Indlela yokwenza umntwana alalele? - Esi sihloko sikhathazeka ngabazali abaninzi. Uyakuphepha njani ukungathobeli komntwana? Abantu abadala baxela ukuba umntwana uqala ukunyuswa, ngelixa esesisu sakhe. Kule meko, ukungqinelana kwabantu ngokuxhomekeka ngokuthe ngqo kweempawu zobunzima kwiimeko ezithile, kubalingiswa babantu abadala abazungeze lo mntwana, banomhlaba oqinileyo. Ngenxa yokuba umntwana uqobo malunga neyonke iminyaka ukukopisha izihlobo zabo nabahlobo. Ukukopisha okunjalo kunokuqala ngehlaya. Ukukhula, umntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukopishe le mpawu okanye ayifumene, baya kuba ngabomini.
Ukuthobela abantwana
Ukufumana umntwana ukuthobela ukususela esemncinci akusona umsebenzi olula. Imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yenzululwazi kulo mbandela kunye nokuhlalutya kokuziphatha kwabantwana kwintshukumo yokuqala kubonisa ukuba ukungathobeli abantwana kuxhomekeke ngqo kwiziphene zoluntu zabazali babo. Asiyidingi ukuhamba ngaphaya komzekelo, kwenzeka kuyo yonke indawo xa omnye umzali evuma, kwaye enye iyakwenqabela, ngakumbi, ugogo uyaqala kumyeni wakhe othandekayo kodwa umzukulu wakhe ojeziswe. Ekuqaleni umntwana udidekile, ngubani oza kuphulaphula, ngoko uqala ukukhetha oko kuyinzuzo kuye. Kwixesha elizayo, umntwana wakho uqala ukuqamba amanga kwaye njengento yokugqibela-ukumnyanzela umntwana ukuthobela inzuzo yakhe kuphela kunye nale miphumo efanelekileyo. Kwimeko embi kakhulu, kakade akaphulaphuli imiyalelo yomntu kwaye ushiywe kuye. Uhlobo olubi kakhulu - umntwana uya esitratweni nayo yonke imiphumo elandelayo.
Ngako oko, ngobudlelwane nomntwana, umntu akavumelekanga ukuba avumele ukudibanisa okunjalo. Awukwazi ukuqala ingxoxo naye kwiitoni eziphezulu. Ukususela ekuqaleni kweembonakalo zomntwana endlwini, omnye kufuneka enze ukuthobela nawuphi na umyalelo womzali unikezwe ngelizwi elizolileyo.
Ukuqonda
Into ebalulekileyo kwiintlalontle zentsapho ubuhlobo bomntu phakathi kwamalungu omtshato amakhulu. Ukuba umntwana uva, ngokugqithiseleyo, uyingqina ngokuthe ngqo kwintetho yabazali kwiitoni eziphakamileyo, umntu akafanele alindele into enhle kwixesha elizayo. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva iziganeko ezinjalo ziza kuphinda, kodwa enye yesiganeko esisemgangathweni iya kuba yindodana yakho okanye intombi yakho.
Izisongelo kunye nezijeziso zomzimba, awukwazi ukufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo. Xa eselula, unokukholelwa ekusongweni, kodwa ngokudala, yonke idlula. Ekugqibeleni, umntwana uqala ukuqonda ukuba, ngokungenjalo, akuyi kubakho isohlwayo, ngoko ke akukho nto yokwesaba.
Ukukhuthaza intshuzelo yabantwana ngakwesinye icala kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zokuthintela ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda konke oku kanye kumntwana. Zama ukwenza ngokulandelana, ngokuqhubekayo kwaye rhoqo. Emva koko kufuneka kuqinisekiswe into ethile, into enhle neyinto embi.
Xa uneminyaka engama-mibini umntwana ukhokelwa yiminqweno, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, konke oku kunzima kuncedwa ngendlela ekhuselekileyo kwi-cortex ye-cerebral, ekuncedeni ukuqonda umhlaba ojikelezayo. Ngako oko, kule minyaka, umsebenzi oyintloko womzali kukusekwa kweemvakalelo, xa amagama athi "ndifuna" kunye "nesidingo" ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunxulumene nengqiqo.
Ukuqonda iintsingiselo ezingavunyelwe ngumntwana wakho, kufuneka unike ingcamango yokubonakala kwamava kunye nokubonakalisa okunganciphisa izenzo ezingafunekiyo. Ekugqibeleni, ukulwa nokunyaniseka, xa umvakalelo oqinileyo unqoba umoya obuthathaka.
Zonke izithintelo mazibe zilula kwaye ziqondakala, kwaye ngokubalulekayo, akufanele kubekho ezininzi zazo. Ukuba unento yokuyalela umntwana ukuba ayenze, kufuneka uhlolisise inkqubela phambili. Musa ukulibala malunga nokuphakanyiswa, xa umyalelo wakho uphathwa ngexesha kunye nekhwalithi.
Ukuba intsapho yakho inomoya wokuqonda kunye nokuhlonipha, akukho nto yokwesaba.