Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana: ixesha elinzima

Ubudlelwane nomntu - ngumsebenzi onzima, ngamanye amaxesha ubucwebe, akufuneki kuphela ububele, uthando kunye nokufudumala, kodwa kunye nokuqina nokunyamezela. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba sonke sihluke, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha siphila kunye neentlobo zomntu okwenzekayo o, kunzima kangakanani. Kodwa apha sele unamakhadi ngesandla: ukuba ucinga ukuba kukufanele ukuhlupheka kwaye wenze imizamo ngenxa yobudlelwane, ngoko ke yonke into iya kukhangela. Inqaku elithi "Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nentombazana: iimeko ezinzima" ziza kugxininisa iingxaki ezithandwa kakhulu kwiibini ezitshatileyo, apho siya kuzama ukunika iingcomo ezinceda ukuphepha ezi zihlandlo, okanye ukuphuma kuzo, zithwele ilahleko ezincinci.

Naluphi na onokuzibini ongeyena, kodwa ngobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nentombazana, ixesha elinzima lenzeke kuwo wonke umntu. Kubonakala ngathi: konke kulungile kuwe, akukho mpikiswano kunye nezikhalazo eziye zavela, kodwa ngokukhawuleza kwaqhambuka isiphepho. Masithi kanye kanye: ukuze yonke into yangoko ikhuphe ize iphele, ayiyi kwenzeka. Kungenzeka ukuba wena kunye naloo nto uhlala kunye nokuhlambalaza ngaphakathi kwakho, ukuze ungabhubhisi ubuhlobo bokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukubamba inzondo ixesha elide, ngamanye amaxesha uphumela emva kweminye. Kwaye kwagqitywa i-scandal enkulu, oko kushiya uphawu olubi kumtshato phakathi kwendoda nentombazana. Uthuli luyimveliso yokungathembeki. Kulukhuni, ke, ukuthembela umntu ongeyenazi ukuba uthanda. Kodwa ukuba ugqiba malunga nolwalamano oluqinileyo, ngoko kufuneka ubonise ubuncinci ubuncinci kwiqabane lakho, ngaphandle koko uya kufumana ingcinga yokuba uhlola kwaye ulawula. Yaye ke, kholwani mna, ningathandi mntu. Ewe kukho indoda: umfazi, naye, akanakwenzeka ukunyamezela ukungaqiniseki rhoqo. Ngoko ke, fundani ukuthembela kubathandekayo bakho, nakunoma kunjalo, de (ngokuzenzekelayo) babonise ukuba abanako ukuthenjwa. Kodwa ke, mhlawumbi, ubuhlobo buya kuphela.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, isibini esitshatileyo sinzima ukuphikisana xa kuziwa ngexesha lokudibana. Ngokukodwa, ingxabano ingavela malunga nabahlobo bakho kunye nabahlobo bakho. Masithi ufuna ukuhlala kwi-cafe kunye neentombi zakho kunye nomfana, siphuza itiye kwaye uxoxe ngento ebalulekileyo kwaye inomdla. Yaye loo nto ifuna ukukunqanda kwisisithakazelo, ngombono wakhe, ukuza, mema abahlobo bakhe, bathenge ubhiya kunye nemisipha kunye nobusuku bebukele iqoqo legolide lebhola lebhola lehlabathi. Ngendlela, awuyithandi ibhola yebhola ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ngako oko, wena, njengokuba unako, umelana nezicwangciso zomntu wakho. Kutheni oku kwenzeka? Ewe, akukho nto enhle. Ngenxa yokuchasana kwakho, wonke umntu uya kuhlala engqondweni yakhe, kwaye ngenxa yoko, uya kuchitha yonke imini eTV ngaphandle kokuthetha. Kodwa kwakumnandi ukuchitha ixesha! Kodwa abazange bafumane ukulungelelanisa.

Nangona kukho ezinye ezimbalwa. Eyokuqala kubo: namhlanje uyahamba kunye neentombi zakho kwi-cafe apho uhanjiswe khona kusasa. Yaye iqabane lakho kunye nabalandeli bakhe baya kujongana nenkampani yamadoda kunye nebhola lebhola. Awuyi kubuya ekhaya ngokukhawuleza, kodwa abafana baya kugqiba umboniso, wena kunye nalo mfana uya kugcwala imvakalelo emnandi, wabelane nabanye ngamaxesha amnandi ngokuhlwa, kwaye, nwabileyo, uye kulala. Inketho yesibini: uza kwenza isimiso esingabalulekanga sokuhamba kunye nabahlobo bakhe kunye neentombi zakho. Masithi namhlanje uchitha ngokuhlwa kunye nabahlobo bakhe, kwaye ngomso uya kulima izitalato kunye neyakho. Ewe, ngesiseko esisigunyaziso, kufuneka ulungise amaxesha amaninzi ngokuhlwa okunokwenzeka kwizinto ezimbini. Ngaphezu koko, kucetyiswa ukuba kusekwe into enomdla: yithi, ukuya kwi-cinema, kwi-ice rink okanye nje kwi-cafe. Kwaye ngoko kuhamba ngokubanzi uza kuyeka ukuchitha ixesha kunye kunye.

