Ngaba ucinga ukuba uyazi yonke into ngabantu? Mhlawumbi uphosakele. Kukho amaninzi amkelekileyo awamkela isigwebo sabantu ngesigxina sesintu, kodwa ezinye zazo ziyi nyaniso. Ufuna ukunqoba umntu wamaphupha akho? Emva koko kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni na umfazi omele azi malunga namadoda - iimfihlo zabo ezithandana. Ngokukhawuleza xa ufumana le ngcaciso - uza kuthatha ifa leyiphi na indoda efunayo. Kuya kuba ngumcimbi wexesha.
Kwamadoda athile, isondo ngumdlalo
Enyanisweni, kakhulu kuninzi. Ingakumbi abafana abaselula abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-25 ubudala. Umlinganiselo wamadoda ukuya kwisini kakhulu ubonakalisa iimpawu eziphambili zobuntu bakhe. Amadoda, ngokungafani nabasetyhini, ayenze ukuxhatshazwa, ukulawula, ukhuphiswano kunye nokufumana ukuzonwabisa ngandlela. Abanye abantu (ikakhulu abaselula, abantu abafayo) balala ngesondo, njengokungcakaza - ngokuhambelana nomgaqo ukhuphiswano. Ziyinto ebonakalayo yokubonisa izinga "lokupholisa" kwaye ubonise abahlobo babo inani "leengqungquthela" zabo.
Kwenzeka ukuba insizwa eneminyaka eyi-17 iya kwi-arhente yesevisi ye-escort, kuphela ukuba ibe nolwazi olunjalo. Ukuze uhlale kunye nabanye ukuba babe "yindoda" yangempela. Nangona oku kungabonakali ngokukhawuleza, kodwa iimfuno zakhe zesondo zihamba naye. Imfuneko yokuba yingxenye yeqela, ukwenzela ukuba ungayi kuziva ulawulekile, uhlala unqumla abancinci (kwaye kungekhona) amadoda ekudibeneyo. Emva koko bahlala beqhayisa ukulwa kwabo kwaye babelane nabo kunye nabahlobo kunye nabo. Kwamadoda amaninzi, oku kuwuphawu lobuchule kunye nendlela yokufumana ukuxabisa, ngakumbi ukukhuseleka.
Kodwa, nangona le ndlela yokwenza ngesondo, amadoda awanako ukunyamezela okufanayo kwabesetyhini. Ekuqondeni kwabo, ngamnye umfazi makangacingi ukuziphatha ngokwesondo njengemidlalo. Abafazi abanjalo bahlaselwa ngabantu, baziva bebacekisekile kwaye babizwa ngokuba ngamazwi afunga kuphela. Njalo qwalasela oku xa usebenzisana nendoda.
Kubantu, into ephambili iyasebenza, kwaye intsapho kunye nothando alinendima enkulu
Ewe, kunjalo. Kubantu, ukuzaliseka komsebenzi kubaluleke ngakumbi kunabesifazane. Indima yayo idlalwe ngophuhliso lwembali kunye noluntu lwezilwanyana kunye noluntu ngokubanzi. Eli bhinqa lijongene nonina, ikhaya, isixhobo sobomi. Nangona umntu efuna kuqala okokuba afumane isikhundla sobugcisa nentlalo, ehlangene nokuhlukana kweendima kwinkcubeko yethu. Oku kufaka indoda phambi kwesidingo sokuba khona kwentsapho kunye nenkxaso yayo yenkxaso. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngexesha elifanayo, kubonakala ukuba umsebenzi ubaluleke ngakumbi kuye kunentsapho kunye nothando. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunjalo. Kodwa yonke into ayinangqiqo. Intsapho yindoda ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ayifani neyowesifazane. Impumelelo emsebenzini kunye nokusebenza kwemisebenzi ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe. Kodwa umntu ufezekisa konke oku kungenjalo nje, kodwa kwintsapho yakhe. Ukufezekisa nje ngenxa yecala lomntu nje kukuchitha ixesha. Kufuneka kubekho umntu oya kuwuxabisa imizamo yakhe, okuza kubakho okufunekayo ukufezekisa into ebomini. Amadoda zizinto eziphathekayo. Ngako oko, abazami ngokwabo - akunakunqwenela ukuzidumisa. Ngoko kuvela ukuba ekupheleni, umtshato, ikhaya, intsapho yomntu oqolileyo - kubaluleke kakhulu. Okubaluleke ngakumbi kunye nokwaneleyo ngumntu, bhetele udibanisa indima ngamnye. Wonke umfazi kufuneka azi malunga nale nyaniso. Msekele ngomnqweno wakhe wokuphuhlisa - uya kukubulela kude kube sekupheleni kwemihla yakhe.
