaphula ngokuvakalayo, umxelele ngendlela enhle ngayo, okanye umxelele "Akumangalisi ukuba unobulumko!" Kufanelekile ukudumisa, kwaye iya kukhanya njengombane wokukhanya. Amadoda amkela phantse naluphi na ukukhawuleza ngokusondeleyo entliziyweni yabo, kuba yonke indawo bafuna ukuqinisekiswa kokuzinyameka kwabo namandla.
Ibhinqa kufuneka likwazi ukuphulaphula indoda
Ngokwemvelo, abafazi abanjengo boltushki, ukuba amaninzi amaninzi abavumeli ukuba bafake amagama abo kwi-interlocutors. Kufuneka ikhunjulwe rhoqo ukuba indoda ifuna ukuma, umzekelo, ukuxelela intombi malunga nokunqoba kwayo, mhlawumbi kunye nokukhalaza ngokungalunganga. Ngokukodwa kwiintlanganiso zokuqala, ukulungiselela umntu, akukhuthazelwanga ukulawula ingxoxo, ube nobuqili - makakhulume, ngelixa ebuza imibuzo ehamba phambili.Aphulaphule umhlobo wakho omtsha ngokucophelela, kwaye uzama ukunika i-delniesovety xa ufuna, ubonise umdla omkhulu ebomini bakhe.
Okokuqala, ngale ndlela indoda eyokufumana i-interlocutor enhle, kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze imbeke kuye, kuba kude kakhulu umfazi ngamnye unokuba udumo ngokukwazi kwakhe ukuphulaphula. Okwesibini, lo mgaqo-nkqubo ungadlala ezandleni zakho, ekubeni ufunda kabanzi malunga nalo, unokwenza isalathisi esilinganiselweyo yobuntu bakhe. Into ephambili, musa ukulibala ukunyamekela ngeli xesha kwiintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo kwingxoxo yakhe nasekuziphatheni kwayo, ngenxa yokuba izinto ezincinci zingakwazi ukuxelela ezininzi ngezinto.
Indoda ithambekele ekungathandabuzeki yonke into
Sekude ixesha elide ukususela ngoko ukuba ubulili obuqinileyo bubizwa ngokuba ngababameli bayo kufuneka banyamezele. Akukho mfihlo ukuba umntu akafuni ukuba ubuthathathaka bubonakale kuye okanye kwabanye abantu, kwaye ekubeni iimbopheleleko ezinzulu zifakwe kuye, udla ngokungaqiniseki ngazo zonke izikhono zakhe. Ngenxa yoko, abaninzi abameli besilisa baqine kakhulu, umzekelo, bafumana ukungaphumeleli kwezinto ezingekhoyo, ngokukhawuleza "bakhathazeka" ngale nto. Ukuba ibhinqa ifuna ukufumana indoda enomdla, ngoko umsebenzi wakhe kukukhuthaza ukuzithemba kuye.
Naliphi na umntu unakho izinto ezininzi ngamakhono akhe, kodwa kuphela xa efumana umfazi onokumnika inkxaso enhle ebomini, vuyiswa nangakumbi kwimpumelelo yakhe encinci, ukungavumeli ukuba izihlwitha zingene ekuphelelwe ithemba. Indoda ayiyi kuba "superman" yedwa, yinto eyenziwa ngumfazi. Nangona ungenayo i-superman, kwaye nangomsebenzi, unethamsanqa, kodwa ukuba umntu uyazithemba ngokungekho mfuneko, kuya kuba namandla okunqoba ngokuthe ngcembe zonke iintonga ezintsha, kwaye loo ntokazi iya kuqonda ukuba yinto efanelekileyo. Yilesi sihlomelo esiyimzekelo yokulingisa kwaye sinokuzanelisa iimfuno zombini.
Ukulungelelanisa indoda indodakazi kufuneka ihlale "yi-fox". Akunakwenzeka ukubonisa ukuphakama komntu phezu kwendoda, nokuba yindlela ethile ekhoyo. Emva koko, indoda isoloko ifuna ukubonakala ibomelele - umkhuseli kumfazi kunye nenkxaso.