Omnye umzuzu onzima onokuma endleleni yobudlelwane obungabikho ukungqubuzana nobunzima bezinto zakho. Masithi isithandwa sakho sithanda ukuphumla okungaqhelekanga: musa ukumondla isonka, vumela ukuba enze into enomdla kwaye eyingozi. Namhlanje uyakuchukumisa ukuba uhambe-kart, kusasa - ukuqubuzela, ngoko-ukuzula ukusuka kwibhulorho. Kwaye konke oku kukubangela ukwethuka kunye nokwesaba. Ujwayele ukuhlala ekhaya ngokuhlwa, ukuze ufikelele kwi-cafe. Ngokuthandayo, uye waqhawula ngokukhawuleza kwaye wenziwe ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye akakuchukumisi ekuphumuleni nokuzonwabisa. Ngenxa yoko, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, wena, ngamazinyo akho, uya kwintanda yakho apho ufuna ukuya khona. Jonga ukuba uthatha njani inxaxheba kwimingcipheko yebhayisikili eyingozi, ngentliziyo edibeneyo, jonga njengoko ehamba ukusuka kwibhulorho, enamathele kwibhande elincinci le-rubber. Kwaye awukwazi ukumbamba ukukhala xa ethatha le nyathelo ibe yintlanzi engama-40 emitha. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza awukwazi ukuzibamba kwaye uchaze ngokunyanisekileyo kumntu onokuzonwabisa onjalo ngawe. Kwaye, ewe, uyambonisa ukuba azinwele iinwele ezabonakala ngexesha leentlanganiso kunye naye. Emva koko umntu uya kukukhathalela isikhashana kwaye ngokuthobela uhleli eceleni kwakho, ejonge indlela obopha ngayo inqama yesixhenxe ebusika. Kodwa le nto ayikwazi ukuqhubeka ixesha elide-kungekudala kuya kuba neyantlukwano, echazwe yinyaniso yokuba awukwazi ukwenza nto kunye, ukuba uhlukile kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanakukwazi ukuzilungela ngokukhawuleza baze bafumane phakathi kwezinto ezithandanayo kunye neqabane labo eliza kumkholisa naye. Abo baphumelela kuyo bangathi banethamsanqa: baqala ukubandakanyeka kwinto enye, ukuya kwimisebenzi ethile ngokuzonwabisa kwaye bakhulume ngeeyure. Ezinye izibini eziphantse ziphantse ziphumele.

Kukho amanye amanqaku ambalwa angabhubhisa ubomi bomtshato wesibini esitshatileyo. Ngokomzekelo, olu lwalamano kunye nolwangaphambili. Ngamanye amaxesha kuvela ukuba ezinye zezi zibini zinxibelelwano oluhle kunye nabangaphambili. Baya kudibana kunye ne cafe ngeyure okanye ezimbini, ncokola kwaye uphuze ikhofi. Akumangalisi ukuba le meko yimiba ayimkelekanga nakwezinye isiqingatha kwaye ibangela umona omkhulu. Kuphi "isiqingatha" sokuqala esabela kwisithukuthelo: "Andiyi kuyeka ukuthetha nabo. Bangabantu abalungileyo! ". Kodwa apha kufuneka uzame ukuqonda iqabane lakho kwaye uzibeke endaweni yakhe. Ngaba ungathanda ukuba kwindawo efanayo, uhlale ekhaya uze ulindele umntu ovela kwikhafefe, apho ephikisana khona nentombi? Nayi impendulo kwintetho yakho, kungcono ukuphula zonke izibophelelo zakudala uze uqale ubomi obutsha.

Phakathi kwezizathu. Kubangele ukuxabana ngebini, kunokubakho ukuhlaziywa okuninzi, njengemali, ukubonakala komlingane (mhlawumbi unomnye ebomini bakho wacinga ukuba kulungele ukuba unwele, kwaye akufanelekile ukuba unxibe, kodwa umfana ukungaguquki ngokukhetha kwakhe), ubudlelwane kunye nosapho ... Kutheni sawabiza ngokuthi "amancinci"? Ngenxa yokuba isixa sabo asibalulekiyo. Ukuba uyamthanda intombi yakho, uya kufunda ukuthobela kunye nesidima ukuphuma kwiimeko zobomi ezinzima. Yaye ubomi bakho buya kugcwala iimvakalelo ezintle kunye nolonwabo olungapheliyo!