Amadoda ayidingi ukuqaphela nokuvunywa kwabasetyhini
Akunjalo. Indoda ibalulekile kungekuphela kokwethemba, ukuwamkela nokuqonda okuchanekileyo, kodwa kunye nokwamkelwa kunye nokuvunyelwa kwabasetyhini. Ufuna ukuzimisela kwindoda yakhe yindoda. Uvakalelwa ukwaneliseka xa uluvo lwakhe lucaciswa, xa eyanconywa, eyanconywa yingqondo yakhe namandla. Ngokwenene umntu unobuthathaka njengomntwana. Uninzi lwazo zonke kwihlabathi uloyiko lokuba akayi kukwazi ukwenza into kwaye uya kwenza into engalunganga. Ngaloo ndlela, impumelelo, impumelelo, ukuphumelela kungekhona kuphela ebomini, kodwa nakwezesondo kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba ulungile kuyo yonke into akwenzayo. Ngokusekelwe kulo, indoda iyakha umfanekiso wayo nobukhulu bayo. Indoda kufuneka imhlonele kwaye imhlonele umfazi. Musa nje ukuyithatha - ukunyaniseka nokukhohlisa umntu oyinyani akayi kuxolela. Kuya kumcaphukisa, kwaye uya kumlahleka ngonaphakade.
Ubulili obuqhelekileyo kubantu - into enjengeyeza
Ewe, kunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha le ndlela yindlela yokufumana uxabiso, ngakumbi xa kuthethwa ukusilela kwezinye iindawo zobomi. Ngokomzekelo, ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini, ukuphikisana nabaphathi, ukunyamezela kunokushukumisa umntu ukuba abe nesondo esingaqhelekanga. Ukuphulukisa iinqweno ezilinzakeleyo, ukufumana ukuqaphela, ukunyaniseka, bangena kumtshato omfutshane. Oku akukwenzelekanga nantoni na, nangona amaxesha amafazi akayiqondi le nto kwaye afikelele. Bandezeleka, baveze umbuzo othi: "Kutheni engabibizi?", Akayikukrokrela ukuba indoda sele ilibale ixesha elide malunga nokuba khona kwayo. Nangona abo banyanisekileyo banokuvuma ngokukhawuleza ukuba bafuna "ukukhutshwa." Abaninzi abafazi, ngendlela, bavumelana nokuxhamla okunjalo ngaphandle kwembopheleleko.
Amadoda akhathazeke kakhulu malunga nokusilela kwabo, ingakumbi ngesondo
Amadoda anesidingo esikhulu sokwakheka kwezesondo kunye namandla. Baye bahlanya nje ngezo zesini! Kwaye intlekele enkulu yindoda yilapho engakwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulindela komfazi. Ukugqithiswa kweengxabano kufinyelela kwintlanzi yayo, ingakumbi xa umfazi angenako ukuwanelisa, into ithetha ngayo. Izilwanyana ebusweni obusondeleyo bubuhlungu kakhulu kumntu, ngoko ke umfazi onobuchule akaze avumele ukuba umntu azivelele ekungabalulekanga kwakhe nobuthathaka. Umntu njengetrithri - uhlawuliswa ukuxabisa kunye nokumxelisa umfazi, ukufumana amandla kunye namandla. Yenza indoda yakho ibe ngathi inkokheli yesini - uya kwenza konke okufunayo.
