I-Psychotherapy akuyona nje inkqubo yokulala ngokulala ebhedeni ngokulindela ukufumanisa. Kweemeko zethu, ngokubanzi, unyango lomphefumlo alufaneki ngokudlula ngale ndlela. Kodwa nini kuwe kubahlobo okanye nakwi-psychologist oye wabhekisela kuzo, uyincoma nje ngokucebisa ngokwengqondo, kodwa iqela le-psychotherapy - indlela yokuyiphatha ngayo?
Yintoni ekwenzeni iqela leengqondo kwaye "lisebenza njani"? Yintoni ongayilindela "kwiqela"? Unokukunceda njani, kwaye kungenjani?
Ziziphi iiqela?
Ukucetyiswa kwengqondo kunye neqela le-psychotherapy lidibana. Ulwaphulo lweqela lenye yeentlobo zeengcebiso, okanye kunoko, uqeqesho lomntu.
Wonke umntu unikezwa ixesha kwiqela - kwaye unethuba elikhethekileyo lokuthetha nokuva, ukufumana ingxelo ngaphandle komntu omnye, kodwa kubaninzi. Emva koko, "iinyaniso kwixesha lokugqibela" azikho, kwaye kungcono ukufumana indlela abantu abahlukileyo abanokuqonda ngayo izenzo ezithile okanye ngamagama.
Ngelixa "ulala embhedeni" (kwaye eqinisweni - kwisihlalo esichasene nomphengululi okanye isazi sezengqondo) "umbethe" malunga nobomi-tins, uxoxa nawe. Ubukhulu - malunga nabahlobo abangekhoyo eofisini, abahlobo kunye nobudlelwane nabo.
Kulo qela kukho ubuninzi bezinto ezinamandla. Kukho iinkqubo kuyo. Kwaye ukuba inkqubo yobudlelwane "isayikhologi-umthengi" ifundwa kunye kunye, idibaniswe kwiinqanaba ezahlukeneyo kunye nenkcazo ecacileyo, ngoko kwiqela yonke into ayilungelelanisekanga.
Ukucetyiswa kwengqondo - i-psychotherapy yeqela - iphumelele kwiimeko ezimbini:
- Xa usebenze uhlobo oluthile lwesinxibelelwano, "mbulela" ongenakukwazi ukuhamba ngaphaya kwinqanaba elithile (okanye nabantu abathile - ootitshala, abathengisi, ii-hams ... ngamnye ngamnye).
- Xa unecandelo elingaphezulu okanye "ngaphaya kwakho", kwaye awukwazi ukulinda ukuzama iindlela ezintsha zokunxibelelana nokuzibonakalisa kwindawo ekhuselekileyo.
Iqela yinkampani enhle
Kunzima kunabantu abadala ukuba bahlangane nabantu abanomdla. Abahlobo babantwana kunye nentsha, abafunda nabo kunye nabafundi kunye nabo baye babalekela kunoma ubani ... Kwaye ngoku umntu oye wayakha sele eneendawo ezimbini eziphambili apho unokuzibonakalisa njengomsebenzi womntu kunye nekhaya.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona ibhinqa linethuba lokuzilibazisa kunye okanye "ingqungquthela yeminqweno" (nangona iqulethwe ngumhlobo okanye umhlobo wakhe), ngoko unxibelelwano luphela kuphela kwingxoxo yezinto zokuzilibazisa kunye nemicimbi yasekhaya. Kwaye oku akunakwanela kumfazi wesimanje.
Ukucetyiswa kwengqondo - iqela le-psychotherapy kwixesha liqokelela ngqo loo nkampani, apho bafuna kwaye bayakuvuyela ukubonana kuphela ngexesha elimisiweyo. Ngaphezu koko, esinye sezibonakaliso "zempilo" yeqela kunye nophuhliso lwayo ziintlanganiso ngaphandle kwendawo yokwelapha.
Iqela liqhuba umsebenzi
Indawo ekhuselekileyo apho unokuthetha okanye uyikhohlise, uzame inxaxheba engavamile okanye usebenze umzuzu obalulekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, yithi "hayi" kwi-interlocutor yakho okanye wamukele ngokwaneleyo amanconywa. Uthi, ngaba izakhono zendalo kwaye kulula ukuyisebenzisa? Ewe, zama ukuthetha no-boss okanye umama wakho ...
