"Xa uhlala phantsi usebenza," umntu uyazikhathaza, azibhubhise yena, impilo yakhe kunye nolwalamano lwakhe. Ihlabathi elikhulu kunye nayo yonke intlukwano yalo iyancipha ukuya kwimisebenzi emincinci yemveliso, ekujoliswe kuyo yonke ingqalelo. Yintoni exhalabileyo ngoku: intsapho, izalamane, abahlobo-sele zibonwayo zingabalulekanga njengoko kunjalo. Umsebenzi ngokuya ube yindlela yokuphila. Kubonakala kumntu ukuba uhamba phambili, kodwa enyanisweni uhamba ngesangqa. Kulungile, ukuba umntu osebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ulawula ukwenza umsebenzi kwaye ahlawule imizamo esetshenzisiweyo ngomvuzo ophezulu. Kodwa naluphi na uhlobo lwentsapho luyabandezeleka ngenxa yokukhathazeka-isifo okanye isimo sengqondo: ukuxhatshazwa kwengqondo kulahlekile, abafazi bahamba ngokunyuka komnye nomnye, abantwana bakhula bengakhange baqwalaselwe ngubaba kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba ebomini babo.
Sisiphi isizathu?
Isizathu sisoloko sisengqondweni kwaye, mhlawumbi, ingcambu yaso ebuntwaneni. Umntu ojongene nomdla unokukwazi ukubeka iimbopheleleko ezinjalo: indlela yokwandisa ukuzithemba (ukuba umntu ulahlekelwe ithemba kuye):
intsingiselo yobomi (ukuba umntu akafuni ukuphazamiseka ekufuneni ezinye iingcinga);
ukukwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba (umzekelo, ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli kubuhlobo);
indlela yokuzonwabisa, ukuziva ukuphakama ngokomzwelo, kunye nokunyuka kwe-adrenaline. Kuzo zonke iinketho, kuqhelekile ukuphepha iingxaki zomntu, ukukhathazeka kwansuku zonke, ukucacisa ubudlelwane, oko kukuthi, ukususela kwengcinezelo yengqondo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ingxaki ye-workaholism - isifo okanye isimo sengqondo kukuba u-workaholic, njengomthetho, uyonwabile ngobomi obunjalo, uzijonga enempilo kwaye akazimisele ukutshintsha nantoni na. Iingxoxo eziqhelekileyo kwesi sihloko aziqhelanga nakwiimeko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungcono ukubuyela kwingcali, kodwa unokulwa.
Njengoko uzama u-workaholism, cela umyeni ukuba atye idayimane, eziphezulu eziza kuchaza izigaba ezine zobomi kumntu omdala: umzimba (impilo), umsebenzi, usapho, oonxibelelwano (umnxibelelwano). Ingakanani ixesha layo langempela elinikwe phakathi kwezi zixhobo? Oku kuya kwenza ukuba kuboneke ngokucacileyo ukuba kukho i-bias ecacileyo (kuphela i-100%, inani elilinganayo kummandla ngamnye li-25%).
Iyiphi intlawulo umyeni wakho ahlawula ngokunyamekela ngokweqile? Ukubandezeleka kwimpilo? Usapho? Umsebenzi ukubuyisela ibhalansi kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi.
Ikhono lokuphumla kunye ne-workaholism - isakhono esifanayo nokukwazi ukuqhuba imoto. Oku kungafundwa ngokuhamba ngamanyathelo afanayo njengoko kwenziwa esinye isakhono.
Khumbula: kubalulekile ukugcina rhoqo, ukuze ukuphumla kube ngumkhuba.
Ukuba umfazi onothando uthetha ngomnandi - akusiyo nje injabulo, kodwa kuyimfuneko. Ukuyeka ingxoxo, okanye ukukhawuleza ukunxibelelana, indoda izisa yena iingxaki ezininzi: umnqweno wesithandwa sokuthetha akayi kubuya kuye, kuphela kwifomu ephosakeleyo. Kodwa ungayiqonda njani umyalezo womntu ongenanto?
Ukuthula njengentlanzi
Esinye sezizathu zokunceda ukuthula akufuni ukugxeka. Nayiphi na ingcaciso ingasetyenziswa njengezixhobo. Amabali ukususela ebuntwaneni, ubudlelwane emsebenzini, iziganeko kwintsapho yabazali - zonke ezi ngcaciso kwizakhono zabesetyhini abanezakhono ziba "izibonda zentliziyo" zomyeni. Ukuvakalelwa kwengozi kunye nokukhathazeka - isifo okanye isimo sengqondo sigqibe ngokuhlambalaza aze amthulise: akukho lwazi - ayikho indlela yokuphambuka.
Akagcini nje ethule, kodwa akafuni ukuphulaphula umfazi (umzekelo, ukuhamba kude okanye ukubeka i-headphone). Ukuphendula okukhuselayo, indlela yayo yokuthi cha. Mhlawumbi uyayibona loo meko njengophulaphulo lwendawo , imingcele yengqondo.
Nika indoda ithuba lokuba uzive ukhululekile.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthula komntu onomsebenzi osebenzayo uyindlela efanelekileyo yokubonisa isohlwayo, ukubonisa ukuphulwa: umzekelo, ukuba uthe cwaka kunye nawe, kodwa ngelo xesha uxoxisana kakuhle nabanye abantu. Ukuphoqeleka umfazi ukuba azikholise, uyaziqinisekisa, ukwandisa ukubaluleka kwakhe. Musa ukukhohlisa. Okanye ulinde ade akhulume, okanye acinge ngokukhululekileyo aze axoxe ngolu hlobo - njengabantu abadala. Ingaba kukho isihloko esidinga isigqibo, kwingxoxo apho ahamba khona aze angene kwisigxina?
Ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uphendule impendulo, yenza okusemandleni akho ukufumana. Indlela ixhomekeke kwiingcamango zakho kunye namathuba. Qinisekisa ukuba ufuna ukunyanzelisa. Ukuba unomonde, kufuneka ube ngaphakathi ukulungele ukuva naluphi na impendulo - kokubili okulungileyo kunye nombi.