Amadoda amaninzi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba baqhelane nabo, kwaye abafazi bathandana ngokukhawuleza
Yinyaniso. Amaxesha amaninzi - ngakumbi emva kwintlanganiso engahleliyo - umntu "uguqula" ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Akunandaba naye, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyakulibala ngalo. Umfazi ulindele impendulo, ukuqhubeka, enethemba lokuphindaphinda. Oku akusoloko kwenzeka - ngamanye amaxesha umntu unomdla ngokwenene ekuqhubekeni kobudlelwane. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo uzingela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uyazi, njengengqungquthela ekhanga. Imvakalelo yowesifazane ayiqwalaselwa. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba umntu akanako ukuziva uthando olunzulu. Ukuba ibhinqa liyakwazi "ukunqanda" umntu - uya kulifuna kwaye enze konke ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane. Wonke umfazi kufuneka azi le nto aze aziqwalasele.
Amadoda afanelekileyo kwaye asebenzayo kunabesifazane
Lo ngumlinganiselo omkhulu phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini-balawulwa ngobomi neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo. Amadoda ngokuqhelekileyo asabela ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza uqedele loo nto, musa ukuhlalutya kakhulu kwaye ungalithinteli iingxaki. Njengomthetho, ekuxazululeni iingxaki abazithembeliyo kwiimvakalelo, ziyinto engqiqweni kunye nezoshishino. Amadoda afana neentsebenzo ezibhekiselele kumsebenzi kunokugquma kwiimvakalelo zabo kunye neenkumbulo. Amadoda amaninzi kunokuba abafazi badinga ukuzimela - bathanda ukunquma yonke into ngokwabo nakwezinye iindawo. Ukuhlonela le ntlukwano kunceda ukudala ulwalamano, ukuthembela nokuthanda nantoni na. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abafazi abakhokelwa ngqiqo kwizinto zobomi. Kuphela nje ukuba amadoda akwenza oko onke amaxesha, kwaye abafazi bayayenza ngezikhathi ezithile.
Amadoda ayithandi ukuba neentlobo eziliqela ngexesha elinye
Oko kukuthi, akanalo mfuneko yemvelo. Indoda inokuthi ishintshe ukukhetha kwayo, utshintshe abafazi bakhe. Kodwa udibaniso oluncinci ngexesha elifanayo - lithwala. Ukongezelela, amadoda awanjalo isithembu njengoko kubonakala. Ukuba nonke nithandana, nifuna ukunyaniseka nithembekile omnye komnye - indoda ayifuni ukutshintsha. Induduzo kunye nentuthuzelo kubo zibiza ngaphezu kwelahleko kunye namaqabane amaninzi, ejikeleza kwaye ezama ukukholisa bonke.
Indoda isoloko ilungele ukulala ngesondo. Umzimba wakhe uphenduka ngendlela, ngokubhekiselele ekuthandeni kwakhe
Le nyaniso yinyani. Ukusebenza, okanye ukukwazi ukulungela ngokukhawuleza ngesondo kuninzi kumadoda kunabasetyhini. Injabulo inokubangela ukuba umntu abe nemvakalelo enamandla kwindawo engathathi hlangothi. Iingcamango zesondo zingasebenza kubafana abaselula ngelixa beqhuba imoto. Ngaloo ndlela, indoda ihlale isengozini yokuba yimeko engathandekiyo ... nangona kunjalo, lo mgangatho uvame ukudlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ukuba ukhokela ngokufanelekileyo umbane wesini - uya kuphumelela ekusebenzelaneni naye.
Umntu akanakuvuna isidingo sobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye novelwano lomfazi emva kwesondo
Oku kuyinyaniso edabukisayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu akanalo uvakalelo olunjalo. Emva kwesondo, ngokukhawuleza uya "kwindlela yokulala" okanye nje ukulungele ukugqoka ngokukhawuleza kwaye ahambe. Uhlawula ingqalelo encinci ekumameni kwamagama kunye nokuqhubeka komdlalo wothando. Kodwa i-egoism ayinanto nto yokuyenza ngayo. Le nto inama-hormone, ekutshitsheni kwabo kunye nokuhla kwehla. Nabani na umntu emva kwesondo uvakalelwa ukuhla kwezenzo zomzimba. Nangona kunjalo, ukuziphatha kwakhe kuxhomekeke kubuntu bakhe, amava, ukubandakanyeka kwengqondo kunye nolwazi lobugcisa bothando. Umntu okhulileyo kwaye onamava uya kuzama ukukunika ubushushu kunye novelwano. Kodwa ngamnye umfazi kufuneka awazi amadoda kwaye aqonde ukuba yindoda enothando ngokwenene inokukwenza oku. Yinyanisekileyo-ungabi ninzi. Yaye uxabise ububele obuboniswa ngumntu kuwe. Oku akulula kuye.
