Sifunda ukuxolela nokuxolisa.
Okokuqala, ukuze ungabi yiintshaba zangempela emva kokutshatyalaliswa, kufuneka uxolele zonke iimpazamo kunye nayo yonke into eyenziwa yintombi yakho yangaphambili kunye nokuba intlungu neentlungu azilethela kuwe (ukuba kukho enye). Kuphela ngokwenza oku, unokukhangela kwakhona kwaye uqhagamshelane nayo. Oku kuya kuba sisiseko sakho sokuqala malunga nokwakha kakuhle ubudlelwane kunye nothando lwangaphambili. Ngokombono weengqondo zengqondo, kwimeko enjalo ukuziqeqesha ngokufanelekileyo, okunokukunceda kamva intombazana ukuba iyanqothule kwaye ishintshe isimo sayo sengqondo kumntu owayengumfana. Ukuze wenze oku, kufuneka uthabathe isitulo uze uyibeke phakathi kwegumbi ukuze liphambi kwakho. Emva koko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kudibana njani, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukubonakalisa kule ndawo "engenanto", yena wangaphambili kwaye wayekhe wayethanda kunye nokwahlukana kwakhe. Emva koko iskripthi silula, kufuneka uguqulele kwisithandwa sakho esicatshulwayo kwaye, ngaphandle kokwesaba eli gama, ngqo "kumntu" ukumxelela yonke into esondeleyo neyobilisayo eqokelele emphefumlweni wakho. Ewe, ke nje ucele ukuxolelwa kule "sihlalo". Oku kuhlambalaza kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukusetyenziswa ngokufanelekileyo kakuhle kunceda ukunqoba ngokwayo ukunyelisa nokuzonda. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba kunyanzelekile, tshibela ngonaphakade ngoncedo lwakho lwangaphambili. Ngendlela, kholwa okanye cha, kodwa isoka lakho langaphambili lingaziva lithengelelwano lokuba uyithethelele kwaye njengoko uza kuba lula kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nawe.
Ukungabi nantlupheko yintlawulo yakho ephambili.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba ulwalamano olwamkelekileyo kunye nolwalamano emva kwekhefu kunye nomfana, lunokuchaphazela into yokuba umthandayo osekudala, uya kukwazi ukuba unelungelo lokufuna okanye ucele kuwe ukuba ufezekise iminqweno ethile okanye i-whims. Kule meko, kuya kuba yinto enyanisekileyo ukuba awuphenduli kuwo. Yingakho indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kule mzuzu iya kuba yintsilelo yakho yonke, ekufuneka uyibonise ngobuchule "umhlobo" wakho. Ngefowuni yakhe, phendula ngokumisa ngelizwi lakhe, amabinzana amfutshane. Kodwa sele sele udibana ubuso nobuso kufuneka ulungele kakuhle, kunye nokubonakala kwakho ukubonisa ukuba iingxaki zakhe kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ungananto. Kwaye nangona kunjalo, bayaphala kwaye baxakeke ngokugqithiseleyo. Ngoko ulungele kunye nokuphelelwa kweemeko kwaye ungagqithwa kwinqanaba lokuqala lephepha elitsha lolwalamano lwakho sele lubizwa ngokuba "ngabahlobo", ngokuqinisekileyo uthintela umntu othandekayo ngaphambili, ukuze angabi nantoni na kwixesha elizayo. Ewe, ukuba wena ngokwakho awufuni!
Uhlobo lwe-epistolary, njengendlela yokwakha kakuhle ubudlelwane.
Kukho enye indlela yokuseka okanye ukuphucula ubudlelwane nothando oludlulileyo. Ngendlela, olu khetho luya kunceda kunye nemicimbi ngokupheleleyo kwaye libale ngokupheleleyo zonke izikhalazo kunye neengxaki ezidlulileyo. Kwaye oku, kuphela iphepha kunye neepeni efunekayo kuyo yonke into. Bhala incwadi yokubulela kwintsapho yakho yangaphambili. Emva koko, funda ngokuzwakalayo. Khumbula ukuba zonke iingcamango zomntu, ezichazwe kwiphepha elimhlophe lephepha, zinentsingiselo ecacileyo nekhonkco. Ayikho loo mfuduko edlalwa yintloko yakho, kwaye ibangele iindleko ezininzi kunye nokuthelekiswa kwezinto ezinobomi. Emva kokuba kwenziwe "isithethe sokuziqinisa," faka le leta kwi mvulophu uze uyitywine. Ngendlela, akudingekile ukuba usebenze kwiofisi yokuposa ukuze ufikelele kwisihlomelo sakho, kuba ungosifakeli sale leta. Burn it kunye ne shishini! Injongo yale leta kukuba kukutshintshisa ngokukhawuleza ukwahlukana nothando kwaye kungabandezeli nantoni na into engeyiyo loo mntu. Khumbula ukuba kukho ukunyaniseka okungaba yiintshaba zangempela zobudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo kunye nomntu owayengumfana. Ukuba ufuna ukwakha ngokuchanekileyo kunye nolwalamano lwangaphambili okanye lwangaphambili, baphonsa ngaphandle kwentloko!
Ixesha kuphela linelungelo lokubonisa yonke into.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba emva kokupheliswa kobudlelwane, abantu abakwazi ukujonga omnye nomnye. Kodwa emva kwexesha xa zonke iintlungu kunye nentukuthelo iphela, abantu abanomdla-mnye banomnqweno wokubona kwakhona, ukuze bafumane indlela umntu othandayo ohlala ngayo ngoku. Kule meko, indima enendima edlalwa yinyaniso yokuba ukuba bobabini bobudlelwane basekuqaleni sele benalo ubudlelwane obutsha. Yilapho ungakha ubuhlobo bokwenene. Ngoko, ukuba kanye ngoko awuzange ulawule ukushiya ubudlelwane obunobungane, linda ixesha elithile, kwaye konke kufuneka uphumelele. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukuba unokwakha kakuhle ubudlelwane kunye nomntu owayekade uhlala naye, uya kuhlala ungumhlobo obalaseleyo ebomini!