Ngezo zakhono zentlalo azikwazi ukujamelana neengcebiso zengqondo zengqondo - i-psychotherapy yeqela isebenza kangangoko.
Amaqela ahluke!
Amaqela ahlukeneyo, ngokusekelwe kwiinjongo kunye neenjongo, ukubeka isikhundla sobabini kunye neqela ngokwalo. Kodwa ngokubanzi, banokuhlukana ngokuxhasayo kwaye "bakhuthaze." Eyokuqala ihlala ithembeka kakhulu, iyinyameko, isilumkiso.
Sebenza apha kusemgangathweni ophezulu, ukuxoxa ngezi zinto kunye neenkcukacha ezintle ongazixeleli nangomntu osondeleyo. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza - khetha uhlobo oluhlukileyo.
Uhlobo lwesibini lweqela linalo lulandelayo. Amalungu eqela athambekele ekuncintiswaneni, "adibanise" kwaye ngokukhawuleza "ukuphazamisa" kwiindawo ezibuhlungu. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kweli qela kufuna amandla angakumbi engqondo kunye nomnqweno wokuphuhlisa. Kodwa inkqubela ibaluleke kakhulu.
Eli qela liyindawo ekhuselekileyo
Yeka indlela engummangaliso ngayo isiluleko somntu ngokwasemzimbeni, njengokuba iqela le-psychotherapy libonakala "livulekile". Kwaye ukuza kwiqela ngaphandle komnqweno wokuvula-kufana nokungafiki.
Ukhuseleko lweqela lugqitywa ngamanani amaninzi.
> Ukususela kwixesha elithile iqela libhekwa ngokuthi "livaliwe" - i. ukubunjwa kwalo kubakho isigxina.
> "Vula" onke amalungu eqela - akunakwenzeka ukuthula. Ngoko, ulwazi olufihliweyo lomnye nomnye luya kubambisana.
> Unokuxoxa ngezinto ezenzekayo kwiqela kunye nabahlobo, izalamane, osebenza nabo, kodwa ngokwemiqathango yeqela, awukwazi ukubeka amagama athile kwaye unike imiyalelo eqondileyo, "ngubani" onokuyenza. Ngaphandle kweenkcukacha, imeko epheleleyo kwaye ngokwayo ingatshelwa.
> Ukunyamezela yinto into yokuba umntu wanamhlanje udlalele. Ngoko, iintlanganiso ngeveki (okanye ngeveki-veki), ngexesha elithile, unceda ukuva le ndawo kwaye eli qela likhuselekileyo.
Yintoni enokuyifunda?
Kunzima ukuchaza kwangaphambili inkqubo yokucebisa ngengqondo kwangaphambili - i-psychotherapy yeqela - lo luhlobo lwenyango apho iindawo ezinzima kakhulu.
Umqeqeshi angalungiselela "inkqubo" yakhe - yintoni ukunikela ngayo iqela, okanye ukulungiselela iimfuno zakhe. Ulwalamano olusenyongweni nentombi endala kunye nomama osekhulile oyalela umntwana wakhe oko akwenzayo nokuba njani; Ukusebenzisana okuvelisayo kunye nomphathi, iziganeko, ootitshala esikolweni somntwana - konke oku kunokukhutshwa ukuxoxa.
Okumangalisa kukuba, ngokuhamba kwexesha, xa kuninzi ukuthembela ngaphakathi kweqela, iimfuno zabathathi-nxaxheba ziqala ukuhambelana. Kwaye abo "bangakhathazeki" ngolunye uhlobo lweengxaki, bayeke unyango okanye baye kwamanye amaqela.
Ngoko ke, iqela aliyi kukwazi ukubiza uqeqesho lwama-classic, nangona lukunye nomqeqeshi, kunye "nezifundo" eziqhelekileyo. Isisombululo ngasinye siba nemiba yangoku, okanye ihlabathi, okanye zombini, nabanye.