Amadoda "phantsi kwesithende" sowesifazane sele engabonakali
Le yinyaniso. Amadoda akwiimeko ezinzima namhlanje. Abasetyhini baya kuba nzima kakhulu, balindele ukufikelela okungenakuphazamiseka nokulala. Amajelo agxininisa kakhulu umfanekiso wesifazane okhululekileyo-onobundlobongela, obunzima. Ngaloo ndlela, ngamanye amaxesha abantu bafumana ukwesaba. Kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba bahlangabezana nezilindelekileyo. Amadoda azama ukubaleka "kwi-iron women" phantsi kweengqungquthela ezahlukahlukeneyo, ugweme ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunye nabo, ukucacisa oku ngentloko, ukugqithisa okanye ukungabikho kwexesha. Indoda ozenza ubuthathaka, ayikwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulindela okuthandana kunye nezidingo zakho zesondo.
Uyazi ...
Kwindoda, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kubaluleke kakhulu, njengoko kukuchaphazela ukuzithemba nokuzimela komntu. Ukuba umntu ulahlekelwa amandla akhe kunye nokukwazi ukubonisa indima yakhe yezesondo, uya kuphelisa. Le mpu melelo iyadluliselwa kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakhe.
Okokuqala, indoda ifuna isondo, kuba le nto ibalulekileyo ekugcineni ixabiso layo. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kulwalamano olwenziwe ngalo olwabelana ngesondo. Ingaba kwakuyimbuzo yobudlelwane obuzinzileyo okanye kwakuyintlanganiso engaqhelekanga. Ukuba umntu uhlangabezana nobunzima ngokubhekelana ngesondo kunye nomlingane ongathandabuzekiyo - akuyithinti kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukungabikho kwamandla okwenzeka kumntu osondeleyo kunye nolunentsingiselo kumntu-oku kungakhokelela ekulimaleni. Ngamehlo endoda, iyanciphisa, iphakamisa ukungathandabuzeki malunga nobukhulu bayo.
Amadoda aneempembelelo ezahlukeneyo ngesondo ngenxa yezinto eziphilayo, ezenkcubeko, ezentlalontlu, ukungalingani kwembali, imfundo kunye nempembelelo yeendaba. Ukususela esemncinci, umntu ufunda ukuphepha oko kuthiwa "ukuziphatha kwabafazi". Ukusingqongileyo kugxotha iingcamango zabo zendalo, iyancipha okanye iqhube iimvalelo zabo. Ukucinywa ukubonakaliswa kobubele kuyimiphumo yempembelelo yomntu.
Ukuthambekela kwemvelo yabasetyhini kukukhathazeka, ukunyamekela, ukuzinikela, ngokuphindaphindiweyo baqhutywa yimvakalelo kunye neengqondo. Indoda ayilahlwa ukuveza iimvakalelo zakhe, ukukhala, ukuthatha unonophelo oluninzi ngokubonakala kwayo. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha umntu oqinileyo uyazivumela ukuba azile, kwaye oku akunciphisi ubunzima bakhe.
Nangona kukho ukungafani okukhoyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, le ntlukwano ingaqondwa kangcono kwaye iyakwamkelwa. Oku kukuvumela ukuba wenze ubudlelwane obuphumeleleyo. Ukuqwalaselwa kunye nokuhlonela le ngxabano kunceda ukuphepha ukungaqondani kunye nokulindela okungafanelekanga kulwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Nangona sihluke kakhulu, oku akuthethi ukuba asikwazi ukudibana kwinqanaba elifanayo kwaye sithandana kunye, sithemba kwaye sithande.